Ok, question for you guys..I have been babysitting since I quit dancing. I sit for a 10 month old and a 2 month old, and then I watch my own little girl who is 20 months old. The mother of the 10 month old I have known since last march or april, sometime in there. She is a good mother, and the husband is a good father. BUT there's a catch..when the mother brings the baby over in the morning, she just lays the baby in the seat next to her. She doesnt even bother to put her in the carseat, which is wrong, even if it is only a 30 second drive or so. I am going to speak to her about that today, but the problem is I dont know how to come across doing it without the probability of her getting hostile about me telling her she is doing something obviously wrong. Also, I sat for her one Saturday night so she and her husband could go out and drink. They got in a fender bender, and both the husband and the wife were drunk. Well perhaps not completely drunk, but I know they shouldnt have been driving. They didnt get a breathalizer or anything like that, because the husband is a military police officer (like mine is) and he pulled out his badge before anything was said. So they come and get their daughter, and probably dont even strap her in the carseat then because it is such a short drive. The husband being an mp, he should know better. The mom doesnt even let me have the carseat during the day in case anything happens that I need to take her daughter to the doctor or I have an emergency. I know she is wrong, I just need to know how to tell her she is. Also..her daughter is 10 months old, as I said before. The grandmother watches her constantly, and I only get her maybe a few days a month. I think the grama holds her constantly and babies her all the time, because everytime she is here, she refuses to not be held, and she has to be held to go to sleep, and even then that doesnt work, and she just screams and screams and screams until she finally falls asleep. After letting her fall asleep 3 or 4 times in my arms and her waking up the minute I lay her down, I just let her cry. I cannot hold her constantly all day. And when I try to feed her or give her a bottle, she always turns her head away, and starts whining then because she doesnt want to eat for some reason. And when I change her diaper, it takes me at least a few minutes to change it because she fights it. What am I to do? I am going to tell her I cant watch her anymore, because I cant take a baby who wont behave, but what am I supposed to do while I have her? Rhiannon, your input would be greatly appreciated also if you see this.


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I used it for my daughter...and sometimes even now (she's almost 30 months) I can put her in the sling and she's good to go while I do my dishes or light cooking or cleaning. Sometimes kids just want to be held. So, if you are going to keep watching her...you may want to consider doing that. My daughter has also fallen asleep in the sling...I'd just pull the sling back up over her back so it would give her more suppot. You may also want to try putting her down with some soothing music and maybe with one of the other kids. Since she is only at your place a few times a month...she may feel uncomfortable as it's not her "normal" place of sleeping...perhaps try using the exact same blanket/teddy set every single time she comes over...to create a familiarity... 

Hopefully they wont have to do it to their baby, but if they do I know its because its needed. Thank you all for your posts and advice


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