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    Default How do I increase my "asshole tolerance"?

    This idea was sparked by Celeste's post about the "reality check." I have a tolerance for probably 3 total pricks a night. Assholes come in many flavors, but my least favorite being the cocky successful mid-30s-40s time-waster. Once I hit my asshole limit, I'm a total bitch for the rest of the night, and it takes every ounce of energy in me to approach another customer. Does anyone have any tricks to dealing with this?
    Any inspiring thoughts or mantras that keep you going?

    Usually I just go to the dressing room and re-do my makeup, change my outfit, or vent to the housemom. But I'd like to just shake it off and continue my work, instead of wasting 20 min in the back. Some nights, it's easier to bounce back than others (especially if I'm making good money), but those slow nights, I feel like I lose good potential customers to the other girls because I can't shake my bad mood.

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    Default Re: How do I increase my "asshole tolerance"?

    I have turned into a real smart ass over the years.
    I find that you can say just about anything to a guy if you look sexy or have a smile on your face.
    I sit around and think up quick comebacks to say to them to shut them up.
    Gets the other guys to laugh at them too.
    Makes you the bell of the ball.

    Keeps you smiling, or smirking anyway.

    check this thread out for some ideas.
    read my post on that; a few other girls put in some funnies.

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=47388
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    Am I the only one who thought thiswas going to be another thread on anal sex? =P
    Never underestimate a hot chick with brains - even if she's nekkid!

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    lol
    no!!!!
    i totally thought it was a troll
    "may your work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, dance like no-one is watching, screw like your being filmed and drink like a true Irishman "--anonymous
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    Quote Originally Posted by Blueyez
    Am I the only one who thought thiswas going to be another thread on anal sex? =P

    LoL! This one made me cackle

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    No asshole ever bothered me at work. They could tell me anything, and I didn't even remember it ten minutes later. Same with real life. How do I do this?

    #1 Realize that they are coming from a place you would never want to be. You wouldn't ever do what they are doing to you. That in itself puts you above them.
    #2 They are the ones with the problems, not you. For some reason, they need to put other people down.
    #3 Some people are just wired this way. It's their jobs to put other people down. It doesn't matter if you are Pam Anderson, they will find something to say.

    When you realize the psychology behind the asshole, it makes them a whole lot less powerful and able to get to you. I don't ever give an asshole a chance. I don't say anything at all, and I walk away, and never think of it again. And I NEVER EVER approach them again for any reason. They're not worth my time.

    When you don't spend even one minute worrying about what they say, then you have won. You are strongest. If you spend one moment letting it get to you, they have won. It's a game to them, and they want to bring you down to their level. Don't let them succeed in doing so.

    Now around here, I take out various frustrations on losers by yelling at them. I find it therapeutic. IRL, won't ever happen.

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    I desperately try to find that one truly nice guy in the crowd who will make me laugh and be fun to hang out with and buy some dances. That can turn it right around.

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    I agree with erotictonic, though it can be difficult to shift to that attitude when they are already getting to you.

    BUT, with experience you will develop asshole radar and realize long before they piss you off that they are a waste of your time

    In the meantime, this is something I do, if they start to piss you off don't even say a word, get up and walk away, the fact that it gets to them if you do this without saying a word will probably even put a smile on your face! Though if you must say something, make it short and sweet like 'I don't like you ' while you're getting up to walk away. Though it's important you don't wait around for a response, and should they say something ignore it, it's their last futile attempt at getting to you.

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    Default Re: How do I increase my "asshole tolerance"?

    I don't know, maybe I have a high tolerance for arseholes, but I just laugh off moronic comments and move on to the next person. Fuck 'em!

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic
    No asshole ever bothered me at work. They could tell me anything, and I didn't even remember it ten minutes later. Same with real life. How do I do this?

    #1 Realize that they are coming from a place you would never want to be. You wouldn't ever do what they are doing to you. That in itself puts you above them.
    #2 They are the ones with the problems, not you. For some reason, they need to put other people down.
    #3 Some people are just wired this way. It's their jobs to put other people down. It doesn't matter if you are Pam Anderson, they will find something to say.

    When you realize the psychology behind the asshole, it makes them a whole lot less powerful and able to get to you. I don't ever give an asshole a chance. I don't say anything at all, and I walk away, and never think of it again. And I NEVER EVER approach them again for any reason. They're not worth my time.

    When you don't spend even one minute worrying about what they say, then you have won. You are strongest. If you spend one moment letting it get to you, they have won. It's a game to them, and they want to bring you down to their level. Don't let them succeed in doing so.

    Now around here, I take out various frustrations on losers by yelling at them. I find it therapeutic. IRL, won't ever happen.
    Yeah I think the more understanding you have in general the more self empowered you can be and it softens emotions form being heightened and you can just simply take steps needed/ control of situations much better with understanding. Maybe allot of problems come form when a person feel frustrated over something they don't understand how to handle.

    What has helped me is just have a goal of having fun and making it a game, and seeing how much fun I can have using my acting skills. In life we get challenged and tested all the time, So I look at how I can find humor in it, and see how a challenge can be fun, and see how I can turn it around to work for me : )

    I think being able to manage ur states is another important factor. Allot can start with mind sets I think, but there is always a way to handle things that will get you the best results for YOU : ) , and things that you might do with less composure or whatever and get u less then desirable results, and whatever u do is either towards or away, and the question is always how because there is always a way.
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    Theres only so much you can take while youre trying your hardest to make nice conversation. I agree w/ the other poster...some guys just love putting us girls down and if it wasnt it it would be some other person.
    The best part about the job is if they are being a true asshole you can just walk away.
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    Default Re: How do I increase my "asshole tolerance"?

    A lot of men who go to SC take pleasure from insulting or degrading a dancer.They might think that it is actually the way that they are supposed to act when they enter the place.Some do that to make themselves feel better,or they are "getting back" at all women for being just dumped by another woman.Either way,we have to put up with it when we come to work.The very helpful thing to do is just to shut your mind to people like that and proceed with doing your job.Don't pay attention.Some of them don't even realize what they're doing,and that you have feelings.If it gets really bad,just walk away,don't waiste your time.It also depends what exactly they did.

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    stupid story time

    Ok years ago i worked with this girl who after every lapdance she would give someone,she would stand up,turn around,playfully reach up and bend thier ear down,then let it go and let it flip back up.It was her trademark,end of dance move.She would say her thanks and collect her money.
    The look on her face and the way she did it was purty sexy looking and guys really dug it.
    For years i watched guys walk in and out of the lapdance room rubbing thier ear with a smile on thier faces.
    She had a very common name in town so whenever someone was talking about her,they would cup thier ear with thier hand and say her name,everyone would know who you were talking about just from the ear flick thingy.
    anyways...

    She had been retired for a few years and we were sitting around talking in a group and someone asked where the hell she came up with that great ear flick move thingy.
    I swear on my headphones,she said

    "I did my business,then i flushed"

    everyone there was just stunned.I laughed so hard i thought i was gonna pee myself!

    She had turned her "release","cleansing"or "vent"into a money making trademark move,and nobody,even her friends, knew the secret of how she delt with the same problem your describing.

    Im with the rest of the class,take some time off if you can.Pamper yourself and surround yourself with people that mean something to you.Best of luck.

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    Classic! I love it, BigGreen!!!

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    HEROIN!!!!!!!! Developing a good sense of humor and the superhuman ability to tell if someone is going to become an asshole to the point of actually bothering you works well. Also, remember that you can say just about anything to anyone as long as you do it with a smile on your face.

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    Walk away and take a few minutes to re-group by yourself. I'll go to the back or to the bar. Even though you eventually learn to tune it out, sometimes a new breed of asshole will catch you offguard. Adapt and evolve from it.

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    I love that story Big Green.

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    Jerks never bother me for some reason, only sucking does. I guess some things that just occur to me if someone's obviously trying to be a jerk:

    1. I could be getting annoyed at the regular club across the street for free

    2. It happens to the best of them

    3. What other job can you just ignore a customer if your patience wears thin?

    4. What other job can you just walk out and take a vacation if feel out of sorts?

    I usually don't even need to be reminded of anything other than the first one being on the college yard and all.

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    How do I increase my "*ssh*le tolerance"???

    Just smile and think they're giving you money with nothing in return.Let the BS they give you go in one ear and out the other.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashara
    I don't know, maybe I have a high tolerance for arseholes, but I just laugh off moronic comments and move on to the next person. Fuck 'em!
    Same here, funny thing is, if someone says something to try to knock me down I smile back and say "Why thank you!". It throws them off because they had probably expected me to runaway with my tail tucked, crying. They just have this lost look on their face, from that they might realize you can take shit and respect you for that. . . maybe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rebuildme
    HEROIN!!!!!!!! Developing a good sense of humor and the superhuman ability to tell if someone is going to become an asshole to the point of actually bothering you works well. Also, remember that you can say just about anything to anyone as long as you do it with a smile on your face.
    She's right, heroin would probably make you feel better. Kinda drastic though....
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    Erotictonic is a smart cookie. I'm gonna use that mentality at work...hard as it might seem sometimes.
    Killer story M&M---thanks so much for sharing...lmao

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    Hmmm, I usually have something smart ass to say to them or I just tune them out...

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    I just had an issue with an out of town guy thinking he could just be so overwhelmingly negative and make fun of the dancers on stage and complain about it being slow, saying every word out of my mouth was insincere, when i was genuinely interested in the beginning to get to know him, etc....normally i would smile and walk away or make a snappy comment, but this time, i smiled and stayed right there and cooed..oh, you're so right..you're so hot, mister....to the point where he knew i was making fun of him, but not so sure because i wouldnt let up.....talked him out of $100 bucks worth of lap dances.....he tried to piss me off by taking FOREVER to get chips with his credit card...but after the dances, i made sure he knew the illusion was over...i kept thinking in my head, he is going to pay to have me listen to his bull....and he did..you should have seen how red he got as he had to hand over the money and watch me walk away!!!

    It just is sad that some guys are so disillusioned that when you genuinely are a dancer who likes to sit and chat and get to know people before you close the sale, that they want to make you feel bad for doing your job!!! I still dont get it, but I was glad I was able to stick it out and let the comments just roll of my back..once I detached myself from the situation, I saw how silly it was to even get mad over it..he is in my court when he is at my club..so the power he thought he had over me was non-existent.......what a breakthrough..luckily, the majority of guys the rest of that night were totally cool. I think it might help (and im still new to dancing, so take it for what it is worth) to remember that a lot of people that are genuinely assholes are people who know it and are hard to deal with in most any setting..they always think theyre right, and you aren't going to get any of their money by trying to prove them wrong or by showing them their faulty logic....let them think they are whatever it is in their head they think they are proving they are, and either take them for as much as you can or move on and just refuse to deal with them from the get go....i always thought the overboard cooing approach was lame, and on a lot of guys, they do appreciate honesty and straightforwardness, but when in doubt, just caricature the situation and have fun with it.

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    Default Re: How do I increase my "asshole tolerance"?

    If a customer says something mean to me, I just smile and say "Thank you!" I like doing this because they want you to get mad or start crying, and it doesn't give them the satisfaction. If they're just being an asshole in general (being negative, complaining, putting down the other girls, etc.), then I ask for a dance more quickly than I usually do because I don't want to waste a lot of time talking to them. If they say no, then I just move on to the next guy.

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