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    How to just say "no"?

    Oh my gosh! I just wanted to say thanks to all the girls who replied to my last post. I really really appreciate the help from everyone. But as soon as I take care of one concern, another rears it's ugly head. Today I've been thinking about how to say "no" to guys.

    Like when they ask me about personal things like where I live or other potentially dangerous stuff. I don't want to seem unaproachable, but I don't want to get caught off guard either.

    Also, how do I refuse a dance for a guy who is being a jerk? I really don't want to say the wrong thing and get a bad reputation for having a nasty attitude.

    The last "no" question is for when the custys ask for "extras". I can almost see myself being ofended and snapping back a retort. (even though some guys don't know the difference between a stripper and hooker)

    Basically I want to be gracious and still be in control of the info, dances, and services I give out.

    Thanks again to everybody!! Muah!!

    ~Heaven

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    Default Re: How to just say "no"?

    Just wanted to put up a better pic of myself to say "hi!!"

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    Default Re: How to just say "no"?

    Well, this is what I used to say:

    Quote Originally Posted by Heaven777
    Today I've been thinking about how to say "no" to guys.

    Like when they ask me about personal things like where I live or other potentially dangerous stuff. I don't want to seem unaproachable, but I don't want to get caught off guard either.


    Here I would say something cute like, "oh, that's top secret information!" *giggle*

    [/QUOTE]Also, how do I refuse a dance for a guy who is being a jerk? I really don't want to say the wrong thing and get a bad reputation for having a nasty attitude.[/QUOTE]

    either charge double for the dance (in advance of course) or actually I just had a great idea! Tell him, "maybe later" and saunter off. (Man I wish I'd thought of that back in the day!)

    [/QUOTE]The last "no" question is for when the custys ask for "extras". I can almost see myself being ofended and snapping back a retort. (even though some guys don't know the difference between a stripper and hooker)[/QUOTE]

    I would simply say, "no." When asked "why not?" (as is always the next question) I would say, "I don't want to."

    Have fun!


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    Default Re: How to just say "no"?

    Heaven77 youre so pretty! Much better pic.
    LSM got it right. Especially with the 2nd one. Most guys that bug you and bug you for extras dont bother to waste your time in convincing them to buy a "clean" dance. Just excuse yourself to freshen up, someone was waiting for you, youre going on stage soon, etc......and tell him if (you want to) that youll come back around if he changes his mind.

    Some guys are used to more touchy dances at other clubs and if your club doesnt provide that dont do it. Youd feel like crap if you gave a guy a little extra for 10-20 bucks when all the other girls are giving clean ones. But, youre on the right track...stand firm and dont let anyone convince you that "ive gotten that here before" line.
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    Default Re: How to just say "no"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Heaven777
    Like when they ask me about personal things like where I live or other potentially dangerous stuff.


    Make stuff up here and there like where you live

    Quote Originally Posted by Heaven777
    Also, how do I refuse a dance for a guy who is being a jerk?


    Money's money. I'm not sure why you would "refuse" a dance. Get that money and keep it moving!

    Quote Originally Posted by Heaven777
    The last "no" question is for when the custys ask for "extras". I can almost see myself being ofended and snapping back a retort
    Inform them that 1. there's a diff between a stripper and a hooker, or 2. this isn't an escort service, or 3. I will DEFINITELY get in SERIOUS trouble as will you, or 4. how do I know you're not a cop?

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    Default Re: How to just say "no"?

    Wow, I never thought it could be so easy to just use "no." without seeming bratty.

    LSV, I like the ones that you suggested for the problem with customers wanting "more". Thanks those were great.

    Keep the suggestions coming though, Haha! "Top secret!" I love it!!!! A cute one that still doesn't give up any personal stuff. I'm not sure about making stuff up when asked...I'll never remember what I said!!

    THANKS EVERYONE!!!
    ~Heaven

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    Default Re: How to just say "no"?

    Heaven, your a very pretty girl. What part of Florida are you in? P.M. me if you want.

    As far as not dancing for someone if he is being a jerk...... The beauty of it all is, you don't have to but there are many times you will find yourself dealing with the ass just to make that extra money. Trust me, I deal with it on a regular basis. For the most part, the guys are really nice and respectful.

    The best thing to do is to build your clients and create regulars. I have regulars for just about every night that I am there and I am comfortable knowing who I am dealing with and what kind of money I will be making.

    If someone makes you too uncomfortable and is being a complete jerk, just tell him you have someone else waiting for you, you are with someone but you will come find him later...etc...

    If he asks for extra's, tell him that you will keep him in suspense.... If he asks what your dance consists of, tell him that he will have to wait and find out for himself...



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    Default Re: How to just say "no"?

    Basically, bullshit the bullshitter

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