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    Quote Originally Posted by greenlightprint
    I think it's just that you're in the wrong club because here in Detroit you'd probably do very well.
    See, I heard that there was no money in Detroit for a Black, or a white Dancer...
    Greenlight, what clubs in Detroit would you recommend?







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    Hi! I am new to this site and in no way plan on being a stripper or anything, but I have been to the clubs with my girl friends before. (I'm a girl, too, but now I'm married. And white.) One of the last times I went, there was a black girl working the pole with skills that were totally unmatched by any of the white girls there. I mean, she was awesome. She got more money from me than most of the other girls that night. Plus she had huge, natural boobies which I liked! I'm sorry I don't have any useful advice, but if you can work it, I don't see why you can't make as much as any other girl out there!

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    why don't you guys advertise or have a party? one of my clients has a night here in detroit called nasty but classy they feature male and female entertainment...and They make a ton of doe because they bring the club business on a super slow night and they bring a different crowd because he also runs a website almost like nudeafrica so he brings in that crowd...just an Idea....and the is an observation I have worked with a few clubs doing flyers and what not for their various promotions at the club and they all have the same complaint the girl don't pass out flyers even for their own parties and they are lazy...just 1 brothas thoughts

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    as far as detroit clubs try Deja Vu, Bouzuki (or whatever the hell u spell it), a few burb clubs are good like pantheon real upscale...and a fe by the airport but those are all white clubs...as far as black I think platinum still bangs, sting is cool, le elegant & secret city are not new but under new management they are ok also

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    I know for a fact that it isn't just white guys that are "iffy" about getting dances from black girls. I know black guys that refuse to get dances from black girls, saying "I can get that anytime...I'm here for white girls!".

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    I had to answer this. It's what made me stop lurking and join. I'm mixed myself and work at "white" clubs and have always been in the top 3 if not #1 in dances.

    I dont' look at myself as being any less than anyone else. The other black ladies at the club always hate me because I make just as much if not more than the white girls. Well, all the advice I'm going to give I would give to anyone, reagrdless of color.

    1. Don't sit aroud complaining all night. There's money to be made. No one's going to make any money sitting in a place that the customers can't see you at. Take advantage of the fact that they are not on the floor.

    2. Keep your body tight. Hit the gym, or throw the Tae Bo tape in at least 3-4 times a week. When you know your body is right, you have confidence. I've seen some of the ugliest dancers make money because they had that "yes, I'm all that " look.

    3. Make sure you choose the right costumes for your body and skin tone. If you seem to make alot of money in blue, get more blue outfits. Take the time to see what looks good on you (skirts, shorts, dresses) and capitalize on it.

    4. Keep your hair looking good. I don't care if you like to wear your hair natural. It's a fact that long hair makes the most money. You can be Lauren Hill at home. Invest in a good wig or weave.

    5. Take the time to get your hands and feet done. Some guys have foot fetishes and it can get you a customer for life. Regardless, YES men, look at your feet. You can get a mani/pedi for $20. You'll make that back in a dance or 2, and it will give you a bit more confidence. There's nothing worse than sitting with a customer and realizing that your toes look like corn chips. You'll feel like cousin It.

    6. Go to Victoria's Secret and pick up some lotions and sprays. Smelling good is something that is non-negotiable. Vanilla always hooks them...;-)

    7. Walk around your house naked. It will give you more confidence. When you're on stage, you have to act like your Angelina Jolie, even if your Jennifer Aniston.

    8. Learn some pole tricks and or get some dancing lessons. They have classes and DVD's to help. You can even get a pole for your house. Pole tricks help your stage money and looking good on stage directly correlates to your lap dances. Costumes work well here. And I dont' mean just a g-string and a triangle top. Get a schoolgirl outfit and dance to "Hit Me Baby One More Time" with your hair in pigtails and a lollipop. (You get the idea.) Be slow with it, make them want you. Bt the time your naked or down to the top and bottom, you'll have your rent lying on the stage.

    9. Learn how to conversate and more importantly, LISTEN. The art of conversation is lost. yes, "wannadance" works for some ladies, but not the ones that want a regular customer. These guys need to vent. Just listening and giving back even 10% will get you hundreds if not thousands.

    10. Be creative with your dances. The whole bored rub-rub/ change position/roll eye thing is not gonna get it. Eye contact is key. Use your hands. Run them through his hair (bald guys love that-no one ever wants to touch their head unless they're Vin Diesel). Whispher in his ear, guides his hands over your body with yours... it's all heaven to them. If you pick the right scent, they will drink it in and want to be near it-a LOT.

    11. *** STAY OUT OF THE DRAMA IN THE CLUB!!! *** If someone starts crap with you, ignore them. Go to the management if you have to. Dont' complain, just let them know what's up and that she's bothering you while you're with customers (or have him do it). That'll take care of it, bring up the $$$$$$$$$. Words are just that, words. Go make your money...

    12. Keep in contact with your customers. Have an email address and phone number they can reach you at (prepaid phones are good, or even a voicemail is fine). Take the time to email them at least once a week. An hour is all it will take and it will net you thousands. Business cards with this info on it are good, too.

    13. Wear makeup at work. I don't care if you look like Laura Ingalls at home. These men want and deserve glamour. If you're not good with it, go to the mall and get a free makeup lesson. Do your hair as well. Stick straight is fine, but change it up once in a while. Throw some waves or curls in it. Or put a flower behind your ear and secure it with some bobby pins. A little goes a long way. Jewelry adds to the glamour. You can pick up some nice things to wear and you'll not only look better, but you'll feel like a supermodel.

    14. Do not drink at work. Sell the champagne, but dont' drink it. If you do, nurse one drink all night or order something like rum and coke. Then tell the bartender to give you coke and charge the customer for the rum and coke (sorry, guys). You'll keep up with your drink count, stay alert and the bartender will more than have her tip. If you need to sell champagne, spread the love so that it's not up to you and him to drink it all.

    15. Dont' chew gum (especially not on stage). You'll look like a horse. Either use mints or strips. But use something. There's nothing worse than a dancer with bad breath (ok, a dancer with a stank poonanny).

    16. I dont' need to tell you to keep the hair (down there) and hygiene situation straight.

    17. I dont' care if you're broke as hell, don't talk about it. Walk around like you don't need it. It's a fine line, but keep your spirits up. The customers have their own problems and go to the club to forget about them. When you look desperate, you won't make ANY money.


    That's about it, I think. all of these things will add up to you feeling fantastic. When you walk out on the stage or the floor, you have to believe that you are the sexy woman that you are. If you exude that, they will want to be near it. You're there to make money and if you not only look like a million bucks but act that way. It does not matter what color you are. But if after doing all that I stated above you are not amking money, change clubs. Find one that fits.

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    MinahSky, what a great post. Thank you and welcome to SW! I hope you post a lot more, that was very useful advice for anybody stuck in a rut.
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    Thank you, Malibu. I get stuck like everyone else. I'm like Madonna. I change my hair and style all the time. It's not really on purpose, it's basically just evolution. My likes change.

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    Welcome to SW sistah (smiling) Excellent post...it's been a long time since I read ANYONE'S posts in their entirety. Most say the same old thing...

    Your posts relates to all dancers..but I do feel it is the most beneficial to women of colour! I would post more but I gotta clean this house







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    MinahSky, truth to that all the way! Not only does this apply to dancing, but to other situations in life as well.

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    Thank you for the love. I apply what I wrote for everything that I do in life. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can believe in you, and people that are looking to hurt and/or use you can see if you do not have self-love (I had to learn that the hard way). Be the best you that you can be. Forget everyone else and do YOUR thing. I used to listen to my so-called "friends". They are no longer in my life and the mistakes that I made by listening to them had long-term effects. I started listening to "the voice within" like Christina says and I've been fine since.
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    Thank you Minah,

    I have to tell all my sisters that work with me all of the things you just said. They never listen, but then they wonder how I make money so easily sometimes. Guys truly appreciate a beautiful and well-rounded dancer.

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    Thank you all for the nice replies. I thought of some things to add to the list (Mods, if this is in the wrong place, feel free to move it):

    - Don't drive a nice car to the club. You are inviting much drama. I've had my tires slashed, windows broken, etc. I drive a friggin' 90's model Escort to work. The girls can talk all the crap they want, it's mine, it's paid for and it gets me to and from work. I can be J-Lo at home and in the real world (that's when I break out the 20's...hee hee hee). Never mind that some customers already don't like how much money we make. Watching us roll out in our Lexus does NOT help.

    - Put $100 aside from each night. Then split it into groups:

    $20 of that goes to a stash to keep in the house. Get a safe to put in the closet or one of those fake frozen oj cans. When you get home, do it before you do anything else. It will become second nature and when you need it, you'll be glad you have it (brakes always seem to go out when you're on your way somewhere, don't they?). [Straighten out your credit. Cash is great to have, but what good is it when you have to put down 20% when you could have a nothing down mortgage with a kick ass APR? I clean credit reports and I will do a whole other thread for that later.]

    $40 goes towards becoming debt free. The less bills you have, the more money you can save. Don't pay that $10 a month on the Macy's charge. You'll end up paying $1000 for something that originally cost $250.

    the last $40 goes towards a house, a new car, going to (or back to) school, breasts, whatever. Watching that balance grow and grow gives you incentive. They say that you should have 6 months worth of bills put aside for emergencies. Strive for one month for now.

    I know some of you are thinking, "Where the hell am I gonna get an extra $100 from?". Like in Field of Dreams, if you build it, they will come. Stay an extra hour, come early, push each customer for one extra dance, ask that guy you've never seen before for a dance(he could become a new regular), take one less break and use that time to get more dances. I set a goal every night and ALWAYS go over it. If I set $800, I make $1000. An extra $200 is never bad (you've got a guilty free $100 all for you if you make an extra $200!!!).

    Bargain shop for dance clothes. There was a particular outfit I wanted that sells for as high as $350. I went online for an hour and finally found it as low as $88. Print out outfits online and find a seamstress to duplicate them for the price of the material plus a little labor. That way, you can get them in the colors and fabrics you like and you'll be an original.

    Recycle your outfits. I never keep anything for more than 6 months, regardless of how muich money it makes me. No matter what, a new outfit ALWAYS makes money. You can go to another club (or even your own)and sell your old ones (wash them and put them folded neatly in plastic zip lock bags-this also creates new cash flow).

    Don't buy new shoes if all they need is a new rubber heel. It costs like $4 for the cobbler to do. That and some shoe insets can make the oldest pair of platforms new again (if they're ratty as hell, throw them out).

    Bring your food to work. I stopped ordering from the pizza place and started bringing my own food. I eat better and save a hell of a lot of money. For what I paid for pizza in one night, I could eat from home for a week(If you spend $40 a week and switch up to $10 for homecooked food, put the other $30 in a jar and go on vacation when you're burnt out-nothing like a recharge in Puerto Rico to get you back in the mood to dance).

    Find a happy medium to tip everyone at the club. I was going broke trying to please everyone. I settled on $30 to the dj and $15 to everyone else (roughly $75 depending on the night), regardless of the night (it all settles out, good nights and bad). This is down from $1 per dance to everyone, which for me translated to $200 or more a night. When they start straddling 500 pound guys for 20 songs at a clip, they can get more. When you're consistent, they will appreciate it.

    Carpool if you can. With gas prices the way they are, it makes sense. Spending $10-$15 a week instead of $20-$30 is great. It also forces you to work more if you usually leave at 2 and your carpool buddy leaves at 4...;-)

    Be vigilant at the club, I make so much money off of prudes. This one girl I work with screams if a guys touches her leg (I know, I know). So when a guy is done with her, I shimmy up and ask him what's wrong. I'm not high mileage or anything, but compared to that girl, I'm Jenna Jameson. He's just so happy to not have me screaming like a little girl, that he gets 10 dances from me.

    Dont' assume that because you're not the same type of girl as the one he tipped on stage that he won't like you. Most men don't care, they just like women. Again, confidence is key.

    Dance for the ladies. Unless you're REALLY incomfortable, go ahead and dance for the lesbians. A lot of dancers are afraid or don't lie to, so they can't get their grove on. We;re women, they're women and we know EXACTLY how to treat them. You'll make money since no one else will touch them. Treat them right, and it'll look like a "The L Word" convention in the club.

    Do NOT copy anyone else's style. You look bad and unoriginal. I've had "ladies" do it to me and they looked awful. Cultivate your own style and be happy to be you.I had this girl name herself my "MiniMe". Copied EVERYTHING I did. She had the nerve to actually be aroud MiniMe's size, so that looked awful. I had to set a customer straight one day when he claimed I was HER copycat. It will not make the otehr dancer look bad, it will make you NOTH look bad and if it's obvious that you're copying her, your money will disappear faster than thoughts in Jessica Simpson's brain.

    Do NOT bring another dancer's name into your "Sell". See above. You dont' know what the other lady does. I dance for each gentleman differently, according to his likes. You can wathc me all ngith and you'll never figure out what I do, and vice versa. YOu might mess around and say that you give better dances than "Diamond". Well, Diamond could be polishing knobs back there and now you're expected to top that.

    Change your look. I dont' care if it's some streaks, get a tan, get a French manicure instead of a color...do SOMETHING. Get a fake tattoo. Ad belly ring (they have fake ones). Add a Marilyn like beauty mark above your lip. Learn pole tricks if you're not known for them. Spice it up.

    Ask someone that you've never asked for a dance before, Or someone that you've asked, but has said no before. I had this guy that i saw like twice a week and he ALWAYS said no to me. One night I thought, "Why not?" and asked him for a dance. He said yes and has been a regular ever since.

    Do NOT rely on regulars. It's great to have them, but let's say that you can get a guaranteed $300 from a regular. But there are 20 other guys that you can also dance for. A regular will be there, he'll wait. There are 20 other potential regulars to meet. Add to that definite $300 by dancing for other guys. Even if all 20 only get one. One $20 dance from 20 other guys just added $400 to your knot. So now you're up to $700.

    Save your regulars for slow nights. Thurs-Sat are notoriously better than the rest of the week. They're also busier. Picking a slower night means you can give them quality time and usually the men that come in on a "slower" night are there to spend $$$ and avoid the weekend crush. So you have your regular and the potential to meet another one. It always looks good to do well on a weekday.


    My last nugget of info for tonight is: I dont' care if the bitch makes Omorosa look like Little Bo Peep. Don't talk sh!t about another dancer. Keep that venom for your punching bag at the gym. If she gets out of line, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. Let HER look like the viper she is. If all you do is smile and say nothing, she'll only hurt herself. I don't are if you get a request for a double dance with her. DO IT. Shut the hell up and do it. Fake it so well that they'll take Jodie Foster's Oscars and give them to you. That way when she's in the dressing room cutting you up, she'll look like a nutcase because you're saying NOTHING about her.

    I'm going to bed...

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    Amen to that again!! This is EXCELLENT advice. Even the way you type it makes it easier to follow through. I have pasted it into a word document for future reference. Thanks MinahSky
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    Quote Originally Posted by MinahSky
    I had to answer this. It's what made me stop lurking and join. I'm mixed myself and work at "white" clubs and have always been in the top 3 if not #1 in dances.
    Welcome aboard Minahsky. Great posts. One thing I'd like to tack onto what you were saying though. One of the things many dancers (or even business people) do is change a lot of things about their presentation, business plan, marketing strateigy, etc., all at once. With all the suggestions you made about changing color of clothing, hairstyle, nail polish, etc., be aware that you should always make changes to your style in small increments otherwise you'll never be able to tell what's working and what's not. For example, if you dramatically change your hair color from, say, blonde to brunette with red streaks, AND change the style of your hair AND change the style of dress you wear, AND change the jewely you wear AND change your purfume, you'll be making so many changes at once that you will have no idea what's working and what isn't. Perhaps the hairstyle does it for a lot more guys, but let's say the purfume turns-off even more. How would you know? You might blame it then on the dress when, in fact, nobody notices. Get my drift? So when you are going to start making big changes in yourself and the way you do things, make sure you do it in baby-steps and see what the results are like. Polish them, and then make another change if you so desire and see how the results from that go, etc. etc. etc.

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    Great post Minah Sky. I am a black dancer, and I feel it is important to stick to one hairstyle. I usually have a weave using silky straight hair, and I use 26 inch light auburn, to light brown hair.

    Lots of middle aged white customers know nothing about our hairstyles, and think it's my real hair. One time i could only find 22 inch hair and one regular customer mentioned that I cut my hair. LOL.

    I agree with Dancer Wealth that changes should be subtle or small. I see all too many black dancers drastically change their hairstyles from wig, to ponytail, to different colors and lengths, to real hair etc. etc. and the Alexander O'Neal song Fake comes to mind. "One day your hair is short and one day it's long, you're a Fake".

    The more caucasian the style, the better in this business since we are in a caucasian environment. Then we can compete more evenly with the white girls who are the standard for beauty in this country. Curling or crimping the hair is ok, as long as the basic style doesn't change.

    You do get a lot of repeat business in clubs, and dancers don't want to look "fake".

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    I apologize, I didn't make myself clear. I don't do a whole "Extreme Makeover". When I change my hair, I keep the outfits that I'm known for until people are used to the new look. That way, they know it's me from far away and in the dark space. I don't do drastic changes, such as chin length to a** grazing hairdo or blonde to black. To do a change without making it impossible for people to recognize you, do it gradually. Light blonde to dark blonde to brown to medium brown, etc. For length, you can alternate wearing weaves in increasing lengths with ponytails until you reach the length you desire (when you wear the ponytail then go back to a longer weave, a lot of people don't remember how long-or short- it was before).

    Subtle changes are those that make you look fabulous, but aren't knock down drag out. Like colored contacts, highlights or a beauty mark (great when a pimple pops up).

    I agree, Tina. Changing the hair and doing the crazy colors and stuff is fine for home, but not work. There was this dancer I used to work with that had a great body and pretty face (not to mention she spent money on a wonderful BA). But she insisted on wearing her natural hair in an unruly afro during work. She didn't make any money and couldn't figure out why... Like I said before, be all natural at home and in the free world, but while you're at work, you gotta do what you gotta do if you want to be an exotic dancer.


    I'm sorry, a SUCCESSFUL exotic dancer.
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    Many girls on here are always talking about how they don't hire ENOUGH black dancers. Well, I have a question - what about when they have TOO MANY?

    I personally agree with Melonie that there should be a certain breakdown. As a black dancer, if I am in a predominantly white club, if I'm working with 20 to 25 other dancers, I don't believe they should have any more than 3 black girls working, ideally just 2. If there's any more than that, excluding individual personalities and various tastes in types, then we could infringe on each other's business.

    Any thoughts on this?

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    I think that the black ladies at the club are great to watch. They are usually the best dancers there and when everyone else is just walking around all slow and looking bored they seem to get into their act. I think their downfall however is mostly their own fault. One. . .if we're talking about dark women in a club catering almost specifically to white men common sense dictates that you need to play music that caters to white men. The "sisters" hardly ever do this. Every time a Coco, or Ebony, or Brown Sugar gets announced, before I even see the girl I know I'm in for some ridiculous rap song singing about fuckin' hoes and dirty baby mommas. Second. . .you can't blame the audience. Yeah, there prolly are a lot of guys at your club that are racist, deal with it. The other night one of the best dancers I've seen had finished doing her set and I was going to go up and ask her how she learned all those cool moves, etc. Well when I get over near her I overhear her talking to another girl about how all these "white crackers in here never buy any dances and how they won't bother to show a sista' some love" then she proceeded to say some very choice things about the white male race in general and I went back to my seat. Lose the attitude and you might have better luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WestTXHottie
    Yeah, there prolly are a lot of guys at your club that are racist, deal with it.

    Okay, it's early(for me), and I may still be in "morning mode", but wasn't that a little bit uncalled for? No one should have to "deal" with racism. Of course it's easy to say when you haven't experienced it...

    And for the record, I am a beautiful dark-skinned girl, I am an excellent dancer, I have a great attitude, and I don't dance to rap unless someone,usually some middle aged white guy, requests it. And I would never call myself Coco or Brown Sugar Having a stereotypical "ethnic" stage name gives people a reason to judge you before they ever see you. You said that yourself,WestTX.

    It's true that a lot of black dancers have sh!tty attitudes, but there are also a lot of us who are professional and articulate and still can't get hired or tipped. We have a strike against us because we are always considered "a black dancer" not just "a dancer". BTW, I know plenty of blonde-haired, blue-eyed dancers who have sh!tty attitudes as well

    BrainyDancerGirl, I agree about having too many black girls as well. I am very territorial, I like to be THE black dancer wherever I work. My DJs know not to put another black dancer on stage with me b/c I'm not havin' it! Two black girls on stage scares the customers away almost every time. More than 2 or 3 in a night makes people wonder, "Did I walk into a black club by mistake?" Which means none of us are making any money. You don't want to spread your potential customers too thin.

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    The problem with too many black dancers working on the same night is that , most of them could be pretty, articulate, sexy, etc...but if just one fits the negative stereoytype, the others fall prey to getting pigeonholed into the same category. I've had it happen where I just approach a customer and they ask me, "Didn't you just stop by here a few minutes ago?" or "Weren't you just on stage?" and neither is the case. Yet, they probably wouldn't mistake a succession of white or latina girls coming up to them one by one. And there are plenty of bitchy dancers in every color on any given night but the ones who suffer most are the ones who 'stick out' and those that may favor her aesthetically. It's unfair, it sucks, it overgeneralizes, but it happens quite a bit.

    I've had a white guy get upset when another beautiful black girl got on stage and danced to rock and asked why girls dance to music that doesnt fit them...yet, she was dancing to the music just fine, very slow and sensual and this girl is HOT. He didn't know that I also like to dance to rock or alternative and when it was my turn to go on stage and my set started (Nirvana), he shook his head and left the club!!!! My point is that some guys want certain women to 'stay in their place', too, so think of that side of it as well. There are TONS of white guys asking me and other black dancers to put on 50 cent, etc...(and they assume you must like it simply because_______). This country seems to thrive on stereotypes....but it's ok because the men who 'get' me and my style (and I like to dance to a wide range of music from Manson to Chili Peppers to Korn to Prince to Nirvana, Poe, Kylie,etc...)are where I get the bulk of my dance earnings.

    Some women (and this applies only to small/medium clubs where I've worked) can, on any given night, get dances from 80% of the customers, other women from 50% and some women from only 25% of the customers but sometimes those women who get dances from 25% will put her in the ballpark of what the 80% crowd pleaser gets....So stay positive and keep your game face on because your big break might be in the form of a few lucky gents who see past the bull**** and may even become your regulars!!!!
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    I never have an attitude. I never play rap music (not my thing). I have the best attitude in my club. And all my customers are white (hell, they're the ones that ask for the rap music, I play Enigma and the like). My name is not a streotypical "black" name, not in the least.

    No one complains about having too many skinny white blondes with implants in a club (I've never heard of anyone having a problem with the amount of black girls, either), but as far as being in the "miniority", I like it. Many of the white men like black girls and the club is the only way that they can indulge their fantasies. I stand out. They never put two dark-skinned dancers on stage one after the other (I'm light skinned , however, so sometimes they put me up).

    WestTXHottie, no one should deal with racism. But unless you have, you'll never know how it feels. If people started to call you cracker, white ho or trailer trash everyday instead of your actual name, you wouldn't be likely to tell anyone else to just deal with it.

    Brainy Dancer Girl, there are about 5 black dancers in my club. Half do well, the others don't. It's just like the other dancers in the club. Some do well, others don't. I don't involve myself in the BS that goes on in the club. That takes away from my money.

    It stinks that a "black" dancer has to ever deal with this crap. The REALLY messed up thing is that I CAN'T work in black clubs. I don't "pop my booty", I dont' dance to rap music, the girls dont' like me and the only guys that tip me are the white guys...<sigh>
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    must be the club because I know plenty black beautiful dancers who bank

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    It's the club. At my club, none of the black dancers are starving --just last night, all of the black girls were working (3 looked A LOT alike as they all had pretty braids in their hair)--they all made so much freakin' money, as is usual for them. Most any black girl can walk into many clubs across the country and expect to BANK! It just depends on the club. And from what I have seen, dialect does not matter. If a girl is just herself--whether she looks and acts ghetto or not, she WILL make money.
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    How come when it comes to rap music black dancers are very defensive (I never dance to rap!) or other dancers are very judgemental ("don't dance to dirty baby mama songs") about rap music. Lets not forget 85% of the people who buy rap music are white and middle class. At my club it's the skinny white girls who play more 50 cent and all that than anyone. So speaking from a factual standpoint , if a black girl should play music that appeals to white men-that would be hip hop. White males are the biggest consumers of hip hop right now.

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