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    Sad rude awakening

    I went to a strip club last month for my boyfriends and my birthday(are b-days are on the same day) with a group of friends, while my boyfriend and i were watchin a girl dance we got distracted and started joking around and laughing, i grabbed his face and told him how cute he looked. We then resumed watching the show.

    After the girl got off the stage she came up to me and asked what me problem was. (note i was very confused by her statment, i had no clue what she was talking about) i said i didnt have one and asked what was she talking about. She started asking me why i was fighting and telling the guys not too look. At this point i was still stunned and said it was my boyfriend i was grabbing and i had not old anybody not too look. So she gave me a rude look and walked away.

    After the whole convo settled in i was quite mad, i found it intrusive and rude. So I told the bouncer the situation and that i did not appreciate being interrogated. (which he did nothing) This is when the dancer came up to me and said if i didnt like the way i was being treated then to leave her club, this is were she worked and i was causing unnessary problems and blowing everything out of proportion.

    I left it at that sat down, finished my drink and then left along with everyone else. Now I have never been treated like this before, i was just wondering from a dancers perspective or even another customer is this normal and should I come to expect this? how should customers deal with this in appropriate manner with out being rude? Also should i avoid the place or go back?

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    Sorry you had a bad experince. While I can't speak for that dancer I'll give you my take on it.

    Not all women that come to strip clubs are open to the experience. They might not trust their man so they come along. I have heard first hand women making fun and belitteling (sp?) us to guys they are with. Maybe they need to make themselves feel better by putting us down. I get very upset about women who come into clubs and act like this, it's rude and sometimes just plain mean. It could be easy to visually mistake your actions as what I just stated.

    I don't think that the dancer should have said something to you though. Personally I would have just ignored you if I thought you had told him not to look. I may have said something to you directly if I had HEARD you say something to him about not looking. If you had said something derogatory to me, definately would have.

    Other than this did you have fun? If so, go back, if not try another club. It seems to me that you were the one who handled the situation like an adult.

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    Thanks for the response, it was very comforting as she made me feel i was in the wrong. (and i would never say anything demeaning. I came on my own accord, on my birthday and just wanted to have fun and be enterained) It's nice to know from another professional that I did not handle the situation badly. Again, thank you for your opinion! I have a bad conscience and im glad i can finally lay this to rest.

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    well she sounds like a bitch to me

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    the dancer, i mean. lol. there was no need for her to be rude to you. Please dont think all strippers are this way, we are not.

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    I think every customer who has spent a fair amount of time in clubs has run into a similar situation, where a dancer got pissed off at a customer for no apparent reason. She obviously misinterpreted the situation and over-reacted. Some girls (and guys) just have a chip on their shoulder. Personally whenever I see someting like that in a club I just leave, whether the tantrum is directed at me or not. Any club that lets their dancers mistreat a customer isn't a place where i want to hang out. She's costing that club money.
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    While she did misinterpret the whole situation, I agree with Susan about her point of view. I think it probably took a lot for her to even say anything to you. I try as hard as I can to ignore people that are cruel because it messes with my own vibe for the night.
    She was probably just as hurt as you and I'm sorry that she was a bitch, but then she definitely thought you were being one.
    Most of the women (yes, most) that come in tend to a) not tip b) are rude to the dancers or behind their back c) ignore us d) tell their friends not to tip...
    It sucks for us to have to not only deal with that from a man but also from someone we wish would empathize with us..
    Sorry she was so mean, but the fact that you even tried to take it the bouncer when she felt you had already offended her was probably the last straw. It is our job to try and be cheerful and sunny, but it doesn't always work and when you tried to get her in trouble for her speaking her mind it really ticked her off.
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    hmm...what exactly were you 'joking around' about? what were you laughing at?
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    Quote Originally Posted by toxicgirl
    hmm...what exactly were you 'joking around' about? what were you laughing at?
    Does it matter? They were out with a bunch of friends and having a good time. The dancer should not have done what she did. Does she automatically expect every person who is with friends and laughing is doing so at her expense? If this is the way she is, then SHE is the one with the problem.

    There are some things that are just not worth risking your image for...a snotty female customer (or male for that matter) is one of them...(not that this OP was snotty) but you all get my drift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lolita86
    well she sounds like a bitch to me
    yep.

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    I would have told the bitch to fuck off.

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    Shoot, I've had so many snotty female customers I couldn't count all the times. I'm sorry this happened to you though. It's not right to have someone come and trample on the fun when it wasn't necessary. I think that the bouncer should have at least sent her home for her poopy attitude.

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    Im sure every dancer has had a rude customer or two, so it must effect how you react to the story. As for what we were laughing at, it was in january so i cant exactly remember, although i know it wasnt at her. I guess i will watch how i act next time in a club. Thanks to all the kind responses and all the critical ones, it has given me valuable insight into the situation....

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    Hi kateright,

    The dancer probably saw you laughing and assumed you were making fun of her. There are a lot of female customers who come in and make fun of us or are rude to us. However, that does not excuse what she did and I'm sorry she was rude to you. When I see someone laughing while I'm dancing, I don't assume they are laughing at me unless I hear them say something about me. Sorry you had to deal with a bitchy dancer and I hope that doesn't stop you from coming to the clubs in the future-most of us are nice!

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    That dancer was out of line IMHO.

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