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    Im sure this has been covered here already. But, I'm still going to go on regardless.
    I started dancing full time in Septemer. I worked it like a regular job, approximately 4-5/ 6-8 hr. shifts a week. After an exdended Christmas vacation I find myself having the hardest time appoaching customers. Inside , I am saying to myself "this guy must know that on a given day, anywhere outside of this club, chances are we would not be talking." Dont get me wrong, its not that I think I am better than anyone. I just feel that I have nothing in common, as mentioned in a previous thread, with most.
    I often find myself sitting by myself, ,and waiting to get apprached. And trust me when I tell you...I could not make a living doing this!!!
    Any solutions in getting over this...without coming across as phony?

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    oh my gosh, I know exactly what you're talking about.
    I'm sitting there talking to the guy, thinking, "he has to know this conversation should not even be taking place". I find myself sitting waiting to be approached too, not because I feel above the customers, but because I'm thinking do they really even want me to approach them? I mean am I even their type?


    As far as *you* not liking *them*?? I wish I had that problem. They don't care if *you* wouldn't like them in real life, that's why the fantasy is something to look forward to, an escape from reality. They're paying to be in there where things are different for only a second. They're paying to have beautiful, unapproachable, unfkable women approach them, make them feel special, and give them the impression they're about to be fked.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cali_Tiffany
    I just feel that I have nothing in common. And trust me when I tell you...I could not make a living doing this!!!
    Any solutions in getting over this...without coming across as phony?
    1. you don't have to have anything in common. it doesn't have to be a two way conversation like in real life. a lot of them just like to hear themselves talk or tell jokes.

    2. you can do anything you set your mind to.

    3. smiling smiling smiling and having actual fun.
    it IS phony. it's one big false pretense. you don't even give them your real name. people are walking around with fake boobs, wigs, tall shoes, make-up. men who are loaded are pretending to be broke and vise versa. that's not YOUR fault.

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    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=43486

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=29024

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=29024

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=41066

    Go thru any of the above posted threads and you might find more information. My only other advice is that you need to learn how to lead and direct the conversation so that the person is mainly talking about themselves. Listen whilst they talk about themselves as then they'll provide you with the relevant information so you can do one of two things: lead and direct the conversation further (so they continue to talk and you just be passive/listen) and/or ask for a dance (thru their conversation you'll learn how to ask them for the dance).


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    Quote Originally Posted by LilRogueVixen
    it IS phony. it's one big false pretense. you don't even give them your real name. people are walking around with fake boobs, wigs, tall shoes, make-up. men who are loaded are pretending to be broke and vise versa.
    Exactly. It is totally obvious that it is an artificial environment full of faked personas and wild pretenses. It has a carney, cabaret, marti gras feel to it. That is the fun and the excitement of it. And that is why it makes a good SEA; no reasonable person should mistake it for an ordinary venue nor expect their ordinary social expectations/standards to apply.

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    You all are so right!! And perhaps I need to go with the flow of things but, it seems like so many men are there for far more deeper reasons than just "fantasy". Dancing has become not only a physical job, but a mental one as well.

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    As soon as you are selling something not just performing .... of course dancing is more mental than physical! Sales is a mental skill more than a physical one.... you will learn this from reading all the posts within Hustle Hut and thru your own personal experience.

    You are not just a dancer anymore... those days when you just danced are gone.. long gone. In order to make money you must sell. Therefore you are a salesperson more than a dancer.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Cali_Tiffany
    Im sure this has been covered here already. But, I'm still going to go on regardless.
    I started dancing full time in Septemer. I worked it like a regular job, approximately 4-5/ 6-8 hr. shifts a week. After an exdended Christmas vacation I find myself having the hardest time appoaching customers. Inside , I am saying to myself "this guy must know that on a given day, anywhere outside of this club, chances are we would not be talking." Dont get me wrong, its not that I think I am better than anyone. I just feel that I have nothing in common, as mentioned in a previous thread, with most.
    I often find myself sitting by myself, ,and waiting to get apprached. And trust me when I tell you...I could not make a living doing this!!!
    Any solutions in getting over this...without coming across as phony?
    You have described the newbie SALESPERSON's bane and downfall - thinking since the person is a stranger you can't talk to them. This isn't something unique to being a dancer, not in the least! I've trained and observed hundreds of salespeople over my career and this is the single major thing that just KILLS them.

    In common? Well, you're alive and breathing, that's a biggee to some people. Okay, that's a smartass example, but it really IS that simple. If you're human, you have SOMEthing in common with any other person on the planet.

    I suggest going to the business section of a major bookstore, and picking up "The Greatest Salesman in the World" or any of the Sales Training tapes by Brian Tracy. For starters.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl
    My only other advice is that you need to learn how to lead and direct the conversation so that the person is mainly talking about themselves.
    Good advice, if they're a talker. There's two basic types of conversationalists - those who like to talk, and those who like to listen. Even those who are talkers can become shy around beautiful, half-naked women.

    But yes, as others have said, you need to switch off a bit. Those guys aren't people, they're customers. Semi-intelligent transportation systems for wallets (and the content thereof). Reason #1 why I was awful at sales was that I couldn't seperate myself enough, but that's the theory...

    [V, you seem like you've got your game on, I'm looking forward to checking out your hustle. ]

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    Exactly. It is totally obvious that it is an artificial environment full of faked personas and wild pretenses. It has a carney, cabaret, marti gras feel to it. That is the fun and the excitement of it. And that is why it makes a good SEA; no reasonable person should mistake it for an ordinary venue nor expect their ordinary social expectations/standards to apply.
    Exactly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cali_Tiffany
    Im sure this has been covered here already. But, I'm still going to go on regardless.
    I started dancing full time in Septemer. I worked it like a regular job, approximately 4-5/ 6-8 hr. shifts a week. After an exdended Christmas vacation I find myself having the hardest time appoaching customers. Inside , I am saying to myself "this guy must know that on a given day, anywhere outside of this club, chances are we would not be talking." \

    perhaps you need to take a break, perhaps you are burning out
    I get that way sometimes!
    I also used to work 4 to 5 days a week
    and I soon found myself bored with the game of reeling in a customer.
    so now I work every other day, mon wed frid or tue thur sat
    no more than two or three times a week
    and I feel a lot better
    I have more energy
    maybe you should just take a break
    just a suggestion!

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    I took with me what I have read from all of you to work with me yesterday, and I felt a whole lot better. I actually made money too. Thankyou guyz so much....I think Im almost over it, and have a better understanding of the buisness.

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    i just make myself goto everyone and try to guess what topic would perk there intrersts more..

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    I think it is hard to just start talking to a beautiful woman , especially when you know you really just came ther to see them dance without clothes .I t seemed much easier for me to talk to dancers when I was intoxicated , I really dont drink now but I have not been in a club sober and need to get to one soon and see what happens.

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