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    i'd like to hear your opinions on how this would make you feel. am i too rude? i am somewhat of a loudmouth & speak my mind.

    sometimes i will get in a conversation with a customer about his SO (wife/gf). often they will roll their eyes or tell me 'she's a bitch' or something negative about her. here's an example:

    customer a: she drives me nuts! what a nag!
    me: i hope not to offend you with this & you don't have to answer, but just a quick thought: if you are so unhappy, why don't you leave her? maybe you should try & look at what she does that makes you so unhappy & try and work it out, if that doesnt work, why stay?

    is this rude? i mean, if someone complains to me about their relationship, that is my general question i ask, both in & out of work. i, personally, can hold my own, so if someone makes me unhappy to the point i cant work it out, i leave. most customers i ask this to are not really offended, just surprised. it's like the thought of leaving their wife/gf had never come to their minds. i always make sure though that they know if the dont want to talk about the subject, it can end at any time.

    would it offend you if a dancer asked you this, should the topic come up? i just find it silly to sit and twirl my hair and giggle. i dont say that what theyre doing is wrong by cheating or staying with the person. i just pose the question to them that their are other options out there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by toxicgirl
    often they will roll their eyes or tell me 'she's a bitch' or something negative about her.
    Most likely they are trying the sympathy ploy with you, wanting you to feel bad for them and maybe give them some pity sex. Dont fall for it and change the subject.


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    My opinion is that when a man goes into a sc, he doesnt really want to think of his SO, so when he makes a comment, I would just tell him that you would rather talk about him than his SO. Use that to get him into lapdances or something.

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    if you really want to make money, why ask such open ended questions? I can see where it might be useful to establish a more persoanal relationship with your customers, but I think you can find a lot of ladies here that can give you some insight into what works for successful selling.

    Personally, i don't go to a club when I am with someone, and even when I go and mention prior girl friends, my mind starts to drift away from the dance and more into the topic and discussion of the relationship. Several LDs have ended this way for me. One open ended question that leads to more discussion.

    Afterwards, I have found that girls I talk to about such things end up feeling more like sister/friend relationships, and I almost never consider getting a dance from them for whatever reason. Usually it's kind of the nature of the girl to want to sit and chat and talk about a variety of things, who does start discussions like this with me.

    To me, an approriate response for the "she's a bitch" comment of mine would be, "sounds like you need some lovin" or substitute "attention" or wahtever works for you.

    I think it's great that you provide some level of counseling, but that is so different than getting a dance tho. in my experience.

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    ok, i will be flip. "shut up and dance"


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    I have no SO, so the dancer doesn't have to worry. Besides, in most of the clubs in PR, dancers don't bother to talk with their clients.



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    toxic: Try to keep the topic off of their SO. It can lead to feelings of guilt, which then decrease the possibility of them buying dances. If you get the "She's a bitch" response, they're not really looking for counselling, just sympathy.

    Yes, if you were their friend, you'd go with the counselling, as it's what they need. But you're not, you're trying to make money. Sometimes you have to be a little cold (or rational, if you prefer, heh) They want to feel good about themselves, not analyse their life.

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    This doesn't happen anymore, but when I was unhappy with my marriage, that was my story to everyone, not just dancers. I used it whenever I was trying to get into a girls panties. Even though, I really didn't dislike my wife, just the fact that I was married. I got married too young and fought it for a while. Now I am happy and am married to a wonderful woman. But seriously, that is what I would say to any woman. Probably just a ploy to try and get under your G-String. A lot of women are attracted to married men and when they see an OP to satisfy an unhappy married man, they jump at it. You would be surprised how far this got me before I decided to be a good hubby.

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    It's not rude, but I think it's probably costing you a lot of dances.
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    ok, i'll be a bit more clear on this one: the customer brings it up. they often talk about their relationships at my work- good or bad. in my club, you have to talk people in to dances. you can't just ask for one too quickly- you'll get a lot of no's.
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    Toxic, some guys just want to vent and/or bitch about their SO's to what they perceive to be a friendly non-judgmental ear. I think most guys are aware of their options when it comes to marriage and possible divorce and are bitching either because:

    a) they want to get in your pants;

    b) they just want to vent to someone, but are generally happy;

    c) they are really unhappy, but understand their options; or

    d) they lack social skills and can't figure out anything else to hold a dancer's attention

    In all instances, the advice, while well intentioned, is unnecessary. So why risk losing money over it. Thus, I agree with Yoda, the risk of issuing your opinion outweighs the reward.

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    Yeah, either get that conversation on something else...like YOU, or your gonna spend some time being this guys therapist. These guys just want to feel special, work on that for a lil bit, and you got yourself a dance.

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    The fact is, when they bitch about their SO's they are giving you an in. It's your opportunity to make them forget about their problems and have some fun-regardless of what you may think of their personal situations. They are there to unwind and you are there to make money. It's a win-win.
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