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    im sick of my hometown and i hate my job it barely pays me 500 a month and i want to move to vegas, cause there are alot more jobs there and its a bit cheaper to live there too. but my fiance doesnt want to move cause he loves his job and he doesnt want to leave his family his mom and grandma cause he helps them out with rent. and he thinks it would be hard to get a job there in vegas right away. I've been with him for four years well it will be four years on april 27. what should i do ladies. any advice?

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    Have him apply for jobs in Las Vegas.

    Or even apply to go to school in Las Vegas. I think there is a University of Nevada if I remember by road trip right.

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    my fiance is a certified auto mancanic and he doesnt what to do that for a living cause its his hobbie and if he does it for a living he wouldnt want to fix and work on his truck. but i am just frusterated of it. there is no other jobs where i live casue the job market is very low and u have to have years of experience for jobs, there are mostly young people in my town and they want people that has 5 or more years expierance and u would have to know someone at the place where u want to work to get in too.

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    Is commuting for a short time possible?

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    Sometimes in the end you have to follow your dreams. Thats great you guys have been together for so long Sounds like you should move though....seems like you are stiffled by your geographical area.
    Are there any other places that you have considered moving too? Maybe the two of you can come to an agreement?
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    it would be hard but i think im going to talk some more to him about it. good idea tigersmilk.

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    Yay I helped! yw
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    wow,500 a month,i wouldnt be able to survive!
    How the heck do you do it?!?!?!?!?Do you live with the boyfriend??

    Sounds like this boyfriend of yours is a stand up kinda guy who is taking care of his family with a real joby job, to include his grandmom and mom,and the woman he intends to be his wife.

    "standing knee deep in a river,and dieing of thirst"and "the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence"comes to mind.

    Is it possible you have riches beyond money???

    This IMO is the best advice given,and you gave it to yourself.
    it would be hard but i think im going to talk some more to him about it.

    Best of luck in whatever you do.

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    thank u what u said was very sweet im also think of my mom too i still live her cause my dad is a drug addict and i dont want to leave her alone cause i dont know if he would come around cause he can be voilent too and im to close to my family and friends tho.

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    wow,500 a month,i wouldnt be able to survive!
    How the heck do you do it?!?!?!?!?Do you live with the boyfriend??

    Sounds like this boyfriend of yours is a stand up kinda guy who is taking care of his family with a real joby job, to include his grandmom and mom,and the woman he intends to be his wife.

    "standing knee deep in a river,and dieing of thirst"and "the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence"comes to mind.

    Is it possible you have riches beyond money???

    This IMO is the best advice given,and you gave it to yourself.



    Best of luck in whatever you do.

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    If he's an auto technician, he should be able to get work at any dealership. That industry is really hurting for employees, especially in rapidly growing cities like LV. Just get him to send a resume to a few in Vegas and see what happens. In some places they are offering pretty sizable signing packages too.



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    Itsn't it amazing how we woman still after all these years never ask the men when they are the ones who want to reloacate or start a new career. We just back them in whatever they say, we stand behind them and encourage them to follow thier dreams or jobs or whatever. But still when it is us who have the dream to start fresh and new and maybe provide for them too in the interim it cannot be done. I guess we are still in the old days huh? There is nothing wrong with following your own dreams and paths. Four years and he hasn't married you yet?
    Last edited by Lauren Daniels; 03-18-2005 at 09:28 AM. Reason: adding to it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren Daniels
    Itsn't it amazing how we woman still after all these years never ask the men when they are the ones who want to reloacate or start a new career. We just back them in whatever they say, we stand behind them and encourage them to follow thier dreams or jobs or whatever. But still when it is us who have the dream to start fresh and new and maybe provide for them too in the interim it cannot be done. I guess we are still in the old days huh? There is nothing wrong with following your own dreams and paths. Four years and he hasn't married you yet?
    IMO if the job she is going to were more stable and had a higher return then what the "man"was doing in his career at the time,I would be the first to say go.
    Its whats best for the future of the relationship.

    But this isnt like going off to the big city to be an accountant,its stripping.MOST MOST MOST times,its not just a chage of career,but a huge change of lifestyle.

    Sometimes stripping can be an easy way out of a good thing for alot of females.Some even regret some of the choices and decisions they make,to include stepping onto the stage in the first place.
    Im not saying this is the case here.

    Im saying she sounds like she has it pretty good,with the exception of a few things that can be fixed easy over time.
    A 4 year relationship with a decent guy isnt something to just throw away so easy and is why i hinted that THEY need to talk and decide together.

    Just so you know,most females that enter into this business with a husband or boyfriend DONT have the same guy when they come down off the stage 3-5 years later.I cant say all because a few cases exist,just not a whole helluva lot compared to how many dancers there are and have been.

    Its a big decision,I hope she follows whats best for her future and what she really wants.If thats stripping,KEWL,I know of no faster way for a woman to reach her goals,this business can fund a dream for alot,If handled in a professional way.
    Again,its a big decision and im glad im not the one having to make it,its not going to be easy.

    As for it being four years,thats not long at all.I wish it was law that you had to date for 5 years,maybe that would help with the divorce rate being so high.
    Nothing wrong with getting to know someone during the good times and the bad times before deciding to spend the rest of your life together.

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    I see both sides on this one. He wants to help family. Family is 4-ever! And a gf who i am sure he loves too very much. Maybe you can both work something out with a job for you. Is it dancing you want? What about a cocktail waitress in a up-scale club or other establishment?

    If you go, it may be without him. It is you're decision.

    Good luck,

    Pamela

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    well i met him two months before i graduated from high school in 2001 and just a year ago ive been engaged to him it will be four years on april 27 tho. so am just thinking of becomeing a stripper but i have two things to work on myself on that . but i have two years in offices expericence and 6 months in retail. i thought of a waitress or cocktail wiatress at a club but i think i might give stuff to the wrong people. its just my town sucks tho. and i dont want to leave my family either.

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