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Last edited by trinity2005; 03-15-2005 at 06:24 PM.
I wouldn't confront her (especially if she's in that tight with everybody else). It would probably cause you more problems than you have now (even though you're not trying to start trouble I don't think she'd take it that way, since she's already got something against you).
If you can change to shifts she doesn't work and still be able to make money that's why I'd do. And I wouldn't drink anything she served me.
And you hunger for the time,
Time to heal, desire time.
And your earth moves beneath
your own dream landscape...
U2, "A Sort of Homecoming"





Maybe she will like you after you had been there a while are theyre any girls which you have a friendship with who could maybe talk to her and tell her to ease up . It sounds tough but hang in there and dont loose your cool .![]()
She is jealous. She's also almost as disposable as a dancer. Mention this to management. They probably make more money off of a cute new young thing like you than someone who is slinging booze and playing favorites. She also might have made other people mad and your complaint might be the one to push her strikes over the top.
I went through this too. What's going through her head? She's stuck behind the bar working a bar-rag and a cash register while you're raking in $$$ and attention. Classic catty-ass jealousy. Happens in every workplace.
I would seriously go to the management about this, and tell them what has been going on with this girl. I would be pissed, and it would be in my nature to get in her face, then probably kick her ass, but dont do that. Just tell management that she needs to stop fucking with your money, because that is what she is doing. Who the hell is she to be telling people behind your back not to get dances?!





Don't go there. It won't be worth it, I promise. And I bet she'll change her tune once you are 21 and are worth some cash to her. It's sad really but greed makes people act like jerks.I am from the hood and at any moment I am tempted to reach across the bar and knock her upside the head with a bottle, but it is my job. My question is should I confront her and tell her that if she dosn't like me then its fine, but any problems she has with me she can say to my face and not every time I turn my back?





Don't order cokes, because it's hard to tell when they're spiked with a little vodka. Stay with pineapple, orange and cranberry singly or mixed. If it tastes spiked, take the drink to management and tell them this is why you tested 0.05 on the breath test.
Serving alcohol to an underaged dancer who didn't even request it can get the club a costly liquor license suspension. And there's always a younger, cuter bartender out there who will follow the law.



If I were you I would handle the situation by talking to her in private. I would pull her to the side and politely ask if she had a problem with me. As long as you are nice and polite when you ask this question, she will more than likely say that she doesn't have a problem with you. When most people are politely confronted by someone with a problem that they know is true, they usually back off, and kiss your a$$, I know first hand, I've been in situations like this before, and usually the person gets embarassed by their childish behavior and is extra nice from then on Good Luck!
I completely agree. The other thing you can do is bring your own stuff to drink...or if you are going to drink something at the bar...get water.Originally Posted by SportsWriter2
It's even hard, sometimes to taste liqour in juices (because of the sweetness). If management asks why you are bringing your own cokes, etc, just tell them that you don't appreciate people spiking your drinks and this is the only way to ensure that your drinks from the bartender aren't spiked.
It's sad that people stoop to such pathetic levels. Management may start to realize that the other under-aged dancers that were let go for blowing any percentages may have had their drinks spiked by their bartender. Not only can they get their license suspended by the city, but that opens them up for civil suits from the dancers.
Go to management and express your concerns. Do NOT confront the bartender. Go to the mangement.
Don't start drama..and just kill her with kindness. I'm sure you do, but don't forget to to tip her for every drink..even water..as crazy as it sounds. If you want to talk to her..and so guys think that you'e drinking..tell her..hey..I'll get guys to buy drinks..and I'll let them think I'm drinking too..but when I order drinks make mine with pineapple juice only. That way the guy will think your having a drinky drink- tel him you got a pineapple vodka..and then that way he's buying drinks and then the bartender is making her money too. I did this sort of think in the champange room..I would never get champange...(makes me sick) but I wanted to make the sale...so I told the waitress to make me a mimmosa...and they would add 7-up to the juice to make fizzzly. That way the guy thought I was drinking!
Most definitely the best piece of advice above is to bring your own drinks in. This will minimise any contact you have with her, and eventually will be noticed by the people who hired you - who obviously want you there, depsite the behaviour of ths bitch behind the bar.
I like to avoid conflict at all costs, but happen to get really pissed when situations arise like the one you have outlined. It's the injustice of it I think.
When I look back over simliar incidents that have occured to me (and I am sure we have all ran into situations like yours, look at the response!!) I recognise that there was no easy solution. Sure with some folks you can take the "kill with kindness" attitude, but I don't think it will work in this case - she sounds like she is using her power / position to make your life hell and get you fired: being "nice" to her will make her feel all the more confident she can succeed.
Maybe the best thing is to up and leave?
Chad Weston
Male Stripper / Dancer / Entertainer
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