The 'hard-on' thread earlier apparently got a little...heated. I came in at the aftermath of the modding/deleting/editing after emotions cooled down, but it ended up raising an interesting question.
What would you really prefer in a lap dance, an erotic experience or a sexual one?
Some guys clearly want a more sexual experience. They're there to imagine that they're getting laid (or in some cases they're actually looking to get off). On the other hand, some want more of erotic experience. They want to become aroused without it being directly sexual.
This isn't so much about the whole 'extras' debate, although it definitely relates (and I'm sure it will be discussed), so much as it is the general style of dance that you're looking for.
Men, what are you looking for in an 'ideal' lap dance, what's your motivation for the experience?
Ladies, what would you say that the average customer wants? Are you seeing any changing trends and (possibly a redundant question) what would you rather perform?
(I have learnt not to assume answers. That last I would consider obvious, but then I thought abut it. Not only does it take more effort to give a good 'erotic' style dance, as it requires a lot more responsiveness to subtle customer cues, but it is of necessity more intimate - which may be an issue for some.)
While I originally tried to word this question neutrally, I think my attitude comes off - I'm solidly in the 'erotic' group. I don't become sexually aroused when getting dances. This not most definitely not mean that I don't get excited and aroused. But hardcore grinding would make me finish up that dance and then go find somebody else. This is not to say that I want a dancer to stay right away from that area, necessarily. A bit of contact can be a good thing, as long as it is not the objective.
Basically the difference between e.g. sitting on my lap, leaning your whole body against me and writhing slightly (kinda the 'sexual snuggling' thing) and plonking your butt on my groin and thrashing around. It also relates to the approach for a dance as well - if I haven't seen something in your personality that I find attractive, then I'm not going to bother, regardless of how you look. (NB: this isn't directed at the dancers, but using neutral pronouns was getting irritating)
I suspect that there are a lot more guys who prefer this kind of thing than many dancers think, and I'd be interested in your opinions.
I know there's at least a few people out there with strong opinions on this, but I'll let them express themselves, as opposed to doing it for them. So lay on, MacDuff!


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