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    I just answered the poll in Stripping Gen about abuse and it made me wonder how many of us have been a victimize by someone b/c of ur ethnic, religious or sexual identity.

    Here's my story...... back in 10th grade I had just broken up w/ a GF and had a MAJOR crush on this cute cheerleader. I guess it was obvious that I liked her even though I never hit on her or asked her out or anything ( she had a senior bf ) b/c one day at lunch she invited me to hangout after her cheerleading practice.... I said yes ofcourse and waited for outside the gym..... when she got done she asked me 2 help take some stuff 2 her friends car and when we got 2 the car her BF and 3 of his friends got out of the car and forced me in2 it..... they gagged n tied me up then drove 2 one of their houses.... once we got there they dragged me inside and then the 4 guys raped me all the while saying stuff like "dumb dike" and "we're gonna make u in2 a real woman" ... one of them shoved a soda bottle up my ass and was laughing & saying stuff like "this is how u queers like, right ".........when they finished w/ me they took me back 2 school & said if I told on them they would kill me..... I was only 15 and so I didn't have the full knowledge yet about things like rape kits & dna..... the worst part was I had 2 see these kids everyday at school untill I graduated..... needless 2 say I didn't try and date anyone, much less any girls untill I moved out of that town.

    I guess I'm posting this to let others who may have also been a victim of a hate crime that they are not alone and also b/c it get easier to heal after u have shared ur story...it's like after u get it out in the open it becomes easier to let it go some....anyway I hope my story will help someone else either feel not so alone or help others who harbor prejudices understand what discrimination can turn in2 when left unchecked or when others tolerate it.

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    I hope you find some healing in this sharing of very tragic circumstances.

    And I am glad you realize THEY are the ones at fault, not you.

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    hey, thanks.... I did it as much 4 me as other people out there who may have gone through something similar.... I always knew it wasn't my fault... I guess that makes me lucky though, I know others haven't had that

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    OMG!!! I am so sorry.

    *hugs*
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    Man, Satara, that is horrible! I am so sorry that happened to you.

    To answer your question, no I have not ever been a victim of a hate crime, thank God..


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    I have been in a few hate crimes growing up in the 80's.No one could handle having a "Chink" around.
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    I got beaten up in a park by four white guys once. It wasn't a bigotry thing, since I'm mostly white. It wasn't robbery, since they didn't go for any money. They were just hateful and wanted to pick on someone smaller and got infuriated when I fought back.

    Does that make it a hate crime? My body couldn't tell the difference.

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    Jay~ while its not a hate crime per say, all violence against others sux !

    Only the Best ~ do u feel like sharing what happened to u ? If not, thats cool 2 ..... but I think putting these things out there can show some perspective on what discrimination & tolerence of discrimination leads 2 ...... maybe u have a good story of how u dealt with discrimination against u that might inspire others on how to deal if it happens to them

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    I'd say to jay that was assault and he stood his ground and I'm proud of him.
    He hits the low single, over extends, recovers and picks up the leg, switches to a double and he has it and DUMPS his opponent!

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    Oh wow Satra you are a very strong person. Your story brought tears to my eyes. It makes me so sick to think that people are capable of such cruel things.
    I hope they get their Karma one day.
    Again,Kudos to you for being so strong and a survivor


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    Thanks I appreciate ur kindness.... I do want 2 say though that I started this as way 2 help others.... not to get sympathy.... dont want to sound ungrateful as I really do appreicate the well wishes and warm thoughts but I dont want this to be a "poor me" thread.... er I hope that came out right

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    I don't know that I have myself but one of my good gay friends had some guys drive down the street and start yelling "fag" at him while he was walking. What is funny is that most people don't even guess he's gay. I guess it was because he was in the french quarter in New Orleans. He really surprised the driver of the car when he reached in and held him down the the seat of the car and told him to get lost. He's a strong guy and can defend himself quite well. It's just a shame that people have to be like that. It was a car full of tourists from Alabama driving around the French Quarter in New Orleans yelling "fag". wtf is wrong with people???

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    Satara I know you don't want sympathy...mostly what I feel after reading your story is anger, disgust, rage against the people that did that to you. I hope they're haunted for the rest of their lives by their actions.

    I haven't been the victim of a hate crime- I got stoned by a group of men in Kenya, presumably for being a white woman walking alone. Other than that, being a dancer is the closest I've come to being part of a marginalized group, and the worst I've experienced to date is being called 'slut'.

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    I am currently a victim of a hate crime,My sister kicked her husband out and I rent her downstairs after I lost my fiance.He insists that Its all my fault that she kicked him out because if it weren't for me getting involved while he assaulted her~ she wouldn't have told him to leave!He just slashed 2 of my tires that cost 399 each!Alls I can do is wonder what's next?

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver

    I haven't been the victim of a hate crime- I got stoned by a group of men in Kenya, presumably for being a white woman walking alone.

    Thanks 4 sharing ur story Sacrlett.....that is most definatly a hate crime as u were targeted 4 either ur gender or ur race, probably both....how did u react ?

    I am very interested in the ways people who have been victims have been able use their experiences constructivly 2 counter hate crime & the discrimination that causes it....has anyone been able to prosecute their attackers ? Anyone been able 2 use their experience 2 educate others ?

    I am very interested in eliminating peoples tolerance of discrimination b/c I see so many people just turn their heads and ignore discrimination against others & I know that just perpetuates the violence ..... the more people who stand up & say that discrimination agaisnt others 4 gender, race, religion & sexual identity in not ok, the less violence there will be ...... I have asked others 2 share their stories b/c I think that when people see the fruits of tolerance of discrimination on a more personal level they r less likely to turn to accept or tolerate discrimination in word & deed.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Satara
    Only the Best ~ do u feel like sharing what happened to u ? If not, thats cool 2 ..... but I think putting these things out there can show some perspective on what discrimination & tolerence of discrimination leads 2 ...... maybe u have a good story of how u dealt with discrimination against u that might inspire others on how to deal if it happens to them
    I rather not say what happened,other than I would start saying stuff like I worshipped Satan and that they would be cursed throughout eternity.That kept those *ssh*les at bay.In high school however,I threated to get lawyered up and sue the sh*t out of them.
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    when I was in HS, I was a jock but hung out with burnouts and freaks. I had one friend, Jason, who everyone said was gay. I dont know if he was, but he was very efeminate, and said that he was "a woman in a mans body." one day he was crying at lunch because some guy just punched him and was taunted him for being "a fag.". I walked over and broke the kids nose. The dean didnt suspend me because Jason told him that I stepped in to stop the attack.

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    Just about everyone has been a victim of a hate crime at one time or another.... EVERYONE experiences discrimination of some sort. It is worse in some areas... such as the chick walking down the street in Kenya and getting stoned. These people are angry, and anger just builds more anger and hate. Actually, I would rather be in the US that just about anywhere, although we still have a LOOOONNNNGGG way to go to reach any degree of civilty here. I don't know where you live, but if you feel as if hate is being directed toward you now, you need to get the hell out and move toward a more liberal area. I did and I am so much happier. More liberal people are moving to more liberal places where they find more freedom and tolerance....

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    Well, I grew up in a small steel town (only existed because of the steel mill) when I was in primary school, before moving to the city about the start of high school. I used to get the crap kicked out of me every day for being a) half-Chinese and b) smart.

    My 'incredibly useful' response to this was to learn to a) have a short fuse and to lash out at the start of hassling, because passivity didn't work, and b) to be willing to take it further than the other guy was willing to go. It eventually got them to leave me alone, but only at the expense of being labelled a psychopath (by other students, not the man).

    Took moving the hell out of there and until about the third year of high school, and an incident where I scared the crap out of both me and the guy who was bullying me, before I finally unlearned all those automatic responses. Now I'm happily a pacifist again.

    Interestingly enough, it was as simple as that. One incident, one decision and then *snap*, no more temper. Wasn't a gradual process at all, which from everything I know should not have been the case.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kymchoon
    Well, I grew up in a small steel town (only existed because of the steel mill) when I was in primary school, before moving to the city about the start of high school. I used to get the crap kicked out of me every day for being a) half-Chinese and b) smart.

    My 'incredibly useful' response to this was to learn to a) have a short fuse and to lash out at the start of hassling, because passivity didn't work, and b) to be willing to take it further than the other guy was willing to go. It eventually got them to leave me alone, but only at the expense of being labelled a psychopath (by other students, not the man).

    Took moving the hell out of there and until about the third year of high school, and an incident where I scared the crap out of both me and the guy who was bullying me, before I finally unlearned all those automatic responses. Now I'm happily a pacifist again.

    Interestingly enough, it was as simple as that. One incident, one decision and then *snap*, no more temper. Wasn't a gradual process at all, which from everything I know should not have been the case.
    Good for you. I wasn't so smart.... I remember a fifth grade incident where I had a best friend who was a sociopath. She basically bullied me in her own way, creating her own realities. Ex/ we both tried out for cheerleading, and I was only beat by one person, yet she created her own story she was telling people that it would've been her, then me to win. She had been cut long before me. Or, she would go tell her sociopathic bfs I liked him just so they would dis me, etc. etc. Well, I ended up going to her house and there was her sociopathic mother and sis. I told a friend about her house, saying it was ghetto and a trailer, and she told her. Those bitches all ganged up on me, to the point where my mother and father had to take care of it. I was too chicken shit to stand up for myself, because there were just too many of them. Well, that bitch held a grudge, I guess her and her pack of hyenas still hate me. I had someone tell me in the 11th grade that someone didn't like me because they liked her. I just laughed. Cripes, anyone still holding grudges for incidents that happened when you were 10 years old needs to get a life, short of beating the hell out of someone. Today, I would tell them to all go fuck themselves. She deserved worse than that.... I'm sure she prob has a criminal record now anyways. Anyway, I think I should've just acted like more of a fucking psycho than they were to get rid of them.

    I wish I could get rid of all my anger issues so easily....

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