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    I am wondering ladies if you had a guy whom was a regualar of yours and you thought he was a really nice person and you enjoyed his company would you lose respect for him if you find out he got or is getting dances from a dancer who is known to do "anything" to make her money? Yeah I know that he is free to get a dance from whomever he wants but if you thought of him highly wouldn't you be just a little dissapointed in him even though he isn't really a close friend or SO?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jpac73
    I am wondering ladies if you had a guy whom was a regualar of yours and you thought he was a really nice person and you enjoyed his company would you lose respect for him if you find out he got or is getting dances from a dancer who is known to do "anything" to make her money? Yeah I know that he is free to get a dance from whomever he wants but if you thought of him highly wouldn't you be just a little dissapointed in him even though he isn't really a close friend or SO?
    Well, I'd wonder why he was bothering to spend time with me then.

    Another reason I don't have or want regulars.
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    Like men are loyal to any women anyway. Hahahahahahahaha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jpac73
    I am wondering ladies if you had a guy whom was a regualar of yours and you thought he was a really nice person and you enjoyed his company would you lose respect for him if you find out he got or is getting dances from a dancer who is known to do "anything" to make her money? Yeah I know that he is free to get a dance from whomever he wants but if you thought of him highly wouldn't you be just a little dissapointed in him even though he isn't really a close friend or SO?
    Regular customers are frowned upon when they forget the tenets of Strip Club going, and start seeing their relationships with favorite dancers in a light different then what is appropriate. The same should apply to Dancers who start seeing their Customers in a light different then what is appropriate. If it is wrong for a customer to lose respect for a dancer for dancing or show a large amount of attention with other guys, then it is wrong for a dancer to get so attached to a customer that his other choices of dancers makes her lose respect for him.

    And, in my opinion, relatively few dancers have a problem with this, while a greater number of customers do.

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    Nah, I've had customers, though none who I'd call my own regulars, who spent time with very, um, motivated dancers, and then would happily turn around and buy dances from me. Different products, I guess.

    But yeah, I can see some girl getting ticked about this. Strippers can be posessive, as bizarre as that seems to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jpac73
    I am wondering ladies if you had a guy whom was a regualar of yours and you thought he was a really nice person and you enjoyed his company would you lose respect for him if you find out he got or is getting dances from a dancer who is known to do "anything" to make her money? Yeah I know that he is free to get a dance from whomever he wants but if you thought of him highly wouldn't you be just a little dissapointed in him even though he isn't really a close friend or SO?
    No I wouldn't. Guys come to the club for different reasons at different times. So maybe one time he came looking to get a BJ in VIP. Oh wait, I forgot, guys never come to the club looking to get extras, they just take them if they are offered. My bad. Anyway, the fact that he got dances or something more from such a dancer means nothing to me. If he thinks I'm going past my own boundaries he's wrong. Also, just because a particular dancer is known to have done extras doesn't mean she will everytime. She's looking to make the most money she can for the least amount of work (aren't we all?). If he's content to fill her a garter full of $20 for nothing but dances, she is probably content to take them.
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    Regular customers are frowned upon when they forget the tenets of Strip Club going, and start seeing their relationships with favorite dancers in a light different then what is appropriate. The same should apply to Dancers who start seeing their Customers in a light different then what is appropriate. If it is wrong for a customer to lose respect for a dancer for dancing or show a large amount of attention with other guys, then it is wrong for a dancer to get so attached to a customer that his other choices of dancers makes her lose respect for him.

    And, in my opinion, relatively few dancers have a problem with this, while a greater number of customers do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jpac73
    I am wondering ladies if you had a guy whom was a regualar of yours and you thought he was a really nice person and you enjoyed his company would you lose respect for him if you find out he got or is getting dances from a dancer who is known to do "anything" to make her money? Yeah I know that he is free to get a dance from whomever he wants but if you thought of him highly wouldn't you be just a little dissapointed in him even though he isn't really a close friend or SO?

    depending on what the girl does.. if she let guys finger her or eat her out or have sex with them at the club.. i would probably not ever talk that that "regular" again..


    i dont want to catch anything.. besides its bad enough a girl like that takes alot of the money from the girls that arent doing nasty stuff... it wouldnt help a whole lot to have a "Regular" jumping the boat aswell

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    Depends on what the guy is getting from the "other" dancer and if he still kept me around. If he just slithered away and avoided all conversation with me...cut off dances from me totally.. basically cutting things off..just to get off with the new dancer...I would feel dissapointed in the guy..especially if we had conversations...ontop of just my dancing for him. A guy is there for a fantasty ...so if he wants a change...whatever. Just as long as my regulars don't trip out when they see me dancing for other guys. Then I won't trip seeing him get dances from another dancer.

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    No, I would only loose respect if my regular expected ME to do anything for money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    Like men are loyal to any women anyway. Hahahahahahahaha.
    I soo... agree there are very few guys that would never cheat......... As I read once 'men are just like toilets either full of shit or occupied'

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    I think I would feel a little disappointed that my glittering conversation and stunning person was not such a source of constant facination that he even had time to think about other girls sucking his cock. That's really more just a small blow to my already battered ego, though.
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    I lose respect for them the second they try to grab without warning and continue too while being ignorant of the rules.

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    So you base this question on the assumption that strippers have respect for their regulars to begin with?

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    Kat I dont think respecting customers is that crazy. I deal with some doozies but most of my customers are cool. I perform a service and they pay me. Neither of us take off our clothes thank god but still I think there is a business principle involved.

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    I'm just being silly FBR, don't take me seriously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    So you base this question on the assumption that strippers have respect for their regulars to begin with?
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    Old thread, ehhh, so what I guess...

    I didn't answer before so I'll answer now. No I really don't care. I'd prefer that he get his dances from me BEFORE the ho, simply because I'd rather not risk sitting in jizz or something. But other than that, why would I care? He buys what I'm selling, so that's all that matters to me.

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    I'll go with Kat on this one. The customer isn't in to buy respect and I don't think that is what the dancer is selling.

    Let's not go getting "holier than thou" when 98% of the population wouldn't recognize the distinction between what you "morally" do and what you judge the other dancer "immorally" does. Most people would paint both of the dancers with the same broad brush.

    Now, if he violates your boundries, that is where you draw the line, but I would suggest not judging a customer for what you think another dancer does.

    I get amused by the dancers who spend 200 nights a year in the club figuring out ways to hustle a buck and at the same time judge the guys who spend 5 nights a year in a club as PLs and immoral. YIKES ... there is no high road in this business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jpac73
    I am wondering ladies if you had a guy whom was a regualar of yours and you thought he was a really nice person and you enjoyed his company would you lose respect for him if you find out he got or is getting dances from a dancer who is known to do "anything" to make her money? Yeah I know that he is free to get a dance from whomever he wants but if you thought of him highly wouldn't you be just a little dissapointed in him even though he isn't really a close friend or SO?
    Lose respect for the guy? No. Be dissapointed? Maybe. It would depend on if he was buying the "anything" the dancer was selling and where he was buying it.

    If it was in the club it would be another ball of wax then if it was outside the club, for obvious legal risk reasons.

    I mean as long as the guy wasn't putting me at risk or disrespecting me in some way, I would probably just blow/laugh it off as a "thinking with the little head" situation.

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    I don't think it matters. It's a buyer/seller relationship, not a marriage. Sometimes a customer just wants "ahem" something completely different. If he comes back and still gets dances from you then why worry what he may have done with Bambi. Besides it's nearly impossible to know what two people do in the VIP room.
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