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    Hey! I'm just wondering, if you go into a club and see a girl you want to dance with, do you wait for her to come up to you? And if she doesn't come up to you will you go up to her and ask her or just sit there waiting and hoping until its time to go and leave in a mood, or just get a dance with the next dancer who asks you when you're tired of waiting? Sometimes i'll bump into guys on their way out who say "why didn't you speak to me, i would have got a dance with you if you did", and i just think, why the hell didn't he just come up and ask?! But other times I'll be speaking to a guy and another customer will come up and ask me if I'm available for a dance - this i love, i will always be available for a dance for someone else who can't be assed with conversation either, and just want to get what they came for in the first place.
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    I leave larger than normal($10-20) stage tips to indicate my interest.
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    I wait. Sometimes I tip larger than usual amounts depending on how close I am to the stage. I think it would make sense for any dancer who isn't tied up to make the full rounds of their club between sets, just in case.

    Don't forget, your money-making strategies and customer relations aren't that apparent to us. If you're sitting by yourself or with another dancer, we might assume it's because you don't WANT to dance at that moment (especially if you haven't approached us at all). If you're sitting with some guy you've been with for 20 minutes with no dances going on, I might assume that you've got some arrangement with the guy whereas you might really just be sitting there hoping to sell some dances. Plus, it's a bit rude for me to walk up and interrupt someone else's conversation (even if it's appropriate in the unusual environment of a strip club).

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    It really depends on how much time I have to spend at the club. If I'm in a hurry, I'll usually do a quick scan, and to the extent possible, find a dancer for a dance. However, as Lurker mentioned, its difficult to determine when a dancer is, in fact, available for a dance. Many times a dancer is either sitting by themselves looking bored, talking to a customer for what seems like eons, sitting in a group with other dancers, looking like they are taking a break. In each of these situations, its uncomfy and seems rude for a customer to simply barge over and ask for a dance.

    Life is almost always much simpler for both dancer and customer if the dancer takes the initiative and asks the guys if they are interested in a dance. But, if there's a particular dancer I like, I'll generally increase my stage tip to let them know I'm interested. Sometimes, the dancers pick up on this signal, some are woefully oblivious

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    Why wait for a dancer? They want to take your money!

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    (Seize the Dancer)

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    If it's a regular she knows why I'm there. If it's a new girl who has piqued my interest, I will give her a larger tip at the stage, maybe go up a couple of times and tip. This will generally get her to come over to me at the bar. I never get a dance from a new girl that I haven't seen on stage yet.
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    If I want a dance from you badly enough, I will get up, chase you down and ask you. I will leave you alone while you're with another customer, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lurker
    I wait. Sometimes I tip larger than usual amounts depending on how close I am to the stage. I think it would make sense for any dancer who isn't tied up to make the full rounds of their club between sets, just in case.

    Don't forget, your money-making strategies and customer relations aren't that apparent to us. If you're sitting by yourself or with another dancer, we might assume it's because you don't WANT to dance at that moment (especially if you haven't approached us at all). If you're sitting with some guy you've been with for 20 minutes with no dances going on, I might assume that you've got some arrangement with the guy whereas you might really just be sitting there hoping to sell some dances. Plus, it's a bit rude for me to walk up and interrupt someone else's conversation (even if it's appropriate in the unusual environment of a strip club).

    Ask me. I don't bite.
    Hmm. This is a good point, isn't it.

    I suppose it's part of human nature - most people don't like having to make the first move, even in a place where girls are trying to sell dances and guys are trying to buy dances.

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    When I see a girl who appeals to me, I will usually ask her to join me whenever I get a chance. Usually I'll ask heer while she's dancing on stage when I go up to tip. I'd rather approach the dancer than the other way around.

    I've often run into a problem though which is very irratating - that's when I ask a girl to join me, she says yes, but when her stage dance ends she joins someone else. Then I'm never sure what to do because I don't know if she's on her way and just stopped to say hello to another guy or what. When this happens I'll often just leave rather than wait or look for another girl, which means that her behavior has cost another dancer some money. Ladies, please don't tell a guy you're going to join him when you have no intention of doing so, it's very rude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LapOfLuxury
    If I want a dance from you badly enough, I will get up, chase you down and ask you. I will leave you alone while you're with another customer, though.
    Ditto.

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    Generally, I will indicate my interest by tipping well at the stage, and asking you to come over and see me later. If I don't see you on stage, but maybe across the room, I will likely either send a waitress over or will approach myself. However, I will not approach you if you are sitting with another customer, or even if you are sitting with a group of other dancers talking.
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    I generally stick to a few dancers who have proven how good their lap dancing abilities to me in the past and they know that unless I'm there to see someone else specifically that I will not say no to them. Once in a while I'll see a new girl who puts on an exceptional stage show and I'll tell her to come see me when she's done as I'm tipping her.

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    I've often run into a problem though which is very irratating - that's when I ask a girl to join me, she says yes, but when her stage dance ends she joins someone else.
    Ha ha, i am so guilty of that. its not because i'm snobbing the customer or anything, its simply because i have the shortest attention span in world and i get distracted too easily! i do it all the time! i just forget! and by the time i remember he's either gone with another dancer or gone home. I always feel guilty though. I'm still trying to work on that area. I hope this quote thing worked i'm not really sure how to do it. Apologies for anything that is wrong, and if it is wrong can someone tell me how to do it, i'm getting really frustrated!
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    Wait until either
    a) You approach our table
    b) You walk nearby and I'll try to make eye contact. If you walk right past our table, then I'll say something, but I won't yell across the room (aside: you guys tend to be really bad at checking the eye contact thing as you're walking around, this may be a result of your routine where you're working your way systematicly through the club, but remember to keep your eyes peeled when you're doing it)
    c) Our waitress brings us a round, and then ask her to tell you we'd like you to come over.
    d) Approach, but only if the other options haven't made themselves available within a reasonable period of time.

    I completely agree with the whole "not wanting to interrupt conversations" thing. It may be 'acceptable' etiquette in a SC, but we don't generally like to do it. From a patron's point of view, it annoys me when a dancer is talking to me and some guy comes over and interrupts (which then breaks the flow of your pitch and decreases the chance of you getting a dance from me - I have a few friends who are current/former dancers, so I try to not screw things up for you as much as possible)

    Additional aside: If a waitress lets you know that a table has asked for you, and you're currently too busy to do a dance, it's a good idea to pop over for a second and let us know that it might be a while, but that you will come by when you can. We will then be (mostly) satisfied and wait. If, on the other hand, you file it in the back of your head in the 'to do later' file - after a while we assume that you've forgotten/are ignoring us, get annoyed, and give our money to someone else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FONDL
    I've often run into a problem though which is very irratating - that's when I ask a girl to join me, she says yes, but when her stage dance ends she joins someone else. Then I'm never sure what to do because I don't know if she's on her way and just stopped to say hello to another guy or what. When this happens I'll often just leave rather than wait or look for another girl, which means that her behavior has cost another dancer some money. Ladies, please don't tell a guy you're going to join him when you have no intention of doing so, it's very rude.
    It's happened to me too many times too.

    I'll approach the dancer, but never if she is talking to another customer or if talking to a whole group of dancers. If just 2 dancers are talking then I'll approach the one that I am interested in. Or if I see a dancer that interests me; I'll flag her down or make the come here motion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvard
    ...Many times a dancer is ... sitting in a group with other dancers, looking like they are taking a break. In each of these situations, its uncomfy and seems rude for a customer to simply barge over and ask for a dance.
    This is why I try to never sit around with other dancers talking. It sends the wrong signal to potential customers.
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    The dancers sitting in that group will invariably be the ones bitching about how much they made at the end of the shift.
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    Usually I will wait until a dancer in my area catches my eye, then make eye contact, then motion for her to come over if I'm interested in getting a dance from her. If she's on stage, I'll tip her and point out where I'm sitting and ask her to come over. At that point, I'd prefer if she told me if she has to complete her stage rotation, or has another customer waiting, so I can either cut bait or let her know I'll wait for her.

    If all else fails I'll hail a waitress or preferably a host/bouncer who can locate the dancer or let me know if she's occupied.
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    I too used to worry that when a girl is in a group looking like she is on break or something that I am bothering them. I have gotten over it from experience and I dont think I have ever had anyone not be happy I came over. But there is still a worry, and that is I feel badly when I go over to a few girls sitting together and I had had my eye on one of them that appealed to me but a different girl starts up most of the chatting and seems more interested. Now I have to find a gentle way to start up conversation with the girl I wanted without looking like I am ignoring the other girl. Again I seem to be able to accomplish all this now but still hope that most of the girls do understand that some are attractive to some guys and others to other guys. My time is usually pretty limited so I am the guy who walks in, buys a beer, then scans for the girl I would be into and I proceed to get a dance within the first ten mins or so. IF this works out and she IS nice, I sometimes stay with her the entire time.

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    My guidelines:

    (1) I will tip better then average while the dancer is on stage. At most clubs I have been to the dancers generally walk the room and thank the customers who tipped them while they were on stage - at least the ones they remember, so I try to make sure they remember me. Besides, if a dancer is looking to sell dances - it just makes sense to approach the customers who have already expressed an interest by tipping them while on stage.

    (2) If I see a dancer I am interested in, I will often tip the waitress or bouncer to go let them know I am interested when the dancer is free. Often I will tip the waitress to go tip the dancer on stage - they both get a tip, they usually seem to have fun with it, and it is usually very entertaining.

    (3) I personally would never approach a dancer when she was with another customer...

    (4) Dancers who approch me and just start out asking me to get a dance really just irritate me. The whole concept here is selling a fantasy. Dancers that approach me and say hello, are in a good mood, are upbeat, ask to sit down - and start up a conversation always get at least a dance out of me. The dancers that act like I have 5 seconds to have them dance or I don't deserve to be there always get asked to move on.

    Just my $0.02....

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