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    One of my friends said that me going to the sc club so often is psychologically damaging?

    Sad thing is i beleive i'm doing a hell of alot better because of it.
    thanks to both my number 1 and number 2. since i've been going.

    1. I've starting lifting again.. i've lost like 20 pounds and according to # 2
    i look like brick shit house(which is not true but it was good to hear. )

    2. been taking alot better care of myself.

    3. lost interest in online games.

    4. i've devoloped a psuedo friendship with my 2 favorites.(i know i'll never make it in any further with either of them but i know i'm more than just a walking wallet that needs to be drained )

    5. alot more confident( if i can talk coherently to a hot naked woman i should be able to in a normal citaution )

    if those things are psycolocially damaging then what is the normal?
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    Gawd, man. Can't you see how damaged you're becoming? Don't you know that you're supposed to be an introverted, socially inept, out-of-shape, obese, on-line gamer, who's afraid to interact with people?

    You'll be fine. Real relationships are overated, anyway.

    Just stay away from this place.
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    If you feel better, and are happier, how could that be damaging? I can see why it could be financially damaging which could lead to psychological damage, but other than that, sounds as if you are doing well... better even.

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    I agree with the "experience" boost aspect but there are downsides like being ruined to all women that don't look like a dancer. I had this pic up by my desk at work and after I started seeing my ex-dancer chick I thought to myself why do I have this pic up? She isn't hot. LOL

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    don't think i'll be ruin by her looks, but for first time in a long i don't hafta dumb down my conversation. it's so hard to find an intelegent woman these days.

    a woman can be hot but be an air head and i'll be like nope.

    gimme an average woman with a decent IQ and i'll be like "where do i sign?"

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    I think this comment came from someone who thinks all strippers are cracked out, old, uneducated women who have 4+ kids and a fat, beer drinking husband who spends most of his paycheck on "get rich quick" schemes that obviousle never work.

    There are plenty of activities/situations/hobbies out there that are much more psychologically and physically damaging than frequenting a stripjoint. for example: drugs, minimum-wage jobs, marital problems, bossing people around, silly obsessions in the forms of fave TV shows that you just can't miss, etc.

    If you feel better than ever, then why quit? Everything costs money, even the gym.. But if you're having fun with it then you are among the lucky ones!

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    Sounds like your fine....I have always kept this in mind..its all about the company you keep.
    Bad company=bad you and so on...
    Sounds like you have good company that influence you to open up as a person and your wallet...hell if this makes your life that much better then it is waaaay more worth it than some $75/hour physicatrist fully clothed...naked therapy I say is better.
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    I see men damaged by only socially communicating with strippers and escorts all the time. Its not just a physical attributes problem, they just eventually only see women as a purchasable commodity. You are not like this Cecil and I don't see you becoming jaded like that.

    In the meantime, I would dovetail the progress you have made so far into developing some friendly relationships with civilian women as well. And of course, don't just base the friendships on how attractive the women are. I think positive experiences with great dancers is a wonderful therapy for the shy. Best of luck to you as you seem to have a great big heart. Be careful and safe!

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    Your friend is just being a hater.
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    Thx Kat

    i'm planing on turning my new found confidence into the real world. just wondering how i'm going to break it to my two favs because if i manage to make progress in the outside world it will mean me cutting back on my visits alot. sadly i beleive they have become dependant on me for part of there income. and after all they've done for me i owe them more than just a thx bye

    it was so refreshing to find an honest person in the SC. both my favorites
    knew they could have sqeezed me for more $$ but they didn't.

    in the real world i tend to find the broken women that some other ass has destroyed. with more personal problem than you can shake a stick at. who either end up running away with alot of my money or going back to their abusive realtionships.
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    Cecil,

    You need to take care of #1 (yourself) first. If you are not socially, emotionally, and psychologically independent, then it is going to be difficult if not impossible to attract a mate that IS socially, emotionally, and psychologically independent. That could be one reason why in the past you've ended up with women that "some other ass has destroyed. with more personal problem than you can shake a stick at. who either end up running away with alot of my money or going back to their abusive realtionships."

    Kudos to you for breaking out of your old bad habits and forming new better ones!

    For your girls, you need to be up front and honest. Trust me, regardless of the whining (but whyyyyyyyyyyy???) we understand completely. I would rather have a customer tell me he's cutting down on his visits than end up bankrupt. I've had that happen before and I felt guilty for months.

    Good luck!
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    In life......If something feels good, has good consequences, and makes you feel better.....odds are it's a good thing!

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    When my boyfriend was with his ex he went to strip clubs a lot. He was in a miserable relationship with a woman who was cheating on him and it gave him a sort of therapy. He got to know some of the girls and was happy to go somewhere where he could relax for a while instead of home to his bitchy ex. Now that I'm with him I can't ever get him to go to a SC though.

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    I'm still chucking over the "naked therapy" line. LOL But it IS very
    true. We humans just need some physical contact and the world
    is a much rosier place. ;-)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Super Cecil
    Thx Kat

    . sadly i beleive they have become dependant on me for part of there income. and after all they've done for me i owe them more than just a thx bye
    Don't worry kiddo, they will find a new regular. You've already given them plenty, just come by on occasion and give them tips and some dances! We strippers are quite adept at moving forward.

    Quote Originally Posted by Super Cecil
    in the real world i tend to find the broken women that some other ass has destroyed. with more personal problem than you can shake a stick at. who either end up running away with alot of my money or going back to their abusive realtionships.
    Most people are broken. Most strippers are also broken but we don't let you know that since you aren't paying us to complain. Men are broken too but act it out in very different mannsers. If you want to be romantic with a woman, don't give them lots of money and don't try to be a "friend." Stick it in and seal the deal. That is my advice to all men trying to date women (but NOT date a stripper, lol!) Don't act like a doormat and you won't be treated as one. I forget who originally quoted that, but its great advice!

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    Sadly i know my personality to well. I have the classic "rescuer complex"/"knight in shining armor complex" and i'm stubborn as hell. never given up on anything i've put my mind too. 2 personality flaws a picked up from my father.

    The thing that bothers me is that i might be burning the bridge. should i decide to leave i'll lose the psuedo friendship i've built with my atf. and that i might lose the fire that they've built under my ass. Honestly my primal mind is still laboring under the false hope. Of which my waking mind knows the truth and nothing can ever come of what we have.

    But as a wise man once said "sometimes it's better to beleive the lye than to face the horrid reality."

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    There is nothing damaging about going to a club to be entertained by interesting, intelligent, beautiful women. It's just entertainment. Men have been seeking out variations of this type of entertainment since the begining of human history. There must be something positive about a form of entertainment that has been around for so long, otherwise it wouldn't still be with us.
    You can meet a lot of really interesting people in a strip club.
    BTW - If you have a problem with codependency you might want to try going to a couple of co-dependency anonymous meetings. Just do a google and find out about some meetings in your area.
    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Super Cecil
    Sadly i know my personality to well. I have the classic "rescuer complex"/"knight in shining armor complex" and i'm stubborn as hell.
    What are you trying to rescue her from? It sounds more like you are wanting her to save you. If you are so selfless, maybe you should volunteer at a homeless shelter or at a hospice, where people are really suffering.

    Quote Originally Posted by Super Cecil
    Honestly my primal mind is still laboring under the false hope. Of which my waking mind knows the truth and nothing can ever come of what we have.
    What exactly is it that you have with this dancer? A pseudo-friendship you say? (Pseudo means fake, right?) You and this dancer seem to get along pretty well at the club when you are paying her to be with you. I'm not putting that down, I think that's wonderful, but you don't have anything with this dancer other than a mutually beneficial business transaction.

    Quote Originally Posted by Super Cecil
    But as a wise man once said "sometimes it's better to believe the lie than to face the horrid reality."
    What is this horrid reality that you are facing? That this girl that you are paying to be with you isn't actually in love with you or something? So what? I think that maybe your strip clubbing is taking your ego for a rollercoaster ride. Maybe you should get back on the kiddie coaster if your fragile psyche doesn't meet the heighth requirement to play with the big boys.
    A fat chick is like a big, warm, comfortable pillow that you can also have sex with....

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    Count me among those who believe that going to strip clubs can be good for you psychologically. I used to go to strip clubs once in a while when I traveled on business, until about 10 years ago I encountered a period of severe depression and started hitting a club regularly. I met my ATF who sat for hours talking to me, and she changed my life (I changed hers too BTW.) I haven't had any depression since then, largely because of her and the things she encouraged me to do (eg. working out regularly, eating better, becoming more spiritual) and I'm happier today than probably at any other time of my life. I don't think it's too big of an exaggeration to say that she saved my life. But I think you have to be careful that you don't become dependent on your favorite or the club, or it could become harmful.
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    Merely_Lurking, sometimes I think I love you

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    *roaring applause for ML*

    BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    gotta love it when someone doesn't bother reading the other posts and quotes you outta context.

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    Forgive me Cecil, if I was giving you more of a reality check than you think you deserve. I have read your posts. If you are keeping everything in perspective, and trying to live a balanced life, there's no reason why strip clubbing shouldn't be a fun diversion for you. I would try not to take it too seriously though. That's just my advice from my own experiences.
    A fat chick is like a big, warm, comfortable pillow that you can also have sex with....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    Merely_Lurking, sometimes I think I love you
    Right back at ya, Kat... When I'm through with you, I'm gonna have you lovin' me all the time.
    A fat chick is like a big, warm, comfortable pillow that you can also have sex with....

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    In the meantime, I would dovetail the progress you have made so far into developing some friendly relationships with civilian women as well.
    Yeah, that's all well and good, but once you've experienced dancers, as covered in the Dancers vs. Normals thread on the blue site, it's really tough to go back. It practically invites disappointment.

    If you want to be romantic with a woman, don't give them lots of money and don't try to be a "friend." Stick it in and seal the deal. That is my advice to all men trying to date women
    Amen. Kat should run a seminar on the subject.

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