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    Well, my days of being retired from this business are not happening.. due to misfortune at the day job and many partners leaving to start a new firm, I will more than likely be downsized and back at the club within a month... SIGH... If it were anyplace but where I am at, it wouldn't be so bad. I'm just so tired of small town bullshit. When I say small town, its really small, can't really go out after you work in the club and not get recognized, not get some sort of bullshit said, or thrown at you.

    I'm really discouraged, I have a wedding coming up and then he's deploying in April, he's not really too thrilled about me going back but the market is just so tight right now, and I pull my weight when it comes to expenses. My ex pretty much screwed me over and drained me of my savings, and I'm just so discouraged about having to go back. NOT looking forward to it, however my managers are thrilled and so are some others, but how on earth can I keep my attitude positive when I am just sick about going back?

    I just needed to vent.


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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Hon, do you HAVE to do it? Can you live off unemployment for a bit, take some other job or dance out of town for a while? Maybe modeling work can be found in the city near you....anything.

    Wish we could help more...let me know if I can

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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Ugh...sorry to hear about this, Gynger.

    I know that it's hard...you thought you were out of it for good. The best thing is that you have this day job...if they down-size you, you will be eligible for severance, etc, etc, etc (I believe...). If so, that will help you with the bills...

    I don't really know what else to say, except that you have my phone number...use it if you need to.

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    My best to you, Gynger. Keep in mind, these people starting the new firms will need someone good to work for them. Don't be afraid to go to them directly, if you think you'll be downsized at the current place.

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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Quote Originally Posted by MojoJojo
    My best to you, Gynger. Keep in mind, these people starting the new firms will need someone good to work for them. Don't be afraid to go to them directly, if you think you'll be downsized at the current place.

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    Great advice Mojo...
    My sister went through a situation like yours Gynger and she approached one the partners about a job with his new firm. Lets just say she went from secretary to office mgr.

    Be sure to get a letter of recommendation from them, this will come in handy when you look for a new job. In the meantime you can apply for unemployment and just hit the club a few days out of the week.
    Take advantage of the warm welcome back your club manager, co-workers and customers will be giving you for the next couple of weeks.
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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Sorry to hear that Gynger. Hopefully it will be shortlived.

    ps You're new siggy is great :-)


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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Quote Originally Posted by Gynger
    I'm really discouraged, I have a wedding coming up and then he's deploying in April, he's not really too thrilled about me going back
    Have you considered what options are avail on post??
    Not housing or PX,im talking about support groups and on post jobs that might put him at ease,and from what it sounds,put you at ease also.
    Best of luck.

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    Tina travels around Montana and other areas not too far from you, and she says the money is quite good. Perhaps you could PM her and ask about it? It would keep you out of the local clubs, at least.
    He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

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    Office Manager - BRILLIANT!
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Gynger--First of all, I have to say that I love the signature. I'm going to write that down somewhere!
    Second, I know how frustrated you must feel. But if there are no other options you want to explore right now, than maybe this will help:
    I quit dancing awhile ago and thought I was through. Then I went back (for alot of reasons) and, for some reason, I make waaaay more $$ now than I did before. It's not that anything's really changed, it's just that I know I'm in it for both fun & money now, so I don't let a minute go by when I am in the club that I am not working my ass off! Which means that I don't have to work as often as I used to, which keeps burnout and frustration at bay.
    And your "comeback" will have everyone raving about you, esp. if they're already excited about you being there again!
    Perhaps if you do have to dance now, you could sit down and think about all of the things you liked about dancing before and focus on those, only let those things be what you're thinking about when you're there.
    And if people harass you in the town you live in, maybe it would be best for you to travel w/ dancing, so that there's not all of the extra added stressors when you go back.
    And if you do go back, keep looking for better options--hand your resume to everyone in your field, get recommendations, etc. That way, you won't feel as though dancing is your only option and there are no other doors open to you (because that's quite obviously not the case ).

    I wish you luck!

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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Quote Originally Posted by MojoJojo
    My best to you, Gynger. Keep in mind, these people starting the new firms will need someone good to work for them. Don't be afraid to go to them directly, if you think you'll be downsized at the current place.

    Can't hoit.
    I was going to say the same thing - you have a great opportunity to network OUTSIDE of the club scene. Take advantage of it and let people help you find something!

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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Boise is small. I know lots of people, networking isn't a problem, its the mere fact that jobs are hard to come by here.

    Severance will not be an option as I haven't been there long enough, the new firm already made offers to those that they wished to take with them.

    Going back to this is not really what I want to do. I"m looking into taking out some federal loans and going to school to obtain a masters degree until I can figure something out in the interim.

    Thanks for all who posted and listening to me vent.


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    So sorry to hear about this. You have every reason to vent. I hope things start working out for you. On the good side, it sounds like you found a nice S.O. I hope that you are happy in that area of your life.

    So where do we send the wedding gifts????

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    Sorry to hear about this Gyn, you really deserve better. Good luck with school, that sounds like a great idea!

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    Default Re: Going back... dear God..

    Well, I take it you have to stay in Boise, even after your man is deployed. A few years ago I heard that Boise is a growing place for High Tech. In any case and in any place.....

    Newspaper ads and internet job sites are not too useful, usually.

    So.... Learn to do some heavy networking with everyone you know who may know someone who knows someone -- family, neighbors, store people, people in lines, anyone whose ears you can bend for a few minutes. Stay on the phone a lot doing this, go to meetings with them and ask them for advice, NOT a position. Ask them for career and resume advice, and ask them help you network further. (See, if they are not hiring at the moment, you won't get any time with them.)

    Also people like to help others, at least the useful ones do; further they like to talk to attractive people. This may lead you into some good prospects, or maybe someone you directly talk to will think of something for you.

    Looking for work is a full-time job. At least it is interesting and intense. You seem to have some time and that is a big advantage. Finding work in this economy is proof that you are on the ball.

    Good luck in your quest.
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    Gynger....sorry to hear about this. Im going through the possibility of loosing my job.....so I know what your going through.

    Keep your chin up girl......
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    Hey Girl!

    Just wanted to wish you good luck!!! How about doing grad school loans and dancing part-time. I did this and it worked out pretty well. I also danced in a different city on weekends to avoid being hassled.

    *Besos*

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    Honestly Katrine, now that I have been "absent" I don't want to go back... I know it sounds bad, but the thought of going back just makes me cringe. I loved dancing when I saw a light at the end of the tunnel. I guess I mentally shut myself off when I left and said, "I'm done".

    Yes, I have a home, yes I have a great S.O. and things will work out however they are suppose to, but (and this is a big but) when you have been tossed out without a care from an employer who doesn't have room for you, your resume is showing two jobs in the last three years that you've been downsized from, and you have a "familiar" face but they can't seem to put their finger on it ( and yes, this sometimes has been the case, then they find out and go, "OMG, she's a STRIPPER!!!! (like its a bad thing or something) its disheartening.

    Masters Degree and maybe part time someplace, in the meantime, I have dusted off my stillettos, and will be heading back effective next week... if I can make enough to carry me through two months in one month than it will be worth it to me and hopefully, I will.


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