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    Hey ya'll...newbie here. (How annoying is that the 70th time you hear it). I've been on this site for a/b a month or so checking out the vast amount of information. I must agree with every other newb when I say extremely informative. Still have a Q for the dancers though-what do you do or have you done when you see someone you know well? Does it happen often? I want to start dancing, but I'm worried about getting naked in front of people that are still in my life on a daily basis (if they ever by chance wander into the club). I don't care about total strangers or even people that I used to know. I'm comfortable with my body. It's just that I'm not comfortable yet with the idea of being this "other person" in front of people that actually know me. I wish I could keep both lives separate, but it's not like they screen at the front door for people you know, ya know? Any advice or stories??

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    A few times someone I knew came to the club, and every single time they were respectful enough to not look while i was on stage, or go outside for a ciggarette.. But it is really very rare! I worked at a club that was the most local to where I grew up and went to school, etc.. it was still very rare for someone you know to come in!

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    I ran into the guys from my mother's co-ed fraternity. They wanted my dance, and then recognized me.

    Play it cool. Laugh about it. They can't laugh at you if you laugh at yourself first. Never show embarassment.

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    One of my boyfriends friends came in to my club once. There is no way I would have been able to get naked in front of him. It would have been way to akward so i explaned my situation to the DJ and he made sure I did not have to go on stage untill his friend was gone, thank god!
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    That is what I'm talking about (magdalena)...I'm worried about dancing while one of my boyfriends friends is there or comes in. It would be extremely uncomfortable. I know they frequent strip clubs b/c I've even run into them (as a custy) at a club in the suburbs. Even though the club I want to dance at is in the city (40 minutes away), there's a chance that this might happen since it's rumored to be the best. If I were to get hired, do you think that the Management/DJ would understand and let me "sit this one out" until they left (if it ever happened)?

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    one time two people i knew came in. one was a friend (we'll call him ted), the other a loser who just want to get in my pants (we'll call him nick). i was fine at first, but got really uncomfortable when i was one stage and the way nick looked at me. i felt very humiliated. i didnt even get naked. i was trying to work and nick kept staring at me when i was trying to get dances. people kept asking if nick was my bf cause he way the only pierced & inked guy in there and they way he watched me. i felt so awkward i asked them to leave so i could do my job. they wouldnt. it was so bad! turns out nick dragged ted out there. ted was willing to leave (and later apologized to me about everything), nick found my work as an excuse to ogle me. i really didnt like it. to this day, i make sure nick knows very well he will NEVER get in my pants, no matter how many girls think he's hot. (he's also very egotistical) nick complains when i tell him not to come in (plus he thinks $1 will get me naked) loser!

    since then, everyone knows not to come in.
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    This happened to me tonight!

    I abandoned my shift and reminded my guy friends that the club is off limits. I gave them a lot of shit because by my not working and their not leaving, I lost $400 of earnings.

    I've seen other dancers flee to the dressing room when they see someone from their day jobs and sit there until their coworkers leave. Mgmt understands.
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    Thanks Lizette. Management is made out to be evil on this site, which is totally understandable. So, it's hard for me to beleive that they'll just let you run into the dressing room. But it's not like they can force you to go out and dance...can they? Anyone? What about when your already on stage and dancing in the middle of a song?

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    Actually my fear if I start dancing is someone I know from my day job, not just someone I know. The one time I got pulled up on stage in a strip club and took off my top I was with my boyfriend and another couple. Since they were pretty cool (in fact my friend was a dancer for a while too) it was no big deal but still kind of weird. Now if a client from my day job were to come in I'd just about die. Chances are if they would be in there they'd be cool with it but you know how guys talk and next thing you know it gets around and I just don't know how that would affect me. I work with all kinds of people but some are kind of uptight. One guy got freaked because I came to his office in a mini skirt, a tank top, and sandals. Now I was off that day and picking up a check and driving around in the heat, but he totally made a big deal that I must be "cold" and not to come to his office that way. I think he for instance would FREAK if he heard I was a stripper. It's not so much that I care what people think about me but I don't want to hurt myself in my day job life or hurt the firm that I work for so I guess that's why I'm still on the fence about whether I should dance.

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    Been there done that.

    Stripped once for a private party FULL of people I knew. I don't recommend that, though.

    When I was at Tiffany's, I was a soph at ASU and occasionally guys I'd met on campus or seen in classes would come in. Didn't happen often, but a few times. I had a dark wig in the back and would pop it on and change my makeup. After that, my MOM wouldn't recognize me.

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    This is a risk you take if you dance in your home town. It's bound to happen unless you decide to hit the road. If somone you know does come in the club might let you sneak out, they might night.

    A girl I used to work with freaked when a friend of her dads came in and she asked management to get him to leave. This guy is also one of the clubs high rollers and management told her that they wouldn't ask him to leave, too much $$$ to loose. She decided to stay and she talked to him. He's very respectful of her and has not told her dad.

    If you are worried about running into someone you know you might want to dance out of town.

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    G'day Taurus Heart! I suppose it depends on who it is - I've had friends come in to watch me dance and it hasn't been a problem, they got a good laugh out of it as did I. I've also had a few people from uni that I've recognised, guys and girls. The only thing that happened to me was that a couple of the guys asked me out when I next saw them, that was all. Nothing really serious.

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    My husband's boss come in to my club all the time. At first, it bothered him, now we just sit and have a drink together and he'll tip me. It does depend on who it is. But do remember this, they are there for about the same reason you are (except you're there to take their money, and they're there to spend theirs). I wouldn't worry too much about it, just make a joke of it and move on. If you make a deal about it, then they may feel weird or make fun of you. A lot of times if you see someone you know, you can ask the dj to skip you until they leave. Or get a wig like susan said.

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    Well, once I ducked out of work, but the other times I ran right into them, so I just had to fess up and deal with it. Everyone has reacted positively so far, but I'm sure that they've told people and there are some who know and aren't happy. Sucks to be them, I just hope it doesn't hurt my career path outside of stripping. Fingers crossed.

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    This is something that bothers me. My mom's bestfriend's daughter (whew!) works at a club (not the one I want to work at), so I am worried that she would see me if I started dancing, and the word would get back to my mother. Just something you have to deal with when the time comes, I guess.

    But on another aspect- has anyone ever intentionally told their friends/co-workers to come watch them dance (especially just starting dancing)? There are some guys at my day job that I am cool with that I know would jump at the chance to see me naked.
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    When I started dancing, I invited a couple of guys I was close with from my low paying dayjob! They gave me good feedback and tipped me well. We remained friends, no one freaked out. But you should KNOW they will be cool......

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