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    I've been married 13 years, and my husband is finally accepting that I want to be a dancer. He is, however, worried that he's not threatened by other men/women touching me, if that makes any sense. How do you deal with your spouses? Thanx for your input!

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    well i cant say that i am married but ive been in a very serious relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year and he is not okay with men trying to touch me but he is okay with what i do. your man should be fine with what you choose to do and he should accept it, and as far as him worrying that hes not threatened by guys touching you, it just means that he knows it is part of your job.
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    My ex husband was able to deal with me dancing because he knew I put the customers in their place when they tried to touch me.You can't put up with any BS in this industry.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    My ex husband was able to deal with me dancing because he knew I put the customers in their place when they tried to touch me.You can't put up with any BS in this industry.

    i agree. i dont put up with guys trying to touch me. i personally dont even like it if a guy touches my leg. i know a lot of clubs let guys touch you like in ny so i guess if youre okay with it... but if youre not, youre husband definately shouldnt be either.
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    Quote Originally Posted by orenishi
    He is, however, worried that he's not threatened by other men/women touching me, if that makes any sense.
    So basically he's worried that he isn't jealous enough? That is very sweet. He probably is used to a certain stereotype of husbandly behavior and wonders why he differs from the norm. Well, seeing as you've been married so long, he likely believes (with good reason) that you are coming home to him and he trusts you. So he doesn't see your potential job choice as being something threatening. Run with it, baby.

    As far as dealing with spouses, I was a dancer long before I started dating my fiance, and he was well aware of it, so it's never been an issue with us. Neither of us are jealous, and we have an incredibly high level of trust and security in our relationship. I think that's necessary for any relationship ever, but especially essential for a dancer's SO. That and healthy attitudes towards sexuality.

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    My husband is fine with me dancing. He knew that I danced prior to our marriage. And he is fine now that I have went back to it. The way he looks at it is more financial than anything. Right now we are both finishing college and working part time. Dancing is the best thing I can do as far as few hours and max payout (not all the time, but on average). Plus my husband knows that I will be coming home to him every night. We go to strip clubs together, but he chooses not to go to work to watch me. He would probably distract me anyway. But this is just my 2 cents.

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    i have been married for 19 years and hubby has no problem with it. he either trusts you or he don't.

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    I have to say I agree with Susan and puddin...100% here he either trusts you and you trust him unconditionally, or not...if not then niether one of you should be working in an adult industry...plus as Susan said it really helps if you have healthy ideals about sexuality and a killer sex life of your own...we have gone to clubs together a bunch, but he has only seen me work a few times...which is fine with me...we are all differnet people in differnet aspects of our lives...not that we necassarily have anything to hide but we act appropriately for each situation in our own life...many people are night/day from work/home, and that is a healthy dynamic IMHO...that being my case anyway I find it best that he not watch me work...plus it's distracting, knowing somebody you love/are totally into is watching rather than just a "work crowd"...

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