
Originally Posted by
Monet
Hello all you dancing GODDESSES.
Okay, on the aforementioned subject of playing on a man's sense of "chivalry";
Miss Naomi works in Greece, a different culture than I, and the respondents to her
No Money - No Shopping post. I am no expert, but, it would make sense to me that (some/most?) Greek would men like the "damsel in distress" scenario.
It plays into their whole macho (strong patriarchal society) self image.
"I am big man, you little woman" - "Big man" will give "little woman" money to stroke his own ego and feel good about himself. It's pure narcissism.
Lest we judge Miss Naomi for taking advantage and preying on this type of man.
Neither is the victim here.
We will each continue to find mirrors of ourselves in order that we may recognize the things we need to change/heal in ourselves.
We do this in our own time.....when we are ready.
Naomi's spirit will, at some point in time say "no" to this type of self-defeatism.
If we condemn this lady for "manipulating" this man, we may be seeing something in her that we dislike in ourselves.
"That which we perceive, we posess."
I have learned to be careful about casting stones, and instead I welcome examples of behavior that illicits a negative response in me.
Thereby, showing me another part of my self that I have disowned because it is "bad", giving me another opportunity to accept that part of me.
You would be well served by considering those things in others that make you the most livid, as opportunities to embrace the same trait in yourself.
She is beautiful, so are you
He is talented, make that two
(A couple of lines from a poem I wrote.)
I'm getting a bit off track.....
Basically, aren't we all manipulating these men whenever we feign attraction towards them?
Where does one draw the line?
I believe it starts with yourself, and how committed you are to your own growth.
Your own integrity and sense of self-worth determines how much "faking it" you will put forth in order to make a buck.
This, I believe, is at the root of the dilemma that we dancers eventually choose, or choose not to deal with.
Also, these men can fend for themselves.
I want to say again, "they are not victims", to drive my point home.
We, each of us, chooses to put ourselves in situations to further our growth.
Yes, even the people that may seem the most insignificant to you play a role
in the evolution of your beautiful soul.
He has a choice, we all do.
If you want to do something to enhance the reputations of you and your fellow dancing GODDESSES......
to CHOOSE to love ourselves may be the place to start.
Love ourselves for our shortcomings, our bumps and bruises.
Love ourselves unconditionally, simply because that is what we, and everybody deserves.
Dostoevsky, typically a very dark man wrote the following poem on this kind of love....
Love all creation
the whole of it
in every grain of sand
Love every leaf
every ray of God's light
Love the animals
Love the plants
Love everything
If you love everything
You will perceive the divine
mystery of things
and once you have
perceived it
you will begin to comprehend
it ceaselessly
more and more
everyday
and you will at last
come to love
the whole world
with an abiding
Universal Love
Peace.
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