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    Hi Friends,

    My Bf bought me a very expensive Omega watch as a gift 4 days back.

    Now he wants me to join him in a group session with two other couples who are our friends at on 31st Dec/ 1st Jan as some kind of a new year celebration.

    I dont really feel very comfortable as I those two couples are not the ones who make you feel terribly comfortable. Other matching couples and I dont think I would mind.

    Since my bf has spent so much for me so recently, dont wanna break his heart either.

    What do I do?
    Lots of Love,

    Jenna Mitchell
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    Default Re: Do I do my Bf's bidding?

    Believe it or not the 2 are mutually exclusive. So what if he got you a gift recently-wasn't it Christmas anyway? Just because he got you and expensive gift does not mean you have to do something that makes you uncomfortable. A good bofriend will understand and would never want to put you in a situation that you didn't feel right with.

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    When I give a gift, it is to show appreciation for who someone is...what they are. There are no strings attached to a gift. It is not a contract...and it is not a request to do something else. I would never dream of asking a loved one to engage in an activity that made her uncomfortable....and if she did so out of a feeling of guilt, I would be devastated.

    ..........and if it is going to "break his heart"....to not screw around with someone else...then I would suggest a little re-evaluation. But that's just me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperjenna

    Now he wants me to join him in a group session with two other couples who are our friends at on 31st Dec/ 1st Jan as some kind of a new year celebration.

    I dont really feel very comfortable as I those two couples are not the ones who make you feel terribly comfortable. Other matching couples and I dont think I would mind.
    Not to pry very deep,but is this a lifestyle question???

    If so,you have already answered your own question.
    Its mutual exploration and pleasure.From your post,it sounds like your not enjoying yourself,and its not even party night.
    Communication is and always will be the key to surviving in the lifestyle.You need to express your concerns with your SO and see where it goes from there.
    The way he addresses your concerns will tell you alot about your relationship and its future.
    best of luck,play hard,play safe.

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    are you serious?

    b/c you shouldnt be.

    Do what you want to do b/c thats what you want to do...not because someone gave you money or an expensive gift.

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    Default Re: Do I do my Bf's bidding?

    Everyone just gave you very good advice...especially mojo....hehe.....um, you should never have to compromise your own beliefs to make someone else happy. If the gift is his way of bribeing you into doing this, than you really should rethink this relationship, and find someone who is more into the life/style you want to lead.

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    If you are comfortable doing it, then do it. Don't be compelled to do something just because your boyfriend gave you something extravagant. Great thing about living in this country is our freedom of choice. A good boyfriend would understand either way.

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    why don't you just tell him that those people make you uncomfortable? Tell him you like so-and-so better.


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    I must agree with the others. A gift shouldn't be given for the other person to expect something in return. If you feel uncomfortable with this, I'd speak up now before you go into this and regret it later.


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    I agree with everyone else. You shouldn't feel obligated to do something you're uncomfortable with - sexual exploration is supposed to fun for BOTH members of the couple. A gift has zero to do with it. If I felt my bf would be heartbroken because I didn't want to do a group session with the couple of his choice I'd have to dump him.

    Tell him you're not comfy with those people and you'd prefer to try that sort of thing with people you're comfortable with. Don't let him pressure you into an uncomfortable situation. As already posted, a gift has no strings attached!

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    Hi Friends,

    Based on the responses here, I told my boyfriend that I wouldnt be comfortable with those people. He was most appreciative of that. We immediately changed our plans, and am now spending new years eve and the new year with just the two of us. I thought he may be put off by my response and he didnt take a second to agree with me. I was most touched!
    We are planning to spend the time at Hotel Bellagio at Las Vegas.

    Cant thank you enough for YOU told me that I should do my own bidding.
    Lots of Love,

    Jenna Mitchell
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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperjenna
    Hi Friends,

    Based on the responses here, I told my boyfriend that I wouldnt be comfortable with those people. He was most appreciative of that. We immediately changed our plans, and am now spending new years eve and the new year with just the two of us. I thought he may be put off by my response and he didnt take a second to agree with me. I was most touched!
    We are planning to spend the time at Hotel Bellagio at Las Vegas.

    Cant thank you enough for YOU told me that I should do my own bidding.
    Good for you!! Don't ever feel pressured to do something you don't want to. Especially when it concerns your body!



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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperjenna
    Hi Friends,

    Based on the responses here, I told my boyfriend that I wouldnt be comfortable with those people. He was most appreciative of that. We immediately changed our plans, and am now spending new years eve and the new year with just the two of us. I thought he may be put off by my response and he didnt take a second to agree with me. I was most touched!
    We are planning to spend the time at Hotel Bellagio at Las Vegas.

    Cant thank you enough for YOU told me that I should do my own bidding.
    For all you know, it could have been a fidelity test on his part.

    "Give her enough money, will she do it? Does she feel obligated?"

    Anyone else think this when you read the first post - or am I The Inquisitor?

    I am glad it all turned out nicely for you. Sounds like you have a good guy.

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    Thanks all of you, once again. Shows the power of good advice.
    Lots of Love,

    Jenna Mitchell
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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperjenna
    Thanks all of you, once again. Shows the power of good advice.
    Glad its working out for ya!

    When in Vegas,if your still interested in the lifestyle,try searching with NASCA for clubs full of like minded people.

    Hope you guys enjoy the countdown.

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