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    Guys!!!! Why do you think it's okay to blurt out things like, "You're a big girl." without being prompted by any sort of prior conversation, introduction, or anything?? I know that I'm tall. I know I'm not petite. I don't need your slobbering, drunk reminder. Now, if you happen to like a woman who is over 6' tall in heels and you say something like, "You're tall and not thin as a rail; I like that." then it's okay. Just venting. BTW, this happened last night.

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    I think that alot of people blurt out things that are hurtful to you because it it something that they don't see much. I am 5'9" without heels and also hear this statement alot.

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    I had a guy keep putting a drink on my head at a party Saturday and telling me I was the perfect height for that. I'm 5'0" and just used to getting it pointed out that I'm short. But I'm always like no shit. Really?

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    hey girl

    that shit sucks, i remember when i was like 14 this group of guys had a video camera walkin around and keep telling me to flash my boobs, and i keep saying NO! and then this one guy says " fuck it, she got no tits anyways" I was in shock!!

    fuckin bastard!

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    That has happened to me many times as well. I'm not fat, but I'm not a 19 yr old very thin woman either. I've heard the "you're a big girl," "you've got a beautiful face, not the greatest body in the world," etc... Men can be such dinks.

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    Almost invariably it's the fat guys, ugly guys, or guys with tiny penises who say shit like this. It makes them forget they are grossly inferior for a moment.

    When I was younger, before I started seriously working out, I was on the thin side--and it was always the fat girls who commented on this. Thin girls liked me just fine, lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser
    ...It makes them forget they are grossly inferior for a moment....
    And thus the potential effectiveness. It gives these empty souls a confidence and self esteem they've never known. They can cause pain!

    Occassionally abuse works as perceived "game" [charm?], because the victim submits to the rapist. Something to truly be proud of.

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    Glamazon,
    I know this is off topic but I thought I would share anyhow.

    When I lived in san.fran I worked at hustler for a short time and let me tell you your VERY popular there.
    Everynight I worked I had a customer ask if you were working and when I first started there I remember a girl exclaimimg to me''I wish I looked like Madaline she is so pretty''.

    I also had the pleasure of selling the calander at showgirls and must say that you look beautiful in it

    Don't listen to stupid , drunk , pathetic customers you are a hottie and everyone knows it


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    It's common for guys to say shit when they're not using their heads. The other night after getting half in the bag, an extremely heavy regular (ok, he's a raging fat ass) commented, "Don't take this the wrong way, but you've put on weight in all the right places". Granted he meant it as a compliment, but shit! Women generally don't want to hear that they've put on any weight at all!
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    Quote Originally Posted by MeganS
    "Don't take this the wrong way, but you've put on weight in all the right places". Granted he meant it as a compliment, but shit! Women generally don't want to hear that they've put on any weight at all!
    Exactly, That comment just shows how little ''experience'' he actually has with women.
    Any guy's who has ever had a girlfriend know's you never say anything to a woman concerning thier weight unless it's'' have you lost weight?''
    Even then we are likely to think ''What was he saying I was fat before?''
    lol


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    Oh, oh, oh! Once I was working with my (much prettier, thinner and more glam) roommate and a customer, comparing us (like that's ever a good way to start) says: "You know. She's built for speed. You're built for comfort." I was like, "Um, no... she's...um... comfortable too." I laughed. There are worse things.
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    this girl i worked with before in my <ghetto> 1st club always was crying and wanting to quit b/c a customer would call her over and tell her she was fat or one time one grabbed her gut and said: "what's this??? why are you working here?" this girl was NOT fat, she was petite and THICK....which means, she couldve been fat, but she toned so there was no cellulite on her at all. and she had a big beuatiful butt with no cottage cheese and big boobs that didnt sag at all. so i kept telling her to fuck them and when they asked for a skinny "bitch" (and im pretty skinny....5'9, 120) i went over there and informed them this was a "GENTLEMEN'S" club and now he'd prob wouldnt be getting any attention form anyone b/c of how he treated MY CO-WORKER. he even told me he would give me a $50 for a lapdance and i told him he prob didnt even HAVE $50 dollars. this guy would still try and get dancers to come to him on stage (let me also mention when we did, there would be no tipping), so he be like yelling and even when he was the only one at the stage...NO ONE would give him the time of day!!! no i know this doesnt usually happen between strippers i know, but we were a tight knit bunch at that ghetto club. we all were tight w/ eachother and hated the customers because they were discusting and no one spoke english...and they ALWAYS grabbbed and ALWAYS tryd to get sexins' in the back. so we all worked together to hustle. it was really a team effort to make money there! haha i miss those girls, but i do NOT miss the club in any other aspect.

    in other news, guys tell me all the time i have a black girls ass or call my the ivory sista! now i know this is supposed to be a compliment too....but can't you just say: "You have a niced shaped ass" instead of calling it fat or that it is a peach that you want to bite into and have the juice drip of yer face!?!?!?!?!? i mean good lord guys! they also call me a giant too....haha im 5'9 w/out my shoes as well.

    anyways gurl, don't worry about it, b/c yer gonna get a lot of it in this biz. most of these guys dont know how to get a girl, treat a girl or talk to one...thats why they say these dumb things. they also think you are working for them at the time....just let them have there fun and take lots and lots of the'r money.unless something really rude comes out that is totally uncalled for (i.e. grabbing a girls gut), either just tell them you have better ppl to talk to or laugh and walk away. thats what i do most the time. shrug it off...move on to the next man who thinks of you as his goddess!!! trust me, its the turn n burn effect.!
    fuck it.


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    Default Re: WTF?!?! I'm not that sensitive, but c'mon!!

    I'm 5'10 and wear 7" platforms making me well over 6 ft. This one annoying regular always feels the need to yell out that he loves big girls. I know he means tall since I'm not fat (150lbs) but it still pisses me of.

    When guys tell me "you sure are big" I just look at them and say " you don't get alot of dates talking to women like that, do you?"

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    Speaking from a guy's point of view. I will say it, 90% of guys are assholes and they think they are the shit. I would take it with a grain of salt. I know it is difficult but Karma usually comes around and they will get theirs in one way or another. Mostly, they are ass clowns who feel better about themselves by putting down other people, which is pretty pathetic. I am sure they are very pathetic guys and not worth your time in the long run.

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    some guy told me he hated my tall plastic shoes and they were ugly and i just said "yeah me too...they make us wear them. now lets go in VIP and then i can take these bitches off for awhile and we can complain about how stupid dancers look"

    hey, it worked...we were in there a good minute and i made some money complaining about my shoes!!!<---FYI i luv "them bitches" now that i know how to walk and dance in them!!! hahaa go with the flow, go with the flow.
    fuck it.


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    Why do girls get offended when guys say "You're a big girl."? Guys love non-petite women! Even though I am petite, my husband prefers large women--the larger, the better. If the girl is large enough to crush him, that's what he wants (he's a small guy). This is probably why we have no lovelife, only marriage papers and our kid. Men love tall, larger women, and this means in the clubs, too. Heck, you can have a face like a dude and they will still love you! So I can only imagine if you have a pretty face. The guy meant it as a compliment. It's just that when people get drunk, they sometimes don't know how to express themselves.

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    yes exactly- different folks, different stroks!!! (well, don't strok em, but you get my point)

    some guys like big girls, some guys like big boobs, some guys like lil ones, think legs, tall thin legs, black, white, latinos, asians (my fav!! hehe), blonde, brunette...just keep movin and groovin until you find the ones that like yer type....thats why they hire some thck girls and skinny girls at clubs...the have to have variety!
    fuck it.


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    I had some guy tell his friend that I needed a boob job the other day and I just ignored him. Then I happened to see them out at a club that night dancing and his friend was all excited to see me and I totally ignored the one that made the comment earlier. He was pretty pissed when we ignored him forever. HA HA taught him to talk shit for no reason. Guys seem to think they can say mean things like we aren't human beings, just bodies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SaritaLoca
    Guys seem to think they can say mean things like we aren't human beings, just bodies.
    It's because they're in a strip club. The same men who talk shit and look down their noses at us in the club would cream their pants if we walked up to them on the street and asked if they'd like us to dance for them.

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    You know, it's not always necessary a put-down - sometimes it is, of course, but not always. Women understand that guys are thick, but they don't really understand that guys are thick.

    Most guys don't have Mr. Brain review their statements before they make them. Hell, a lot of these guys won't even realise after the fact that they may have said something inappropriate. If you told them they said something wrong, they would be genuinely surprised.


    [I have a deal with my fiancee - I will always tell her the 100% truth about everything, even if she doesn't like it. This is generally a very good thing, but will occassionally blow up in my face when she asks me things like, "Do you think {girl walking past} is attractive?"]

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    On the upside, though, I do have a very funny "Big Girl" story to share...I was getting ready to do a table dance for a Chinese businessman straight from Shanghi. As I stood to start the dance, he says, in a very asian accent, "Oh, you are so HUGE!" No joke, I nearly peed my pants. To me there is a big difference hearing it from a slobbering drunk caucasian stateside male and hearing it from a foreigner who is not aware of any wrongdoing whatsoever.

    Magdelena_666: Thank you for the uplifting compliments! Brought tears to my eyes...things haven't been too great here in SF lately.

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    i've been dancing for going on four years, and if there's one important peice of advice i've given out to girls in this industry is DON'T let these guys bring you up or down. yes, i said it. don't let their insults affect you, OR their compliments. they both will have a negative affect over time. know that you are a fucking goddess, and also know that it's not because they think so.

    some nights i am everyone's idea of sexy, i make a shit-ton of money and most everybody is into me. other nights i can't get anyone to even stay at my stage. of course a lot of this has to do with my disposition, but that's another conversation, haha. regardless, develop a mindset that allows their comments, good and bad, to sail through without affecting what you see when you look in the mirror.

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    Quote Originally Posted by reighny in portland
    don't let their insults affect you, OR their compliments. they both will have a negative affect over time. know that you are a fucking goddess, and also know that it's not because they think so.
    This is some of the best advice I have seen here on SW. Way too many people wind up dependant on other people's feedback for their feeling of self-worth. In a business that depends on surface impressions for success, this is a real danger.

    True confidence comes from within, and the stronger it is, the easier it is to blow off pathetic assholes in stripclubs.
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    there's a girl in my club who's on the bigger side. very curvy. some call her 'fat'. guys would say to me stuff like 'wow, she's big' or 'she's too fat to be up there' funny thing, most of the guys were scrawny. my reply, 'well, she's a sweetheart and if i were you i wouldn't say it too loud, she may be 'fat' in your eyes, but she can flatten you with one asscheek' they're insults would stop there. sometimes, i would mention that i used to be overweight. this had a good effect as well.
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    I think guys just like to bitch. It's human nature to get off on putting others down while you side with someone. But being underweight you can look forward to just as bad, if not worse, direct comments from men. And actually women in clubs too. Things like "Take this five and buy a cheeseburger with it when you get off of work." or "Your breasts would fill out more attractively if you ate more." I think it's ideals as well. Think about the way guys often scan for attractiveness. There's going to be a middle range that hits their tastes, most often not in extremes. However, you'll find your guys who absolutely love it. And then you'll be the only one there that falls into their category of the perfect woman.

    And besides, if you're healthy and up on yourself who cares what some nameless guy at a strip club says?

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