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    Default Not pickup lines

    When chatting before (hopefully) a dance, what do you talk about? My past is in the theater, so I need some lines. I don't want people to pull out their cheesiest pickup lines, but give me some examples of topics, and how to bring them up. If you ask about his work, how do you do it? What do you ask? I know you want to keep him talking, but I can't think of enough things to ask. I'm looking to create a sort of a script I can follow when I get nervous, or am not feeling spontaneous. Pretend I have no background in this, and just spell it out for me.
    Much thanks, you guys are priceless.
    (No pun intended, Pryce)

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    "There's a .44 Magnum in my pocket pointed at your abdomen. Would you like to buy me a drink?"
    Quote Originally Posted by suzielightning
    I don't want people to pull out their cheesiest pickup lines...
    Sorry, couldn't resist.

    Seriously though - I don't think a script is such a good idea, because people can (and will) throw complete non-sequiturs at you all the time. Open-ended questions are the key. If you want to keep him talking, ask him questions that he cannot give a one word answer to.

    For example, if you were talking about his work:
    "What motivated you to go into that field?"
    "So can you tell me what that involves?"
    "I've always been interested in <his field>, can you tell me some more about it?"

    Never ask questions that can easily be answered briefly. No 'yes' or 'no' questions, no questions that could conceivably be answered 'good' or 'bad'. If it can be answered without using a complete sentence to do so, then don't ask it.

    Most guys will get going after a while and the conversation will flow. Even for those that keep it brief, they still have to contribute something to the conversation, because you're not giving them the choice.

    In order to keep the conversation flowing, listen to what he says and use that as a trigger for your next question. It both makes it easier on you (as you are using his own words to decide what to say next) and makes him feel like you are paying attention. You don't need to be spontaneous, just train yourself to use the right techniques.

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    One of the biggest rules to sales is to trigger emotion first and logic second. What you need to do is play with a positive emotional trigger first to make him equate that with you. For example, when I teach persuasion and influence techniques to real estate investors, one of the techniques is very similar to one I'll give you.

    For example, if you were buying a house from someone as a pre-forclosure investment, you want to have them think positive thoughts often because the process for them overall is a very negative one. One of the techniques involves what is called a "direct command" and you use it to make them conjure positive emotional thoughts. The reason is it puts them in to a positive frame of mind and more likely to buy from you because they relate that positive thought to you. For example, in a real estate deal, let's say you are walking into their house for the first time. You might say something like, "Tell me about the history of that swingset in the backyard." The reason is it conjures up nothing but positive memories about their children, their children growing up, the fun they had in the backyard, etc. It's all positive emotions. You might say the same thing about a particular old photo on the mantle or something like that. Well, as a dancer, use the same method.

    If you see your customer is wearing a class-ring from college and he's in his 30s, obviously there is some attachment there. Say to him, "Hi...tell me a little about the history of that ring" and he'll go on and on about the positive memories and he's going to subconsciously be thanking YOU for helping him to remember them. The Direct Command I mentioned earlier is the preface to that sentence. By saying, "tell me...", you are giving a subconscious direct command making him to do just that...tell you. When you say it, it should sound like, "Tell me [subtle pause], what's the story behind that cool ring?"

    This technique works like a charm and is a wonderful way to start the conversation past the initial introduction. Let me know how it works for you.

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    That is awesome advice I would have never thought on my own...Thanks Dancerwealth!!
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    General advice, I can do. Hardcore sales advice...I bow to the master.

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