I've only been dancing for a few weeks, a couple of times/week (day shift), and I think I have my first 'regular' but I'm feeling a little weird about it. The first time I met him he made polite conversation, talked about how he used to see another dancer all the time but that he's ready for a new 'friend,' bought a good # of dances, etc. Then yesterday he came in with a necklace/earing set he MADE HIMSELF for me(hideous, but of course I "loooved it"), and some silk pajamas that he mistakenly thought I might be able to dance in. He paid for a VIP dance just to give me a back massage, during which he was a perfect gentleman, and he wanted to give me a foot massage but I declined. He bought several 2/$20 dances on the floor and only came to the stage for my sets. Before buying more dances he always hints that he wants me to sit and talk afterward . . . overall I think I spent as much time talking to him (for free) as I did dancing for him. When it's slow I don't mind having an actual conversation w/ someone for a few songs, but this poor guy has next to nothing to say . . . I carry the whole conversation and it's just really awkward to sit there with him. If I had someone else ask for dances after my stage he just sat in the back and waited patiently. He didn't mind waiting, encouraged me to do whatever I had to do, but I felt like I had to 'babysit' him and keep telling him when I would be back, etc. He just seems like a sad, lonely guy with poor social skills who is equally interested, if not more so, in some female companionship as the dances. He doesn't talk about meeting outside the club, so I know he's not trying to con me, but it's basically just a bummer to be around him, and he seems to think the gifts he gave me 'make up' for all of the time he wants to sit and talk. He has told me he plans on coming in as often as he can afford to. Sorry this is so long, thx if your still reading! I guess I'd just like to know if any of you have experienced this/have any advice about how to keep this guy's business while minimizing time and energy spent on him? I just realized why I feel so weird about it: it doesn't feel like business. It feels like this guy really LIKES me and the fact that he seems emotionally involved makes me feel oddly responsible somehow
. What should I think/do about him?! THANK YOU!


(hideous, but of course I "loooved it"), and some silk pajamas that he mistakenly thought I might be able to dance in. He paid for a VIP dance just to give me a back massage, during which he was a perfect gentleman, and he wanted to give me a foot massage but I declined. He bought several 2/$20 dances on the floor and only came to the stage for my sets. Before buying more dances he always hints that he wants me to sit and talk afterward . . . overall I think I spent as much time talking to him (for free) as I did dancing for him. When it's slow I don't mind having an actual conversation w/ someone for a few songs, but this poor guy has next to nothing to say . . . I carry the whole conversation and it's just really awkward to sit there with him. If I had someone else ask for dances after my stage he just sat in the back and waited patiently. He didn't mind waiting, encouraged me to do whatever I had to do, but I felt like I had to 'babysit' him and keep telling him when I would be back, etc. He just seems like a sad, lonely guy with poor social skills who is equally interested, if not more so, in some female companionship as the dances. He doesn't talk about meeting outside the club, so I know he's not trying to con me, but it's basically just a bummer to be around him, and he seems to think the gifts he gave me 'make up' for all of the time he wants to sit and talk. He has told me he plans on coming in as often as he can afford to. Sorry this is so long, thx if your still reading! I guess I'd just like to know if any of you have experienced this/have any advice about how to keep this guy's business while minimizing time and energy spent on him? I just realized why I feel so weird about it: it doesn't feel like business. It feels like this guy really LIKES me and the fact that he seems emotionally involved makes me feel oddly responsible somehow
. What should I think/do about him?! THANK YOU!
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