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    My night was ruined last night. It was busy and I needed the money but couldn't go out there after what happened to me. Here's the story in the simplest form:

    I was onstage when a group of 4 guys came in. They were shitty tippers to be perfectly honest. One of the guys held out a dollar to me, so I bent down, held out my string and waited for him. He was taking a rather long time, next thing I know I feel fingers on my crotch. How nice the guy went under my legs, tried to pull my g-string down to tip me you know where. I was so upset that anyone would try to do this. I actually scolded him like a little boy and said "Um no RIGHT HERE!" and took his lousy dollar. Then his buddy asks me to take him for a dance, they were whispering comments to eachother my whole set. I wasn't even surE if they liked me. So I already being pissed at them, took the guy for dances without sitting and talking to him first. He pre-paid for one dance and after the first dance, I didn't even ask if he wanted anymore. I put my top back on and the guy sat there without making a move. He didn't say anything or do anything...just sat there. So I get up, and he's started to look a little confused. He then asks me "Um don't you give head here?" JUST LIKE THAT! I knew he was from a small town, so maybe the small town dancers give in for money...I don't know. Then it made me sick that he was married and asking for that. I told him he had better go outside and walk down the street maybe he'd have some luck there. He said "No, I don't want to do that." He said all of his as though he thinks that it is in a dancers job description to "give head". I was so pissed I told all the girls to not talk to them and no one did. They also knew of how they tried to tip me, and I watched as another girl had the same thing happen to her.

    Anyway, I wanted to quit over that. I should probably expect it to happen many more times, but I was just in shock that someone would literally expect it. I sat in the back room for 2 hours, and even asked the manager to go home early, but ended up sticking it out.

    But I must admit, the job really isn't for me either. I'm just trying to get through college.

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    Quote Originally Posted by julzgulz
    But I must admit, the job really isn't for me either. I'm just trying to get through college.
    oh come on, why do you say that? I'm sure you've heard worse on the college yard, right?

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    I'm sorry Julz. I can't even imagine how that must feel to be asked that. I was waiting for my ATF the first time I met her, and while I was waiting, I heard a guy ask her for head. She handled it like a pro. Told him no, said if he wanted a clean dance to find her later, and then took off with me. Dont let trash like that bother you. Hopefully, you'll find a nice custy who'll pay you big $$ and make it worth it.
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    I swear,in a year or so,this is going to be a real funny story for you.

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    I would have called the cops on him for trying to get you for oral sex. Busted his sorry ass.

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    Oh hon, that sucks. Some customers are just scummy like that. It's hard, but you have to learn not to take it personal--that the guy sucks, and it's his skewed view of exotic dancing that leads him to make a comment like that, nothing about you.

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    You have got to accept the fact that some of the customers are going to want more than a dance. That goes with the turf. Guys know that some dancers will offer extras in lieu of dances, so they are "shopping" around.

    A guy buying one dance is getting a "test drive" to see if you will give extras. Fortunately you got paid up front for the dance through the dance ticket system.

    We have to just accept the fact as dancers that men like sex from a variety of women and that has been the case for centuries and will never change.

    As they say, you don't always get what you want in life, you get what you expect. Some guys want and expect more than a dance and others will be ok with just dances and some friendly company.

    Just some friendly advice. Learn to take what some of these guys say and do with a grain of salt. If you go into work each night knowing that some guys will want extras, and not spend money unless you give them, and other guys will not behave in that manner, spend money on you, and be nice guys, you'll have less stress in your life.

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    Sucks to hear what happened to you, but I agree with Green in that eventually you'll look back and have a funny story to tell.

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    The cops come in every night and I didn't tell them exactly what happened, but I'm friends with one of the guys. I just said, "Go arrest the guys at the stage." But didn't bother with anything else cause he wasn't there and didn't see it happen. He also told me, I could become a cop and work under cover...which I might enjoy! hehehehehe. with all the shitty things that guys in there have said and tried to do to me. I don't know maybe I just get upset because they see me as a dumb blonde on drugs, and I know I'm smart, and in my 21 years have done more good than they have. I'd just like to be respected, rather than looked at as some prostitute.

    And no, lol. Never had anything like this said to me at school. They'll know I'll kick their ass , everyone says I scare them once they get to know me! AHAHAHA it's good. except I know I can't bitch out guys at work cause the last time I did that I got fired for being "unlady like".

    I have the good customers who pay me just to sit with them all night, just sucks when none of them come in!

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    You can make good money modeling,I have said it before and I'll say it twice,You got the look,go for it!Try entering americas next top model !Enter online... site..Sounds crazy?well it's worth a shot,you never know,half of the top super models stumbled across modeling by chance!here you are:
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    here ya go julz..promise me you'l enter:

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    Quote Originally Posted by julzgulz
    I'd just like to be respected, rather than looked at as some prostitute.
    <---- Madonna/Whore

    it's like some model saying "I'd just like to respected, rather than looked at as some stripper". prostitutes deserve the same respect the rest of us do. no one should be seen as stupid or taken advantage of. but that is the reality of the situation: some guys will see you as less than human anywhere.

    Quote Originally Posted by julzgulz
    I have the good customers who pay me just to sit with them all night, just sucks when none of them come in!
    that's true. but those guys could have demanded head and had no intention of paying for SHIT. I say a good customer is a paying customer. If they're that much of a gentleman to pay you to chat it up then that's an added bonus. I'm glad you seem to be feeling better about this though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by julzgulz
    ... They were shitty tippers to be perfectly honest...
    ... next thing I know I feel fingers on my crotch ...
    ... they were whispering comments to eachother my whole set. I wasn't even surE if they liked me...
    Remember, taken in combination, these are forewarnings. Red flags. Alarms going off. Trust your instincts when you see that stuff happening. Their generosity and manners aren't going to get any better, so once you've sized them up, avoid these dipsticks even if you have to pretend you're busy somewhere else.

    Quote Originally Posted by julzgulz
    "Um don't you give head here?"
    "Oh, that was last week's special. This week, we're running a special on blue balls. Buy one, get one of equal or smaller size free."

    -Ev

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    wow! how blunt and rude! some guys just think that we are objects to fullfill there desire not humans trying to get by.

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    I'm sorry, but the moment one of those guys touched my crotch, I would have had the bouncer all over them and had them kicked out. That's not worth $20, much less $1. Never be afraid to have these morons dealt with accordingly.

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    Hun I swear you have the craziest stories??!! Seems like you work in the twilight zone? Im sorry that happened to you hun (If I were you Id be very inclined to smack someone ) but I know you cant go around smacking someone.
    Those types of people are better left alone after the dance you gave. They want more so just offer them to hit up the hooker blvd for some extra fun. Seems like extras arent your thing and good for you for staying your ground and not giving in. ahhh so proud ::sniffles::
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    Yup. Next time some guy tries crap at the stage save your energy and time and report it a bouncer and by all means do not dance for the guy-- think about it if he would try to finger you on the main floor he's gonna get worse in a private dance for sure.

    Sorry you had to deal with such a complete asshole-- there 's a fair share of them out there though.

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    Some small town guys are just ignorant hicks. He may have never been to a strip club. Maybe his friend was like 'pay her 20 in the back room and she'll blow you', just to see his dissapointment when he comes out after.

    If a guy said this at lotsa clubs, he'd get slapped or at least bitched out in a major MAJOR way (think drink flying in face, girl telling everyone in the VIP what this looser just said to her, waitress ignoring all future requests for liquor).

    They were just some dumb f*cks and you should have told them so. If you want to last in this business you're gonna have to voice a response when someone puts you down! You must maintain your self respect, and this means learning to express and expel anger when the situation requires. In my time dancing I have hit customers (i.e.: you should have done this when he tried to touch your coot on stage), I have told off customers for all to hear, I have spilt drinks on $2000 suits and extinguished my cigarette on some very expensive loafers. This all sounds extreme to girls from 'outside' the club, but we are in 'extreme' situatuations every night! Think about it: someone called you a whore last night. And what did you do? Nothing!! You kept the anger and offence you took inside, you wasted the rest of the night, you wined to the manager about goig home early... this will never work! In the real world you should be 'ladylike', not yell and so forth. But in the club, the rules do NOT apply. This is because the club attracts men who want to find a VICTIM, not just have a good time and beer.

    You owe it to yourself and every other dancer on this earth to not allow yourself to be victimized. That ass wipe just might go on to another club and say the same thing. What have you done to shut him up from doind it?

    I know you strip to make money for school. I am in the same position. If you let people at work mess with your head, customers in particular, it will disrupt your life and studies and it will no longer be an 'avenue', rather, it will be a 'hurdle'.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk
    Hun I swear you have the craziest stories??!! Seems like you work in the twilight zone?
    It does seem like you have the worst luck I hope it gets better. There are lots of stupid-ass-hicks in the world. Unfortunately, it seems that lots of them show up at your club...
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    Quote Originally Posted by DeepGreen
    Unfortunately, it seems that lots of them show up at your club...
    way to cheer her up deepgreen. jk

    At least it wasn't these guys. They are awaiting their couch dance and head:

    http://www.collegehumor.com/?image_id=107270

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    my favorite thing to tell guys who want sex of any kind: 'well, honey, you know that 1 in 5 people has an std, right? you know condoms don't protect you from certain stds like herpes and genital warts right? even if no symptoms are present!' this usually kills their boners.

    they touch my crotch: pull out my bloody tampon and say 'oh is this what you were trying to get at?' toss it onto them. gross, but the best natural defense a girl can have.
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    Damn Toxic, you don't play around. It's good to see girls who don't give in to that silly bullshit. It's sad to know, however, that even though most of the girls on this site have never, and would never partake in extras, there's still a high number out there who will. I think if someone pesters you girls for extras, they deserve what they get. Either or . Lots of respect goes out to you girls. I know it can't be easy, and you earn every penny you get.
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    Quote Originally Posted by julzgulz
    One of the guys held out a dollar to me, so I bent down, held out my string and waited for him. He was taking a rather long time, next thing I know I feel fingers on my crotch. How nice the guy went under my legs, tried to pull my g-string down to tip me you know where. I was so upset that anyone would try to do this. I actually scolded him like a little boy and said "Um no RIGHT HERE!" and took his lousy dollar.
    4 years ago I had a similar experience while dancing nude. While I was completely nude and in front of him, 70 year old drunk birthday boy grabbed a wad of ones from the stage, lunged forward and attempted to shove them into my crotch. It all happened so fast and I handled it with style, but once I got off stage, I burst into tears. This was at the time and still is the most humiliating, degrading thing to happen to me in my 6 years in the business. I feel for you. As far as his verbal request, I hear that WAAAAAYYYYY too often for it to phase me...

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
    I swear,in a year or so,this is going to be a real funny story for you.
    I don't think it's funny to be sexually assaulted at all...for all the world to see can make this an extremely painful experience. Usually, I am pretty hard to offend that way, but in this case....

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    This is it, I mean as long as it wasn't physically threatening it is some lame wankers to me. I've had that happening too, who has never heared a comment like "and now we're fucking in the parking lot - please give me a bj, please, just one, please..."
    It happens in this bussiness and I don't give a rats ass anymore, sometime even point out where he can find hookers (legal) some place nearby. only If he isn't too big a jerk.
    I found out the best way is to get used to the fact that some cutys are asshole. Actually most are not and some are even great guys but there is one every (or every other) night.
    heads up, girl, don't letit get to you

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