I met my fiance' while working at a SC in OK. I actually met him through a friend of mine {he never went into the club}. I had been there almost a year and was otherwise content with my job as well as the financial stability it offered. Now I have a son {not with him} that he offered to watch at night while I was working, to save money. About 1 month into our relationship I started having problems at work and was getting slightly burnt out, so I decided to take a break. My fiance' at the time was in the military and was in the process of being medically discharged {VERY long story}. We then decided together to move to Florida and be closer to my family I have here. So we moved here and within a month of moving here I found out I am pregnant {currently 6 months at this moment}. Everything was going great and we were so happy when we first got here, then everything started to roll down hill. We started fighting about me dancing, which I hadn't done in 2+ months. He started putting blame on me and saying how unhappy he was when I was dancing {yet he never mentioned it in OK} and that there was no time for us. He badgered me into saying I wouldn't dance again {besides the fact that I was growing increasingly stressed out- which isn't good in pregnancy}.
Now here is the interesting part of this story. When we got here he was offered a job at a shop on the beach, where we live. He started work at 10am and would be home around 6pm. Which I was very content with. He got in good with the owners and within 2 months was a manager. Then "Spring Break" arrives... He has worked every single day for 5+ weeks, from 9am until 2-4am the next day. He has become the most irritable person on this planet from lack of sleep. When he gets home I have already been asleep for 3-5 hours and he wants to have sex but I'm not having anything to do with that just waking up and all. So we fight in the morning because my libido is supposedly gone because I don't want to have sex right when I wake up and am still extremely tired.
Now, he has become the sole provider {which I am not used to because I had been the one working in OK} and I stay at home with my son and my pregnancy. He pays the bills on the first with a check he gets every month, and he puts the rest of the money from his job in a jar to save {which he recounts every night when he gets home from work}. Now that is fine with me, but if I need money and I take it out of the jar... all hell breaks loose. I am automatically questioned about what was so important that I needed to buy with his money he saved. Even if I tell him we needed to buy milk and bread he gets so angry.
Also, I am a very clean and immaculate person, but being pregnant I sometimes get very tired and have to go a few extra days before I clean the house. He will yell at me for being lazy because I haven't washed his jeans and he is the one having to work. I have offered to work but he tells me that I shouldn't bother because I would only last a month before I quit and that it would just go back to him working and me being lazy.
Well, I have tried everything to compromise with him. I quit stripping {something I might add, I LOVED to do} and stayed home with the babies. I always ask to use money out of the jar now. I call him and tell him everywhere I go {although I don't have friends here, so its basically just Wal mart for me}. I walk on eggshells when we talk because I don't know exactly what might cause a fight between us anymore. And I do everything even when my body says "Rest".![]()
Now, I talked to my mom {the grestest woman alive!} and she told me to give him an ultimatum. That after spring break is over {in about a month} shit better go back to the way it was or I am packing mine and the kids bags and we are leaving. Plus I have ways of coming into money so leaving would be relatively easy. But how do you bring it up without sounding like you are going to leave right then and there?
Any advice would be so helpful... I know this is hard to understand but I tried to fit a long story into a small space!



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