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    My favourite customer mentioned that he's danced with other dancers years ago and is still good friends with them. But he also says that he gets so frustrated and annoyed because he still takes care of them financially, but they refuse to strip for him. I told him that from a woman's point of view, no stripper wants to leave the security and strict rules of the club and dance for the customer in their home/hotel.

    But my question is, if you have known the guy for 5 years (like one of his girls) and you met him as a cutomer while you were a stripper, isn't there a level of trust of some sort? Especially if he pays for your child's special-needs school, buys you groceries, gives you a house to live in - rent-free - and doesn't ask for sex, how can you live with yourself not giving anything in return?

    I'm not asking this because I'm considering going to his house to dance for him, but rather I would like to hear your opinions on continuing to dance for this type of customer outside of the club. I think if you know the guy pretty well, and you've met his family and friends, and you know he won't ask for sex, why not DO something for the money he gives you? It's the least you can do to thank him for being you sugar daddy... right?

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    I would probably do something like that, but I would still perfer to bring a bouncer.


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    yeah, but what if you know the guy for multiple years and trust him 9not with your life, but at least with your drink/purse)?

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    I'd do it. I always feel weird when girls string along customers for years with nothing in return. Take a tazer gun and keep it close to you. Don't let him give you anything to drink unless you saw him uncork the bottle or something I guess........life is about risks........

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    I have done it. The only thing I did wrong was not defining a rate. He expected to be at his house from early evening until later the next day. That was almost 24 hrs. Granted, he would give me $1000, but when I did the math, if I worked 24 hours at the club, I would have made more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    I'd do it. I always feel weird when girls string along customers for years with nothing in return. Take a tazer gun and keep it close to you. Don't let him give you anything to drink unless you saw him uncork the bottle or something I guess........life is about risks........
    And, even then...if it's not a sealed bottle of water...I wouldn't drink it.

    I've known girls who dance in their customers houses...they get clothes, money, etc. I, personally, would never do it...but, I am in a serious relationship with a child...so there's no need for me to do it.

    Before you go...make sure you have his FULL name, his address, phone number and as much personal information as possible. Then, tell a friend where you'll be and give them all of the information. Have a set time that you will be leaving and call that friend as soon as you leave there. If the friend does not get a phone call within, say 45 minutes of your departure time, they are to call your phone, if there is no answer, then they are to report you as missing...

    Just because you "trust" someone, doesn't mean that they are trustworthy. You've gotten to know this guy in the "security" of the club...where facades are the norm. Don't forget about the dancer who was murdered by her ex and his friend...who both had been security for her at her parties.

    Never gamble with your safety. I say do the dancing if you want...but make sure all of your bases are covered. Odds are that this person is a great guy and you'll benefit immensely from his monetary generosity, but there's no reason to throw caution to the wind.

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    I wouldn't dance for a customer outside of the club. My motto is in the club or not all.

    If it were just a once and awhile thing I'd make nice with a local manager and see if I could just work at the club here and there like a traveling dancer does.

    IME, keep it legal, in the club and we dancers will have a much better careers over all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meea
    But my question is, if you have known the guy for 5 years (like one of his girls) and you met him as a cutomer while you were a stripper, isn't there a level of trust of some sort? Especially if he pays for your child's special-needs school, buys you groceries, gives you a house to live in - rent-free - and doesn't ask for sex, how can you live with yourself not giving anything in return?
    Yeah....that's pretty wierd. I mean, if it was me, then yeah I'd expect some sort of trade off, ya know? It's one thing to get a few gifts from a customer occasionally. But what you're describing is w-a-a-a-y over the line. I can't imagine what's going thru this guy's mind.... then again, I have problems figuring out what goes thru ANY guys mind!!!!

    From the dancers point of view, sure, if this guy wants to heap gifts on her, then let him. Who questions "found money", right? On the other hand, if a guy started putting me on his payroll (LOL), I'd expect to eventually have to do some work for it. If I was staying in an apartment he paid for and having other expenses paid by him, I'd kinda expect the hammer to fall down one day. He drops by and says, hey....either you start coming across with "the goods" or the apartment rent stops muy pronto. You can really get hooked on all the free-bees, and before you know it, you're basically his mistress.

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    Quote Originally Posted by susan
    I'd kinda expect the hammer to fall down one day. He drops by and says, hey....either you start coming across with "the goods" or the apartment rent stops muy pronto. You can really get hooked on all the free-bees, and before you know it, you're basically his mistress.
    I hear that!! Did you ask him to pay for everything?? I'll make an assumption here and say no. So why would you go out there and risk your safety for this dude? Dont feel bad because you're not "giving anything out".

    Also, the fact that some guy will pay for all your expenses can give him power over you. Most of us started dancing to be financially independant; whatever happened to that notion??

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    I don't think a customer paying your rent means you are not financially independent. If you need to rely on him to do so, then sure...but if he's willing to pay it, then it's no different than him coming into the club, handing you cash, and you paying it yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meea
    My favourite customer ... doesn't ask for sex ....
    I find that very difficult to believe. Have you corroborated his sob story? I think your favourite customer is full of BS and he's fabricating at least some of the details to manipulate you into a position where you'll be more open to giving him what he has desired all along from the others. But that's just my suspicious nature. Even if his story is true, I say don't make it your problem because he's an odd one to have continued his sugar daddy role for so long under those circumstances.

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    It's hard to say.....you trust him,but when you're one on one in his house,who knows.IMO it's risky one on one.Try to bring somebody with you,if you can,another dancer maybe.OTOH,if you feel like he's not a threat,try it,see what happens,but bring a tear spray or something,just in case.

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    I've gone to the homes of faitful, long-standing customers and clients. I either have someone drive me and wait in the car, or give out the full name, phone #, and full address of said customer to a trusted friend or family member. I always demand such info from them if I am to go to their homes, or out with them. I tell them that I have a worried friend who would feel better if they knew, or if they need to contact me in case of an emergency. Or, if you have a cell phone with texting, text the customers info to someone you know.
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    Hmm, i have done private parties, and do have one man who i actually met outside the club and told him i danced. He started coming to see me (as many people i met did) at the club, and i started giving him privates at a hotel.

    I never met his family, friends or pets. Did i trust him...Not really. I only knew him from the club, and he drank alot. So, i got a male friend, made a call to a gf, and the party with him always lasted about 40 min.

    Now IF i met him at the club. NO. I don't take customers who i met at the clubs. But i met him before the club, and asked him to come and see me. He also became a regular.

    He was known to be fine, untill the drinks got into him. Even so, i don't trust anyone who i danced for....Ever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by evan_essence
    I find that very difficult to believe. Have you corroborated his sob story? I think your favourite customer is full of BS and he's fabricating at least some of the details to manipulate you into a position where you'll be more open to giving him what he has desired all along from the others. But that's just my suspicious nature. Even if his story is true, I say don't make it your problem because he's an odd one to have continued his sugar daddy role for so long under those circumstances.

    -Ev
    And i have to agree here. He probably wont ask for sex. He will come to just expect it. Give these types of guys an inch, they will try for a mile.

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