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    Last night I lurked at the club I want to do amateur night at and try to get get a job. I plan on doing it at the end of march. I am 36 years old and have had 2 kids. I do look 28-30 years old so I figure why not I have a nice body...anyways the girls in there were ALL very young, like 18-23 years old and I felt VERY intimidated ( I have some stretch marks on my lower belly and not washboard tight abs) by these girls. There was 2 women there who looked about 30 and that was it. Am I too old to even be thinking about doing this? Will people see me as too old to be there?

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    Hun, you should see some women I have seen doing this. Quite a bit older than yourself, and they looked like idiots being that old and doing this. Im talking like late 40s early 50s. But since you say you look younger, you shouldnt have a problem Im thinking. Also, if you look very closely, you will see that a big majority of dancers have stretch marks and cellulite.

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    I'm 33, started when I was 32. I've got 3 kids and stretchmarks to prove it!
    Something to keep in mind, everyone looks better up under the club lights. I'd bet money that a lot of the younger gals have stretchmarks or a dimple or two also. *shrug* Just part of being female most times!



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    Don't be discouraged!! There's always going to girls younger than you and some with fewer stretch marks, but that's part of the buisiness.

    First you have to get over your Im-too old-to-do-this fear, assume your age and all the benefits that comes with being older; you're wiser, you know men a lot more than these girls and you're not so naive you'll get caught in "the lifestyle". If you feel like all the girls look underage at this club, you might want to try another one where you will feel more comfortable. Find what works for you.

    When you want to start stripping, you have to prepare yourself not only mentally, but physically as well; go to a tanning booth, start toning your body a little, and put your best face forward. You will feel it when you are ready and things will go alot smoother.

    Good luck and keep us posted on developments!
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    Celeste ( think!) gave me this advice about a month ago. It works for me! I now have a more sophistaved look and dance to my owen classic rock music, and the middle-aged business guys just LOOOOVE me now.

    Look fo ra club that has lots of clients around your age. They will not be so enamored with the young girls and you will have more in common with them. I have been working in a juice club, and last week, some little boys came in to celebrate their 18th birthdays. I thought, I started dancing the year you were born!


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    I'm the oldest one at my club at 36. Sometimes it's tough competing with the 18-24 year olds but I'm not 18 and never will be. I'm a woman among girls and it's great! Not to toot my own horn but I look better than most of the younger girls I work with. Love your age and your body and damn what the kids think!

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    I agree, 1 older women against girls? Many men would prefer the older women especially real professional business men. not the perverted ones. And teenage boys you can be their MILF Fantasy (there's alot of those) and thats a compliment.

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    i work with a woman who is 40. she is awesome! she makes her money by regulars, and comes in rarely, but she does do well. i like her because she's intelligent and that's how she wins her customers over- her mind. she's very ladylike and that's what makes these older customers respect her and pay her well. i say go for it. you're older and wiser- that's where your money is at. you will have better bulls*** radar than the younger girls.
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    shoot I'd do it at 46 no lie. you can do the schoolgirl look and make it coy and cute, without creeping people out who have teenage-young adult schoolchildren like actual school age dancers potentially do.

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    Different customers like different types, sized, ages of women. There is a woman at my club thats about 35 and she does really well. She talks to a lot of the older men and I think they go for her because of her maturity and good conversation. I WOULD NOT worry about stretch marks!! I see cellulite and stretchmarks all the time on girls that are my age. One word of advice though- DO NOT wear granny panties! One woman (she looked about 40-45) always wore them- and they sagged too!

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    Dont feel bad.At my old club I felt like the oldest too and Im only 25!It was full of 18 y.o. wannabees!

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    I see nothing wrong with it, honey. If it's what you wanna do...how do YOU feel about YOU? There is something in you that even got you started with this idea. When you look in the mirror, what do YOU see? I have seen older women in the business, and they RAKE IN THE CASH. One lady had a nurse theme going for her EVERY WEEK and she was pulling in money by the thousands. If you are comfortable with you, don't let those other people discourage you just by looking at them. Take what you have, and your talent, and show them up...and have fun doing it!

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    Dont be discouraged...find an outfit that you feel most confident in and flaunt it!!

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    This industry is run off the backs of 18-25 year olds,its our bread and butter.
    The senior citizen dancers can do very well as long as they act thier age and dont try to act 18 for all the reasons people have listed.
    I have seen many AARP dancers who make more money then thier teenie bopper counterparts.

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    Don't be discouraged. While the women at my club are beautiful , NONE of them are perfect, but the club lighting makes them look great. A lot of the women at my club are in their 30s with kids (myself included) but they DO look 5-7 years younger than their real age and do great. Most of my customers think I am between 21-24 (some think I may even be too young to work there!!) but once I tell them I am 31 (In my dirty thirties I like to call em) they seem to be more interested thatn if I were an 128 year old. The older men appreciate your maturity and the younger men get excited by an "older woman who know what she is doing" or a "MILF with a slamming body." By all means make sure you maintain a youthful countenance by exercising daily (as a mom too you wnat to do this to stay healthy of course) and just take good car of yourself. A lot of the other women in my club have stretch marks, but you'd never know it because it is so dark in the club. You'll do fine, hot momma, go for it!!!

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    Hi, redhed dont be discouraged where im from 18-25 look like 40 to 50 year old woman. Its all about you. If your happy with your body and dont mind showing yourself off then do so and get paid while doing it. Im not a entertainer but very curious about being one. And one thing I did learn from the one head is that they' re not ashame of their game their bills are paid and well tooken care of.

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    You'd be surprised that many older men ask for older dancers. They don't want to deal with the lack of life experience of a younger woman. Because you are older, you will seem classier. Dress sexy and look fabulous. Always have confidence.

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    I was going to say that because of your more mature look that many young guys will ask for dances as well they like that whole MILF thing I guess.
    I worked with this one girl she was 30ish I would say and she did very well she was tiny and had a womanly body...guys Loved her!!
    You are a woman and alot smarter and have something different to say that the younger woman at the club. Also, some older men like women closer to their age as well.
    Work all your angles and I think youll do great!
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    Just cause the girls are young doesn't mean they have perfect bodies either. I'm 23 and full of stretch marks from having kids.. and when I look at the girls I work with in the dressing room- we all have dimples and imperfections.. but on stage- we're lookin' pretty good! I say give it a shot- because there aren't many older women in that club you'll stand out! Let us know how you do! Good luck!

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