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    Reznor
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    Default Grinding the "big ones".

    A few weeks ago, I was visiting a club here (trying to test the water to see if I wanted to work there). Anyway this guy came in that had to weigh at least 300 lbs. I was watching a girl attempt to mount him, and a flood of memories came back. Particularly about a time when I had to give such a guy a bed dance. I couldn't stradle him, because he was too big. He told me to Sit on his stomach. I couldn't even maneuver around him, and I felt bad afterwards, although he seemed to enjoy himself. I appologized for giving a "weak dance", but he just laughed and waved it off.

    Anyway I was wondering how you go about dancing for larger men. Especially for lap dances with grinding. I uh... I'm really small, but I still can't "get in there" enough to make it work.

    Sorry if I sounded rude. I'm just really curious how everyone else goes about dealing with bigger customers.

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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    Simple answer: I don't. I'm five foot nothing and my little-bittiness climbing over some mammoth belly is fun for neither of us, so why bother? Let the long-legged co-workers at him, he'll enjoy it more.
    He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    I'm 5'4. I wear my 7 inch heels and when I dance for a big guy..I find for sure that they like tight hugs (if you're willing to do that) secondly I just dance for them the best I can as I would a skinny guy. I danced for a big guy the other day and climbed all over him, mailny balancing myself on his knees but kind of crawling up on his stomach..and believe me he did not mind. I have danced this same way for big guys in the past..but hands down..I find that they are the ones that love affecionate hugs the best...(and of course he at least has to smell decent before I do that!) Hope this helps

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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    It does Amber, thanks.

    As for not dancing for them, I mean when they request you. Like the guy I gave the bed dance to had waved me over. It would have been really harsh of me to have ignored him. =/

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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    i've found the advice girls give here for low-contact/airdancing (light touches on arms and legs, lots of eye contact) to go over better with larger guys than trying laboriously to 'lap' dance them (since they haven't a lap to work with anyhow). they seem to buy more dances when i do that, anyhow.

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    Maybe try dancing in front of him instead of trying to grind him.Since he probably cant see much past his belly and since his belly is in the way for you anyways

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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    I don't particularly care to dance for really obese men, but they spend money just the same.
    What I do is ignore grinding because there is not much point to rub on the guy's enormous stomach. I will do the "cuddle dance," often standing up as it works better. Sometimes with all that belly there's no room to sit, LOL. I will also do massages for these men and they seem to appreciate it.
    Or I have seen some girls kind of straddle one of the guy's legs and lightly grind on that instead, pretending to get themselves off. Whatever works I suppose...
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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    I love big guys, and they love me. Like someone said above, they almost all love affection. Give 'em a hug and run your fingers through their hair and they turn into puppy dogs and follow you into the champagne room for the rest of the night.

    Anyways, I dance for them just like I would anybody else (I don't really do the straddle-grind thing anyways). I ass grind a little, I lay back on their belly, I put one knee next to them on the couch, and my other leg between their legs, and do like a body wave against them. Lots of eye contact and affection is key tho. They don't want to hear that your sorry you couldn't give them a better dance, they want to hear that they have the sexiest eyes you've ever seen and you love the way they look at you when you dance for them.



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    Do what is comfortable for YOU. As a tall, long legged woman, it is impossible for me to straddle a very large man. They know this. They are aware of their size. All that is expected of you is to treat them like any other customer, within your physical limits...If you do get a complaint, then and only then, do you apologize for the "weak" dance and explain your limitations....

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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith
    Simple answer:Let the long-legged co-workers at him, he'll enjoy it more.
    We don't have it any easier when it comes to the big ones. I just dance around in front and light touches, pretty much like everyone else said. We have one regular who fits this description and he gots lots of dances. All he wants is to have his nipples rubbed! It's the easiest LD in the world to give!

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    Well sure to say if you can do a split it makes it easier. I find with these guys i had to kinda start with my back towards him and sway around before coming down on his body, (i danced nude) what ever part i was doing, lol. Then stop and turn around face him, talk some ( sexy words) and put his legs together a tad while i came in from the front. I would put his legs together so he could see better and i could get in closer. Some guys are all spread out and want to stay that way...ouch, then you just kinda take a leg on his lap, and a hand on his shoulder come in close to face him and do his leg/s or one thigh on his crotch area, kinda what Lena was saying, but with me it was on the floor.

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    Default Re: Grinding the "big ones".

    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith
    Simple answer: I don't. I'm five foot nothing and my little-bittiness climbing over some mammoth belly is fun for neither of us, so why bother? Let the long-legged co-workers at him, he'll enjoy it more.
    I had to learn that the hard way on my very first night. I was requested for a dance by a gentleman of relatively large proportion. I knew I was going to have problems doing it, but I did the best I could. A lot of people were watching me (first night, huge guy....lol).

    It was the single most embarassing event of my first night, but I sucked it up and did it. I'm like you, I'm small so doing big guys is kinda tough.

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