Last night, my DJ made a comment that I found extremely rude, but A) not sure if I'm overreacting, and B) what I should do next.
My club has, at most, 4 Black dancers a night. Normally, there are only 2, but last night, four of us were in with three stages open. At one point during the night, the rotation worked out to where all three stages had black dancers on, myself included. Since the other three Black dancers hate my rock music (something we joke about amongst each other) and the fact that he never intentionally sets up stages where all open stages have one type (blondes, Latinas, etc..), I suggested he switch myself and a White brunette who likes R&B. Upon realizing that there were in fact three Black dancers coming up, he joked that he would call it the "Pick a Nigga" set. Actually, what he said was: "I'll call it the Pick a Ni...hee hee...probably shouldn't say that...how about the P.A.N. set?" and looked at me as though I should burst out with laughter.
The night manager was standing next to him but either didn't hear, or chose to ignore it. I let both him & the DJ know it wasn't funny and I didn't appreciate it and started to walk off. The DJ said he was just joking and then proceeded to kiss my a&& and ended up changing the set.
I didn't mention it to any other dancers, b/c not everyone (Black, White, and Latina included) is as rational as I try to be, and I didn't want to cause a commotion. But a part of me feels that I should have been more vocal in my disappointment in him. I also wonder what about me made him think it was okay to say such a thing...the managers & DJs know that in my former corporate life, one of the mngmt classes I helped facilitate was a diversity class, so they like to give me a hard time, but no one has ever been derogatory. They will also tease me about my past two boyfriends being White, so ethnicity has come up before, but again, never in a derogatory manner.. anyway, kinda venting, but also wondering if I should have done more.



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So you dont feel he was trully ,sorry do you think you could ever forgive him for that if in fact he seemed sincere in his apoligies ? I'm not on his side I am on yours honey

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