So, one of the questions I get asked alot when people find out that I strip is "doesn't it make you hate men?", and I always answer no. There are good and bad people regardless of gender. People also question how the work affects me emotionally, if I've become jaded or cynical about men or relationships or sex. I've always answered no to that as well. I work in a small, friendly club, where the management treats us really well, the bouncers are always on our side, and the girls are friendly and almost always get along. I'm a smart girl, who made an educated choice to do what I do for work, and I am happy with that choice and the fun, freedom and confidence it has provided me with.
However, since I started reading and posting on other strip club boards (mainly the SC section of www.terb.ca) I've noticed an insane amout of hatred from the men on these boards towards dancers. They post the most terrible things, make sweeping generalisations, talk about dancers as if we're all the same (greedy, drug addicts, mean, incapable of real relationships etc.) There are threads about how strippers make bad girlfriends and can't have relationships, about how strippers are greedy and selfish. They talk about us like we are't even human beings.
Reading these boards really shocks and hurts me and I start to wonder if all men who come into clubs think like this but just hide it? And also, if these assholes hate strippers so much, why post on the board, why visit strip clubs???
I understand all the underlying issues...it's a power thing etc. etc. but it still hurts and angers me to read these boards (and yet I keep going back!!!). I once even posted a link to SW for the girls on the board, and all the guys just posted comments about how conceided and greedy the girls here are (????!!!!).
Anyway, I know I should just stop reading the boards and focus on my club and my work, which is fine....but it's like, now that I know there are so many guys out there with such terrible, misogynistic attitudes, it's making work harder. I mean, I always knew these attitudes existed, I'm not naive...but I just never knew it was to the degree it is....grrrr...I always thought most of the negative attitudes towards strippers came from women, or anti-sex work feminists, or the conservative right, or relgious "family" groups or whatever...not from the customers!
sigh.
sorry for the rant guys, I guess I just needed to get this out to people who I know will understand!




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