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    Ok, so I am having some major shyness issues regarding men out in the real world. It's been about three months since I broke up w/ my ex and I am finally becoming aware of other guys out there...very aware, in fact. Every time some cute guy checks me out I start blushing , all of a sudden I can't make eye contact for more than a millisecond and I'm afraid to say too much (and in some cases anything at all) for fear of saying the wrong thing (but, how bad could it be??). There's a guy in one of my classes at school who I find attractive and I can't even bring myself to go say hi or introduce myself to him. I all seems so simple, heck I do that 2-3 nights a week at work and anyways, it's not like I have to get naked and dance on stage for everyone (although I think I'd be more comfortable doing that at this point). You'd think that at 23 I'd have gotten over myself on this one and just be a woman about it. If I can get a room full of men at a strip club to give me their undivided attention, why can't I get his? Arrgh! This shy stripper needs some help...comments, suggestions, consolance and criticisms welcome.

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    I think thats one of the sweetest things Ive ever heard.

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    I'd suggest that instead of trying to find a boyfriend you try and make friends with some boys. You mentioned you are in school. I'll bet there are a bunch of different clubs or organizations you could join. Get involved in some activities that will allow you to meet men in the real world and get to know them. This will give you more confidence.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bigblueyes
    If I can get a room full of men at a strip club to give me their undivided attention, why can't I get his? Arrgh!
    It's because you are much safer in the club. You're not making yourself emotionally available to the room full of men there. No availability, no vulnerability.

    I'm sure you already know this better than I do, but the guy in your class is giving you the butterflies because you may want to make yourself emotionally available to him, and that makes you vulnerable. That's scary. It's scary for all of us. Those of us who are not shy by nature are just covering it up with humor, warmth, charm and anything else we can dream up on the spot.

    It also doesn't matter what your job is. I've spoken before crowds of 1,000, appeared regularly on live national TV, and been in bone-crunchingly stressful situations in my job and none of them have come even close to scaring me as much as that leap into emotional vulnerability. This is not even close.

    Age has nothing to do with it, of course. It's part of being human. When you get a little older, you think you can control it, but that never happens. You just get a lot better at self-delusion.

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    I'm like that totally. If I start to think a guy is attractive I get nervous around him and can't relax. I'm shy around people in general too so it doesn't help. I would have thought if you were a stripper it would help, but maybe not. I think I could never make much with lap dances if I were to dance becuase I just couldn't get that close to people I don't know and just go talk to them. Though I've always thought it would be easier if they weren't really cute. And as the Other Owner said, I am not emotionally available and I know it so maybe that is the reason with you too.

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    The shy ones are the best. Although I am shy too - which means I never get to go out with the shy ones. We cancel each other out- sort of like a double negative.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner
    It's because you are much safer in the club. You're not making yourself emotionally available to the room full of men there. No availability, no vulnerability.

    I'm sure you already know this better than I do, but the guy in your class is giving you the butterflies because you may want to make yourself emotionally available to him, and that makes you vulnerable. That's scary. It's scary for all of us. Those of us who are not shy by nature are just covering it up with humor, warmth, charm and anything else we can dream up on the spot.

    It also doesn't matter what your job is. I've spoken before crowds of 1,000, appeared regularly on live national TV, and been in bone-crunchingly stressful situations in my job and none of them have come even close to scaring me as much as that leap into emotional vulnerability. This is not even close.

    Age has nothing to do with it, of course. It's part of being human. When you get a little older, you think you can control it, but that never happens. You just get a lot better at self-delusion.


    Yea. I have this problem too. When i was little and my father introduced me to clients, i hid behind his legs. I have excepted this problem however.

    I tried to combat it with speech classes and playing sports(which i still enjoy) But the speech class in college threw me for a loop and was absolutely horrible ....even though my teacher was a++

    So, i am also the exact opposite at work UNTIL i feel turned down(just takes one or 2 guys) or havent been at work for a while Then i become shy again.

    It is something i will have to combat for a while.

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