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    Waiting too long for a regular

    How come it takes so long to find a regular? Every time I had a regular I worked at the club for a minimum of 3 months before meeting the regular. And it's not like he's been watching me all that time, sometimes it's their first time at the club and they get hooked on you. It's not like they can sense it's your first day/week and therefore avoid you untill a few months pass! I don't get it

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    Default Re: Waiting too long for a regular

    I don't know how girls end up with regs who spend crazy amounts of cash on them on a weekly basis, or every single day the girl is there. I have never had one of those. Only the guys who come in, what, maybe once a month, and only buy a few dances. And there are some really jerky regulars that need to go away. I just got rid of one recently. I have decided to not even wait for a real regular--I don't think I'm one of those chicks that "regular" thinking guys want. Annnd, the lower level regs that I seemed to attract were usually not even worth my time. The time I have spent with my now fairweather regulars could have been spent making more cash than sitting with them for free! So now I just spend time with them if I am in need of dances and such. Good luck, though. If you are one of those golden girls who is always able to find the regs with the golden wallets, then a little waiting doesn't seem so bad.

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    Girl, I've wondered this many times myself. I honestly think it depends on the kind of club you work at. Some clubs (like mine) get a lot of out of towners and there it can be tough to get a regular. In the 1 1/2 years I've been there I've only had 2 actual regs and they didn't last long (1 still comes around occasionaly). Now, as for the clubs where it's more locals - well I don't know...Maybe it just takes some time for them to "notice" you, or maybe some men go through needy fazes in their life. Who knows?

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    I think regulars DO depend on your type of club. When I started at my current club, I made a few regulars on my first few shifts, but I put it down to it being because we operated on dayshifts and it allowed customers the time to talk to and get hooked on you. It's easier to persuade them to come back to see you when you're not caught up in a rowdy nighttime atmosphere where 100 guys are shouting in your ear. Well, anyway, that's what I think.

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    It's about relating with your customer in a way other girls dont.. he feels comfortable with you and feels you also enjoy his company in return. It makes no difference how long you work there.. it's a connection.. you provide him with what he seeks: company, friendship, sensuality, or simply the best dance he ever had.


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    Personally, I prefer not to have any regulars. That's just me, though. It kinda gives me the creeps that someone would follow me around or get too attached to me. I prefer my club where there are soooo many out-of-towners that getting and keeping regs is very rare. It does happen, but I refuse to give out my phone number, email, or anything like that. *shudders* I am more about finding the guy who will spend all of his money on me that one night. Maybe I'm more of a *one-night* girl and not like the *steady* one. LOL Oh, well, I prefer that someone doesn't get hooked on me where they'll come in every night that I dance. That just scares me.

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    ^5 Venus. The out of towners are the best. I have a couple of regs but none of them spend lots of money on me, maybe $100 or so. I just occasionally call them on my 20-25 minute drive to the office, if I feel like it.

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    Default Re: Waiting too long for a regular

    Gaining regulars is pretty much "luck of the draw"..........for the most part, I don't care to accumulate them, don't want customers getting too "close" to me.......however, there are those wonderful few who just come into the club whenever, see you and then want to spend all their money on you.........no exchange of contact info necessary.
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    Developing regulars is not something a dancer has to work at. A dancers communication style with the customers is what opens up the door for regular followers.

    Look at the dancers who have regular customers. Most regulars won't come in every night. Those types don't last long. Look at some day shift girls. They sit and talk with a guy and are good company AND good LISTENERS.

    A dancer who is friendly, who is a good conversationalist and good listener develops regulars. Guys who become regulars or have ATFs in a club truly enjoy a girls company as well as her dances.

    Some novice dancers don't seem comfortable talking and pampering a customer. And when a customer offers his phone number they won't give theirs. A few minutes on the phone with these guys randomly when they call, or a return call with a message left shows interest. The guys who keep calling but don't come in the club should be ignored. You let the guys know when and where you are working and you should have it prearranged when they are coming in the club.

    Beyond the erotic stimulation, a guy who is attracted to a dancer likes her personality and the feeling he gets being with her.

    When a dancer is uncomfortable being too close to a customer, the customer can feel that. Loosen up with the guys.

    Watch the veteran dancers who have regulars who come in from time to time. Watch how they interact with each guy while working the floor. Copy them.

    You can't measure a regular by how much he spends or how he spends it as all of them vary.

    Some regulars will come to see you once a month and spend $100-$300 and not spend on anyone else. Others may come in and always buy 5-15 dances from you. Others still may ask you what you want for special occasions, spend hundreds of dollars on gifts, send you roses, and also spend several hundred or more on you at the club, AND give you several hundred more for a private show.

    Contact with them is important to keep regulars as long as they will last. Only a few in my experience will justify an occasional lunch or private show. Those are the kinds that last longer.

    Novice dancers are afraid to have a customer call because their guy may freak out. Veteran dancers husbands or boyfriend recognize Jim or Bobs number on the cell phone and know they are extra money to their girl, and have no jealousy.

    You just have to play it by ear. Be better company to guys who appear interested in you AND buy multiple dances. If those guys want to exchange numbers, do so, and see what develops. These guys who spend $100 or more on you, buy you a drink, tip the waitress decently and are respectful should be dealt with the way I described and as you get 6-7 guys like this 2-3 should pan out as YOUR regular spending patrons. They can last for several months or several years.

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    Default Re: Waiting too long for a regular

    excellent advice, Tina!

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    Default Re: Waiting too long for a regular

    regulars can be really high maintnance so some people bypass the games and just work the floor. I prefer regulars because im a good BSer and I like having a steady income w/o working so freakin hard.
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    Excellent advice from Tina! The only thing I would add is that to develop regulars you should try and work a regular schedule. If a customers seems to really like you, be sure and tell him your schedule. As he's leaving be sure and say something like "I'm here tuesday thru friday, 1 to 7, stop by and see me again sometime". This only works if you are dependably there when you say you will be. Maybe he's a salesman who visits a nearby customer of his regularly, or maybe his wife has a night out with the girls every thursday and he "works late" on thursdays. Guys are creatures of habit. The only way you will become one of their habits is to be dependable.
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    Very good advice Tina! And right on to Kat when she mentioned the calling of regs on the way to work.

    We have 3 cell phones in our household. One is his cell, I have on for friends and family and the other is for work stuff.

    The only # a reg will get from me is my work cell. It's a pre-paid cell with my stage name as the account holder. The address for the club is the account address. It's virtually untraceable for that purpose. I don't mind if my regs have a number to contact me with. A few of them are from out-of-town; and they like to see if I will be working the nights they come in.

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