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    Okay, I really want to be a dancer. I work twice a week for an all nude club and love the cash, people, everything! The problem is my family has a very negative opinion of dancers. When I mentioned I "may become" a dancer to my mom, she flipped out. She started screaming at me calling me a whore and asking if I have any morals. I am grandpa's girl, and asked him and he said "dancers are the next step from a hooker." I am not sure where to turn. My family means a lot to me and I know nothing I do will change their opinion. I tried taking them to a club and they refused and I brought a friend over who leter revealed she was a dancer and my family told her she was a slut.

    So my question is...what do I do? I am a rock in a hard spot and want to dance and keep my family's respect.
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    Your family does mean a lot to you,but they should not be calling you a whore and such.You are an adult now,and need to start living for yourself.You gotta make yourself happy first.

    EDIT TO ADD:Your family seems very closed minded and needs to wake up to today's times.
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    Not going to happen. Dance under the radar if you want to do it. Sorry.

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    I'm sorry to hear you are in this situation. BUT, if your family cannot or will not help you with expenses for school, etc....keep dancing. Ignore them. You are an adult. Move out, move away.
    You know what's funny, I had a lot of drama from my family over my job, but a few people think it's cool now. They just can't be openly accepting or other family members will hold it against them. So, not everyone will have a hard time with it.
    Good luck.

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    I say u talk with the family and ask them to make a compromise in helping pay for the bills and if they say no then tell them that they should love you and that they should support you in whatever you do as long as you arent doing anything illegal. But if you dont want to, then you should just keep it on the low. That way you make you money and meet new people and you also keep your family happy. But you must be prepared that your cover can be blown at any time and hell will freeze over with your family life.

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    That will never work sumotek. You can't change someone's deep set beliefs so quickly. No one NEEDS the income from stripping. Her family will tell her to go work at Walmart and struggle like everyone else. Hell, I worked minimum wage all through college with a little family help until the end, then began to strip.

    If they even told her friend she was a slut, its obvious they don't even have the courtesy to treat a guest in their home with respect. Family is important..important to keep at arm's length

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adara
    When I mentioned I "may become" a dancer to my mom....
    Wow.... you and I have two COMPLETELY different attitudes toward what we tell our Mom's, don't we? My mother wasn't very happy the first time I wore a short skirt without opaque hose.

    LOL.... I'm trying to imagine telling my mother I was ever a stripper..... wow.... no... I simply can't imagine doing that. Maybe if we discover she has terminal cancer and I simply want to help her end the pain and suffering. I'm sure the news that I ever danced naked on stage would send her to a quick grave.

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    You really shouldnt have told your family you wanted to be a dancer until you found out their opinion on dancers and stripping.

    If you're close to your family and you want it to stay that way i suggest you tell them you changed your mind and start dancing without their knowledge. They dont want to know their little girl is taking her clothes off in front of strange men. it might be lying but it's a lie that has benefits.

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    Keep dancing and don't tell them anything. It's obvious by their reactions that they would not be pleased if they knew. It up to you to decide what's more important, their approval or doing what you want to do. You are a grown woman after all.

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    My family doesn't know I dance because if they did they would judge me and worry alot about my safety too. They have sterotypes about exotic dancers but haven't visited a club. I told them I'm a cocktail waitress (at a regular bar) and that I like my job and I'm doing fine. I agree you're an adult so you can make your own decisions. Also your family isn't helping you out for money and dancing is one of the better paying jobs we can get without alot of school. My family wasn't supporting me either. My mom has alot of money problems esp. this month (she wants to of get a 2nd job) so I'm going to help her out a bit as a surprise. It feels great to be able to be able to help my family-even if they don't know where the money comes from.

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    if they, your family, are still supporting you financially, sorry to say this but they have a say. If they aren't supporting you financially and you don't live under their roof then do it like Kat said under the radar.

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    Whatever job you have to support yourself, your family should always love you and be there for you, not critisize you for making ends meet. You should do what YOU want to do, because it is YOUR LIFE, not theirs. Make yourself happy!

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    I told my mom and when I did, it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders, she told me that she supported my decison and was 100% supportive of me.

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    my mom is a hardcore conservative christian. i haven't told her.

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    I'm feeling very lucky right now to have a mom who knows and accepts what I o for a living. It was hard at first but she got used to the idea. I haven't lived with her for years and at some point I was homeless, so she knows how hard it is to make a living.

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    Its like trying to tell a priest of the catholic faith that abortion is fine and dandy. Not gonna happen. Unfortunately, the media and a few other sources has painted a negative image of the life of a stripper. They probably think you give bjs in the back room for a dollar. Sorry to be so blunt there but it might be true.

    I say move out and fully support yourself. If you want to do this then go ahead and do it but if you end up not liking it for any reason have a back up plan or another skill. You might end up loving it and retiring from it? Do what makes you happy. Youre family loves you but can only see the image that has been forced upon them. Its not their fault. Dont waste your breath reasoning with them it will only get worse.
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    I mentioned trying to work as a NIGHT CLUB DANCER to my mom and she got weird and quiet. I'm talking the girl who is up on a podium in a club with all her important parts covered up. My mom will never change her opinions about this stuff. She has a problem with women being sex objects or something. She hates Victoria's Secret, etc.

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