It doesnt sound like much of a decision, goldengrl.
1- Its not love. If it were, you wouldnt have labeled it as "like/love"--the two are worlds apart.
2- $45,000/year hasnt been good pay since the early 1960's, so my guess is, as a dancer, that you probably out-earn him, or if you dont, probably could ...even from a wheelchair.
3- although presents are not a basis for a relationship, nor lack of them a deal breaker, there is a decisive lack of consideration not to observe the custom of gift giving on Christmas or occasions like that, unless it was discussed before hand and mutually agreed upon. It should NOT have been a surprise.
4- calling you 4 or 5 times a day is obcessive and indicates a sever lack of self esteem and self confidence on his part, as well as a propensity to control and manipulate.
5- If telling you that he saves your voicemails so he can hear your voice whenever he wants (on top of calling you 5 times a day) is among the sweetest things he can say to you, well, lets just say you are exceptionally easy to please (not to mention manipulate).
6- And if it is really true, its still a red flag since it indicates a very needy individual who is unable to stand on his own, at best.
7- There is nothing wrong with a May-December romance. In many ways they are extra special. Usually the older man is mature, educated, and worldly, has a stable lifestyle and finances, has already sewn his wild oats, and is usually more refined and considerate and appreciative of his younger girlfriend. A yound girl may find in him a mentor, a protector, a guide, as well as a partner, and may find a man like that very desireable for those reasons and others. But it seems like you have none of those benefits and only the negative aspects.
8- follow your heart
9- follow your instincts
10- use common sense.
Like I said, it sounds like an easy decision, based on what you have told us.
Good luck.

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