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    Default Fear of Rejection

    Aloha Ladies, I have a question about rejection. This week is my D-week. I had set this week as my goal for getting back into dancing. But I have problems, I have not reached my goal weight, but the weight of my pocketbook is too light and I need to start soon. I'm 5'5" 160. I know it sounds heavy but when I danced in '97 I weighed 155's ish and was ripped . Now many years later my muscle definition is hardly there and I have a mini tummy pout . Anyway I'm really concerned about being rejected from a club. I have it all set in my mind how I intend to approach a manager and ask for a chance to audition. I know that with time dancing I will shed the weight. But I am concerned with now and just getting a chance to work. If I do get rejected, should I go back to the same club again when I have reached my goal? And if the manager does spit some BS line about how they have too many girls, does that mean something else like "Uh yeah youre not worth my time so go home"? And normally does one get hired on the spot or a call back (I remember my first amateur night where I had to split the $500 prize with another girl due to a tie by the audience, after the contest all of the amateur girls were given a chance to work there). I do have several clubs in mind to audition at. I would do the "audition night" thing but the advertised ones are only for the 18 and up full nude clubs, been there, done that. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. BTW I am in the SF Bay Area and am set on a few clubs in San Francisco and San Jose areas. PS Sorry it so long, Mahalo for being patient.

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    Default Re: Fear of Rejection

    Fathom youll tone up just fine from dancing and stick to your already excersize plan and youll be where you want to be in no time. Good job on working out so far...glad its working for you.
    I would try to go back to the same club in case you do get rejected...but I would try to exhaust all my options first.
    When you go to these clubs sell them on your personality as well as your body. Im sure you have a super personality as well as body. Make both shine!!
    I think that some places do have too many girls though...youd hate to work in a place that had 50 girls on nights and only 20 customers through the door anways.
    *Have you already checked out different shifts to see how many customers and what type come in? If you have that would be a good gage to see if they are brushing you off or not.
    you live like an ivy vine
    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
    -Kenpachi



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