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    My friend and I were thinking of getting a place together because she had just broken up with her stupid controlling boyfriend. All her stuff is at my place, limiting my walking space and cluttering everything, while she is over at his house, spending night after night there!

    I know that a lot of times break-ups aren't really final untill you break up like 3-4 times. But this is her 3rd time breaking up with him and she keeps running back. i am sick of her crying on my shoulder over him and asking me to pick her up whenever they're fighting.

    I no longer want to move in with her because A)I don't think she will stay living there for long (I suspect she'll move in with him again or the next flavour of the next guy)
    B) I have never lived with her and don't know about her rent payment habbits. The apartment will go in my name because I am the only one who has credit
    C) I don't want to give her an excuse to be her personal shoffeur (sp?), yet she insista on going to work with me regardless of which club. And she doesn't want to work if I don't.

    What kind of a sneaky excuse can I give her not to move in together?

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    Default Re: roommate: BOO!!!

    That it would be better for your friendship in the long run.

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    Default Re: roommate: BOO!!!

    That you are happier living by yourself.

    Don't do it. I did this and I ended up regretting it and losing over $5,000 to unpaid rent, lost security deposit, etc. It's not worth it.

    Besides, if she moves in with you...he may follow suit and then you'll have the roomie with the boyfriend who fight all of the time.

    Tell her that she's welcome to spend the night every once in a while...if they have a fight and she needs to cool off. But, you are much happier having your own space.

    If she doesn't like that or gets mad or offended...well, that's her problem. Part of being an adult means that she needs to grow up and learn how to move on and solve her own problems.

    Good luck. Do what's best for YOU...not her.

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    Default Re: roommate: BOO!!!

    i second what venus said... if you wan to be nice about it, just tell her that YOU cant live with other people and you dont think it would be a good idea. I have been on both sides of your dilemma, the friend in the relationship, and the friend on the outside.. neither are fun, for anyone. Good luck, and my best advice: live by yourself. If she doesnt want to work,t hats her problem, not yours, but when you live together, it becomes your problem.


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    I agree with VG and Honey, you sould like you are moving in a new direction in your life and you need to explore it on your own for a little while. Tell her the truth, and if she can't take it well that's her fault. She needs to realize the impostion she is placing on you.

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    Good job on trying to be a good friend. Your trying and trying and she should appreciate you better.
    Its hard watching friends like that they just keep running back to the same guy adn it makes you sick. VG's advice is right on it. She really needs to understand what shes doing hopefully she will take your new idea on your guys' living situation very exceptingly. I hope all of thisd doesnt damage your friendship too much.
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    Damn,she sounds really clingy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rebuildme
    That it would be better for your friendship in the long run.
    I'd go with this if she's mature enough to put some real thought into it (sounds like she isn't). Otherwise go with everyone else's suggestions and make it about yourself.

    Seriously, few things will strain a friendship faster than living together. Hell, any type of relationship, for that matter. Everyone has personal habits that will irritate you sometimes - your friends, your partner, your family...But if you're living in close contact with them, then you've got to live with those irritations all the time. One of two things then happens. Either a) you end up much closer because of the experience or b) (and more likely) one of you has to move out before you kill each other. Or a combination of the two.

    You're already frustrated with her about some things and she hasn't even moved in yet. Be nice about it, but under no circumstances do it, for the sake of your sanity if nothing else.

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