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    I need some relationship advice......Do you think that when someone is trying to give a relationship with you another try would it ok and sound sincere if they slept with someone the PREVIOUS night?

    Why does he leave me alone is his house? All Im gonna do is snoop. Anyways, He says he wants to give US another chance and make things better this time. You ladies know the story........But he just had some chic over LAST night and I found him on several singles sites. He says he loves me and wants to be with me forever.
    Do you think he is just keeping his options open or should I just take a chance at what could be? Im so confused and need a little smart advice on relationships.
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    Anyone who is really interested in making things work with you would NOT be seeing other people. Just walk away now. That's just MHO. It would be different if this person said...I still want to be FB, but I'm going to be seeing other people.

    Things like this just piss me off...

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    I make you mad? I was just confused about this whole thing... I feel like hes taking advantage of how I am now with relationships.
    Thanks for the advice though I never mind even if it is very blunt which is ok.
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    Speaking as a guy - he's full of shit (and in my opinion begging for a beatdown from your mates )

    He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Ask yourself this question - How would he react if the situation was reversed. (going with your mind, not your emotional reaction to give him the benefit of the doubt)

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    i think she meant that he is treating you bad, which in turn makes her angry.


    Yes, i believe you should drop him too.

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    Drop the loser like a hot potato. You deserve better.

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    You already know the answer.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
    -Humphrey Bogart

    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
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    Nah, He's not sincere.

    Dump him and find someone better.


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    MJ said it best.

    If you have to ask the question...
    Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.

    William F. Buckley, Jr.

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    I am having issues with whether or not I want to be with my boyfriend and I'm not doing that type of stuff. If he really means he cares about you like he says he wouldn't be doing that stuff. RUN from him!

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    What everyone else said

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    He sounds like a real winner.....NOT! Just lose the guy.

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    Allow him tigersMilk, he's chattin out of his a**. The man is just trying to use you as a backup so that he knows there is always gona be someone there for him, some men a are like that.
    Give the guy a lollypop and send him on his way.

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    Sounds like the old "gotta have a pair and a spare" philosophy. Do you really want to be the "spare?" ...or even one of the "pair?"

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    get rid of him. He wouldn't have been with any one else if he loved you. You deserve better. My advice to you: go find someone else and never look back.

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    Before I give u advice, I need to understand the situation a little better. First of all, how old is 'boyfriend?' Second, do you have physical evidence that he is sleeping with someone else? Besides seeing him on internet dating sites, etc. And why did u separate in the first place?

    But either way, from the way it sounds, HE'S NOT THAT INTO U. Did u ever hear the quote
    "Your actions are speaking so loudly, I can't hear what you're saying...." or something like that? Someone who really loves and wants to be with you is going to bendover backwards and turn their world upside down to show u they changed and really want to be with u. But the way it sounds..........he's full of shit and he's not that into u. Sounds like he's more or so trying to manipulate u for whatever reason and u should take everyone else's advice on this board and just say, "It's over, you're fired."
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    Look, you already know what he is up to. I think you should give him one chance. Not sure how strong the feelings are on your part, but you have been with him, so you must feel something for him and if that is strong enough and you believe him, then hey - give it one more shot.

    Tell him up front, he is gonna lose you because you don't like whatever it is U don't like, if it continues. Tell him it's against your better judgement based on his track record and his slumming... singles sites? what a slut he is! Esp. when considering he is with such a babelicous chick like U!

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    Hes 30 years old. Grad from college two degrees...but even the smartest people can be retards.
    I did see tampons in his trash; maybe he didnt sleep with her. But, he has openly told me someone was there the previous night and he has had more than 3 sexual encounters with all different women since weve been apart. (Someones getting and STD test and its not me) Oh yea, he would often call me and make me feel like a used "whore". He denied he ever said those words. I wish he would own up to his mistakes.
    We separated because we didnt get along and we were both very very mean to eachother oh did I mention he never trusted me.

    Yea, I kinda knew the answer.....and you guys are right I really dont want to be someones "backup gf". I was thinking "when is the next time someone is going to say these wonderful things to me?"........I think if I hold out for what I really want someday they will come. Im still learning alot about relationships and what it is to be REALLY in love with someone. Thanks everyone!
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    If he wants to make a go of it with you then he more than likely would not have slept with someone the night before. I would definately drop him before you get too involved. You will find it more difficult to leave if you stay and get anymore involved. This being the second time for you two it seems that you are pretty much involved already.

    I don't feel he is sincere. Ask him if he would be upset if you slept with someone behind his back. then tell him you know about the other night but don't let him know you were snooping (every body must snoop at times to find the truth unfortunately).

    It does not seem as if you could believe what he says so don't invite an conversation that will turn into an argument just say your 2 cents and leave it and find some one better and trustworthyl

    about the single sights. Knowing that he is sleeping around I would say that he wants to continue to meet other people and be with you at the same time.

    Sucks but that is the way I see it.

    If he was not sleeping around some guys just like to be a member of them. Not that they will contact anyone but they like looking at pictures of women single or not, sexy or not. Go figure!!!! lol

    I met my SO through a single sight that you pay for. He has stopped that one but keeps getting personals through email. I know he does not contact these girls but he has not dropped the service either. I really don't care because I trust him. He loves looking at woman nude or other, so I keep it intersting for him.!!!!! (and for me)))

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    Hun of course he is keeping his options open. All of them. He IS a cheater. Why do you have to ask this question if you know he sleeps around, has his profile on singles sites, and you will snoop on him.

    That will never be a relationship...Never.

    He wants to fuck around with as many as he can. And you run the risk of getting an STD..Quit him now, you will feel better later i promise.

    Pamela

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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk
    Hes 30 years old. Grad from college two degrees...but even the smartest people can be retards.
    I did see tampons in his trash; maybe he didnt sleep with her. But, he has openly told me someone was there the previous night and he has had more than 3 sexual encounters with all different women since weve been apart. (Someones getting and STD test and its not me) Oh yea, he would often call me and make me feel like a used "whore". He denied he ever said those words. I wish he would own up to his mistakes.
    We separated because we didnt get along and we were both very very mean to eachother oh did I mention he never trusted me.

    Yea, I kinda knew the answer.....and you guys are right I really dont want to be someones "backup gf". I was thinking "when is the next time someone is going to say these wonderful things to me?"........I think if I hold out for what I really want someday they will come. Im still learning alot about relationships and what it is to be REALLY in love with someone. Thanks everyone!
    Love is pretty tricky.

    But you'll find someone that's going to love you enough not to treat you like that.
    He is just a penis.


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    He is just a penis
    LOL..that sums it up nicely. All that crap about growing old together is out the door when he has actions like that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk
    I make you mad? I was just confused about this whole thing... I feel like hes taking advantage of how I am now with relationships.
    Thanks for the advice though I never mind even if it is very blunt which is ok.
    No...you don't make me mad...his actions do. However, should you choose to stay with him...then I'll be mad at you.

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    Ding Dong the prick is gone...too bad, so sad but he's treating you bad.

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    Kick em to the curb!the Scum!!

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