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    This is my first time on this site and it has a lot of good information but I have noticed that the younger customers (18-20) get a bad rap.
    When I go to the clubs I notice that strippers tend to avoid me.
    The only way I can get any of them to talk to me is if I bring a couple of my older friends with me.
    C'mon, I try my best. I dress nicely, bring lots of money, and am always nice.
    I guess it does kind of make since though. Us young'uns don't look very profitable.
    Well what I'm getting at here is how can i make myself look more "profitable" to dancers so they will notice me?

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    Most dancers know that its the older men with $ and that will spend $, and the younger ones that just want to piss around and not pay us for our time. As long as you are a good tipper while the girls are on stage, and if a girl sits with you buy her a drink (if the club makes the girls sell drinks, this is a good idea), and probably buy a dance, you should get at least some attention. And be a gentleman.

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    First of all, don't take it personally. Like JZ said, we're just working the demographics. In addition to tipping the girls on stage, I would also suggest tipping the waitress well. Believe me, word does get around.
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    Suggestion - pick a club where you feel comfortable and that you can afford, start going to that same club regularly, on the same night of the week if possible (pick a night that's not very busy like a Monday or Tuesday), until you get to know one or two of the girls well, treat them with respect (in other words don't hit on them), be generous (but not overly so), and make them laugh. Treat them like good buddies, not potential girl friends. In no time flat every girl there will know who you are, that you're a good customer, and will be anxious to get to know you. Sometimes when no one knows you it takes a little while to be accepted, no matter what your age, and that's true in any bar, not just strip clubs, because most of the people there know each other. Be patient and invest a little time and effort, it's worth it. Good luck and enjoy.
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    My club, Stilettos Nanuet has always had college aged guys hanging out and as long as their bankroll is green and plentiful, the ladies are quite happy. I've been going there for a long time now and I've always felt welcome. Generally though in most clubs, the ladies would be correct to assume that the older gentleman have a large enough bankroll to keep everyone happy.

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    Default Re: Sticking up for the little man

    Well what I'm getting at here is how can i make myself look more "profitable" to dancers so they will notice me?
    Walk right up to them at the rail, and tip a $5 or a $10, and you'll have plenty of attention.

    I still for the life of me cannot figure out why more customers just don't approach dancers and ask for the dance. It's not like they're going to say no, unless you're particularly offensive or malodorous. I've only been turned down once, and that was because she was late for a line in the bathroom.

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    Yeah, you might just want to start off by asking. After going into the same club and spending money one or two times, the dancers will notice and start coming to you. And if you spend a lot on just one or two, they'll be sure to remember you.

    As for me, I didn't go to a strip club for the first time until I was 23, but I have occasionally gotten the same feeling where the girls were all walking by me in favor of older guys. Thats one reason I sometimes enjoy the 18 and over clubs; in there I am the old fogey getting all the attention.

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    Maybe it's an upstate NY thing Red, because at my old 18+ club EVERY guy got hustled. Mostly by "wannadances," but all of the customers got asked by nearly all the dancers. But yeah, I've had some very good young customers, if need be do ask a dancers to come and spend some time with you after her set. But usually tipping more than $1 will work.
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    I had no problem attracting hordes of strippers when I was going to strip clubs when I was a bit younger.

    Dress in loud clothes, show your money...keep cash in your pocket. A lot of strippers love the younger guys, regardless of what you're told. A lot of stippers like to have fun with their customers regardless of what you're told. As time goes by, you'll get girls sitting to talk with you during breaks. Those will very likely be girls you should look for the next time you go...not always the case though.

    Just be sure to pace yourself once you become a popular customer. You'll run into shady strippers, especially once you become a popular customer. Respect all the dancers but don't feel you owe them all $20 dances everytime they ask.
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    Wow, this board works fast.
    Thanks for all the advice.
    Well I'll be going back to the club for a friend's party,
    Time to put all this knowledge to the test!

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    Default Re: Sticking up for the little man

    Quote Originally Posted by Ranado
    C'mon, I try my best. I dress nicely, bring lots of money, and am always nice.
    I guess it does kind of make since though. Us young'uns don't look very profitable.
    Well what I'm getting at here is how can i make myself look more "profitable" to dancers so they will notice me?
    It sucks to be stereotyped. I have the opposite problem. Because I'm older and dress nicely the dancers automatically assume I have money

    Seriously, you do have a heavy cross to bear. I believe the ladies, being business people, want to maximize their return on invested time. From everything I hear, their odds are better with the older gents. Not always true but with a finite amount of time available they have to play the odds.

    Your idea of hitting the club with older friends is a good one. Another thought is to tip heavy at the stage if you see a woman who interests you a lot. Heavy, in my mind, is a minimum of 5 or 10 bucks. I dont think an extra dollar will achieve the results you want unless the club is very slow.

    If its any consolation, 10 or 15 years from now you will find yourself in a totally different customer catagory. Instead of posting here about a lack of attention, you will post asking "How can I refuse all the dancers who approach me without offending them?" Till then, just hoard your money

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    Enjoy your youth it will pass before you know it , the dancers will come just spend some money the word will travel fast .

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    Just find some dancer you like, give her a nice tip onstage, and ask her to come over when she's finished. That usually works.
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    If you want to be approached more often I recommend that you always go to a club ALONE, and dress conservatively.

    Bring the buddies along when you go to a real nightclub.

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    If you want to be approached more often I recommend that you always go to a club ALONE, and dress conservatively.
    That's a good point, too.
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    I love younger guys! Come to my club!

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    You mentioned that you bring money, but do you spend it? I notice that many younger guys will bring money so they look cool, but instead of getting dances, they will sit at the stage, do shots, and drool. Not cool. Dancers will only pay attention if you are SPENDING.
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    Def don't take it personal. A lot of what has been said here about college guys is true, all over the country. Their behavior is very predictable, most of the time. Their finances are very predictable, most of the time. I myself stopped approaching college guys a long time ago. Most of the time I'd sit and chat (trying to get a dance) and all they were trying to do is take me home. When I did ask for a dance, they always said, "No."

    You have been given great advice here and I would def take it. Good luck!

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