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    Default Can't Afford To Quit Now!

    Since last year I have been aiming for a time to make a permanent exit from stripping,....but due to some unpleasant life developments, looks like I'll need to keep doing it for a few years more.
    I wish for guidance...I was hoping in a few years I could look back and say, "Oh, those were some crazy days, ha ha, now back to my boring job.." The main problem I have is not being able to keep a man and my stripping job at the same time. (Which is BS, they always knew beforehand what I did.) I might end up in my mid-thirties living alone and talking to cats and houseplants!
    That's not the real fear. I just feel burned-out. But it's most of what I've been doing for four years. I tried to split things up with "Joe" jobs and school, but stripping always won out from the $$$ and time management standpoint.
    So........Guess I'll be running twice as fast to stay in the same place? (< Alice in Wonderland.)

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    yup, the hardest thing about stripping is quitting.....good luck

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    It seems in life that change is gradual. Another door opens before one is closed.

    The changes I've made in my life and those my fiance' and I have made together slowly developed. And I'm sure the plans we are making to end my dancing will be a slow progression.I never thought I would be working where I am now, but because I was so frustrated with my earnings in the city, once I started working in the smaller towns my income increased and I changed my path in that direction.

    After working for yourself as we basically do as dancers and having flexibility and control of our schedules and earnings it is virtually impossible for most of us to enter an 8-5 job making 1/2 of what we make dancing.

    I truly believe that a new opportunity that will be more profitable and exciting will arise before dancing ends. Life kind of works out like that.

    Hang in there.

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    You are a very cute girl with a unique look,If the picture you have posted is you,and I hate to hear that you're not happy with your situation,You seem like sucjh a sweet girl to,urrr...how about considering,waitressing in a club?Or bartending?My good girlfriend seems to do well as a bartender in her club

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    I think what she's talking about more isn't stripping itself, but that the relatively high time invested to money earner ratio works best for her. Waitressing and bartending have similar hours, but they pay is almost always less.

    I'm kinda in the same boat as you Maxine. I've come to terms with the fact that there will likely be no "grand finale" moment when I announce, "that's it, I'm retired". I'm trying to phase out of it at the moment, and hopefully within 18 months (give or take six months) I'll be out.

    Feeling burned out can be the worst part, especially if you're in a situation where you feel like you "need" to work. I just took a month off after a stressful (but overall quite profitable) 6 weeks at PEC and I go back this coming week. If you can't take that much time off, the best advice I can offer is to make the most out of the days you take off. No one's saying you need to spend a bundle on a spa day, but spend a few days a week of "me-time" doing things you really love.

    As for the SO's who aren't man enough to "deal" with your dancing, sadly that's a universal problem that shows no sign of dissipating. Just hang in there till the right one comes along.
    "She has written so well, and marvellously well, that I was completely ashamed of myself as a writer...But this girl, who is to my knowledge very unpleasant and we might even say a high-grade bitch, can write rings around all of us who consider ourselves as writers"

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    I tried to split things up with "Joe" jobs and school, but stripping always won out from the $$$ and time management standpoint.
    So........Guess I'll be running twice as fast to stay in the same place? (< Alice in Wonderland.)
    Men are expendable but I hope school is still in the picture. Not that it's any of my business but I like to see people happy so I'm fishing for some hope at an otherwise low point.

    -Ev

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    Men and permanent relationships come in time. A larger percentage of younger guys have "issues" with a stripper girlfriend than older ones. You just have to be firm with guys you date and if they aren't cool with your dancing move on.

    As I always say if a guy is uncomfortable with his woman being a dancer, how many other parts of your life will he dog you about?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina
    Men and permanent relationships come in time. A larger percentage of younger guys have "issues" with a stripper girlfriend than older ones. You just have to be firm with guys you date and if they aren't cool with your dancing move on.

    As I always say if a guy is uncomfortable with his woman being a dancer, how many other parts of your life will he dog you about?
    That really makes sense.

    I sometimes wonder when I will quit myself. I am also feeling really burned out, but I continue to go because I know the feeling will pass. I just remind myself of why I do this job (money, time, excitement). I'm not ready to tackle a "real" job because the income is sooo low that I feel I am wasting my life. I would rather do this job and have time for all the things that really matter to me. Ahhh, I think I just helped myself focus with this.
    Artemis

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    When I danced, I was in school, and went into it for the challenge ("ha, even though I have fat thighs, men still pay me to dance!") and the extra money. Perhaps you should consider some self-exploration-- what do you like to do? then consider going to school when you're not dancing.. after all isn't one of the best things about dancing the hours? You will hopefully find that when it's all said and done, if you choose a job that you genuinely like the lower salary won't matter as much. Now I'm a lawyer, working for the state, making about $40k a year which is crummy IMHO... but I like what I do, so the "pay" isn't just the money, it's also in my heart.

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