Is it wise to make friends with the other girls or should I just distance myself?
Is it wise to make friends with the other girls or should I just distance myself?
I think, personally, you should just maintain a "polite distance". Be nice and courteous to all of the other girls...but the less friends you have there, the less drama there will be.
Besides, you are all there to make money...not friends.
Just MHO.
Good Point , Thanks (I think I need to write that on my bathroom mirror to remind me b4 I go to work, lol)
I am with Venus on this one. I found that the less other girls know about me personally, the less drama I have to deal with.
I say make friends with the other girls. But when it comes down to the money making time you need to keep your professional distance with the other dancers. It wouldnt hurt in making friends. As long as you keep in mind that you cant be talking to the other dancers all night long. But having friends is a part of life. Just keep in mind that you are in the business to make money.
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Nah, I keep my personal life (Friends, Boyfriends, dates) out of the SC.
You can be nice, and even smile in their faces.....But No, IMO
--Georg Christoph Litchenberg
I find that with strippers, theres a fine line between friends and just being friendly. I like getting to know fellow dancers because if a problem/conflict/or even just question may arise, you know that there's always someone you can ask. Other dancers can be wonderful sources of information if there's any changes in the club, or to warn you of customers to look out for. As far as getting to know dancers on a more personal basis, such as hanging out with them outside the club, it's up to you. It may sound overly paranoid, but when money's involved, it's sometimes difficult to guess people's intentions. I have about 3 close friendships with other dancers that I've kept since I started dancing over 2 years ago, and very glad I did! On another note, however, sometimes introducing a friend to the stripclub scene can be disastrous. A friend of mine wanted to start dancing, so I brought her to my club. Weeks after she started, she would constantly want to compare earnings, etc,. You can guess how long that friendship lasted..
it's good to make allies.
When you dance, you see that there are certain girls that help each other out when they can. That's not really friendship, just business alliances. I have made friends where I work because I've been there so long, and so have some of the other girls, but we really don't hang out after work or anything like that. But that's me being antisocial more than anything else!
I agree with the above posted, you are there to work, not to make friends, and the less drama you get involved with, the more you will be able to put yourself forth in your work.





The more "friends" you have at work, the more potential problems you have. Most girls can't truly be friends with other girls they work with - too much competition. Most girls can be "friends", but IMO it's not worth it - too much drama. Like we always say, you go to work to make money not friends.
it really really depends on the girl...
But i try and keep my personal life out of the clubs.
I agree with what people have been saying about going to work, and not going to make friensds. I used to think very strictly like this, however most of the girls at the club I work at right now seem very nice and friendly. It seems like if someone is havign a bad night they all band together to cheer them up - which is very nice. One of the girls even brings fruit roll ups and if someone is feeling down they get one. Surprisingly it reminds you of the cafeteria in second grade and cheers ya up lol.
I guess I"m not saying we are best friends and discuss our personal lives out side of the club, however we are on a friendly basis for work, and it makes it more encouraging to want to go in that night.
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I'm nice to everyone, but I avoid making friends.. Of course I accidentally make friend along the way, not going out with them by any means, but def. business aliances in the club. this helps with new rules that I wasn't there to learn, or they'll let meknow if a regular of mine had come in when I wasn't there, or who I enjoy dancing with and do the girl shows with.
Never go in acting like your too good for everybody, but try not to talk about personal lives, I worked at a club where the worst girls found out I was engaged and they nicely told my regulars about so that wasn't the nicest scene. I keep things simple just talking about make-up tips, dancing tips, and my dogs...
Good luck and don't get intimidated, it's just that having to compete, with your "friends" really isn't as easy asit sounds.
Please don't lick me, it tickles..
In my experience, it really depends on the people. I'm friendly with all the girls at the club. There are some I don't ever talk to, some I talk to often, and some I just make small talk with. There are some girls who I really like, and some I'm indifferent to. However, there is only one girl I would consider my friend, who I hang out with after work and can really talk to. I didn't go in planning to make friends, but we are just too much alike, and have way too much fun together. Other than that though, I say be nice to people, but don't concern yourself too much with trying hard to make friends...you can't always be sure of others motives, and you want to avoid drama. However, if you do happen to meet someone you get along amazingly with and really like, I don't see any reason to not be friends just because you work together? Does that make sense?
there's beauty in the breakdown


Well, I've got one really good friend at my club...she was the one who convinced me to give this a go. We're very close. Aside from that I'm friendly but I don't hang out with the other girls after work or whatever. Bit hard when you're all competing for the same customer dollar.![]()
Its funny you ask because we have cliques at our club, there is this one dancer who makes the most money, i'm talkin she prints money at the club, the owner loves her because she makes him alot of money and basically when i started there everyone told me about her, so if that girl likes you and excepts you your in, and if she doesn't then your out.
the slutty one




I have found that it is best to not be friend's with someone you work with outside of the club.
Because you are in competition while working it hurt's the friendship and it's really hard when one of you is having a good night at work and the other is not. And then hard feeling's , tension, and gossip arise.
Personally, I think it's too stressful.![]()
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I think this job is unique because we all determine our own indivdual income, and I think most friendships would have difficulty with the money aspect of it.
My club is like a sorrority and we are all close, we have very little management, and we determine as a group which girls will work there and who is too "dirty" for our standards.
but in my experience, being friends with the girls outside of the club is tough because a lot of the conversation is "are you working tonight" "how was last night" "how did YOU do last night" that kind of stuff, and it gets old fast.
as much as I don't like to admit it .. it is true that we are all competing and that makes true friendship difficult





Originally Posted by Emily
I'm with you there Emily. This is how I have and continue to work. Whilst other dancers may have my phone number it is more for business reasons than personal "friendship" reasons. I socialise and such with them at work when it is convienent yet I do not see any of them out-side the club. I prefer not to because I am a little anti-social for a day or two after I've worked 3 nights.
Be friendly with the dancers. Involve yourself in conversations and so forth ... do not be rude. At the same time, keep the friendships at the club. Alot of dancers have drama in their own lives (very very few are "stable") and I do not want drama in my "off" time.... so I prefer to stay friendly yet not be friends.
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