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    Please move this thread if it doens't suit here.


    I met this american customer a while ago in Roppongi,tokyo who spent quite decent money on me and he was the one desprate to know my e-mail add so I did. (he acted nice so I though he's safe. Also giving out cell #,e-mail add is VERY common in japan. I always give only e-mail add though )

    we've been sending e-mails each others about only "a few times", nothing saucy just casual like friends. we haven't met in the club or anywhere since.


    Then today, I recieved 2 e-mails from "his e-mail account". the first one said
    My spouse asked me not to write or visit your club anymore, and I agreed that I will not be visiting again. That's all.



    the second one was from his wife!! I didn't even know he's married 'coz I never interested in to ask him about it.

    Hello,****(my name) or whatever.

    You are just a prostitue in Roppongi or a parasite who loves to destroy other peoples happiness.
    If you had a little bit of brain, you should realize that you are such a hypocrat. Please do not use a word like amen. You are not even a Christian. You donate your money to Tunami victims using money that you got in a proper manner.
    You will surely be happy in your next life.

    Poor ****("). I send my best wishes for your future. One day you will find someone of your own and true happiness of your own, but not with my spouse.


    *********(her name + his sirname.)










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    LOL! Reply to it! Reply to it!

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    Does anyone had a probelm like this before? giving out your # etc...
    This is my first problem and not worry about losing this customer but REALLY pissed to be called as "prostitiue"


    should I write her back? if so what'd you write?


    Gosh my blood pressure... sigh
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    oh thanks very quick reply Madcap!!
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    If she wants to be like that. Tell her the only interest that existed WAS HIS INTEREST FOR YOU!!!!!

    It's a job, it doesn't make the person you are. She is just a sour person.

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    i would reply with class. Dont go down to her level..

    Tell her that im sorry she feels that way... and you are not a prostitute.
    And that the only interest that existed was HER HUSBANDS INTEREST IN YOU!

    Tell her that he never mentioned he had a wife and that you would appreciate it if they would stop emailing you.

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    Hell, yeah, I'd reply back and tell her that he wouldn't have come to see me if she'd been keeping him happy!

    Then block her from your e-mail. lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by tampafldancer
    If she wants to be like that. Tell her the only interest that existed WAS HIS INTEREST FOR YOU!!!!!

    It's a job, it doesn't make the person you are. She is just a sour person.

    Quote Originally Posted by Blueyez
    Hell, yeah, I'd reply back and tell her that he wouldn't have come to see me if she'd been keeping him happy!

    Then block her from your e-mail. lol

    ^^^
    I see, nice Ideas. I could never fancy him..he had smelly mouth. lol



    the amazing thing is, she sent e-mail from HIS ACCOUNT. guess she has sneaked into his account by chance and read them to fond out he's been to the club.
    Last edited by honey55; 04-07-2005 at 01:12 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tampafldancer
    i would reply with class. Dont go down to her level..
    Tell her that im sorry she feels that way... and you are not a prostitute.
    And that the only interest that existed was HER HUSBANDS INTEREST IN YOU!
    I think that tfd has nailed it...definitely the way to go.

    It is nearly impossible to convince someone who has never ventured into the world of strip clubs (or the world of prostitution, for that matter) that it contains plenty of decent, principled and good people who are just doing their/a job like anyone else and that not all dancers (or prostitutes, for that matter) are moral degenerates etc. They will simply be too brainwashed and biased by all the negative stereotypes and chariactertures that society and the media have taught them to be easily influenced. And a woman whose head is in some sort of fit of jealousy (and insecurity, no doubt) re her spouse is going to be even harder to reach. So, don't expect to be successful, but it sure won't do any harm to show some class and dignity (even though she did not) and simply tell her the truth. If she doesn't believe it (and she almost certainly won't), there is nothing you can do about it, but you will have at least tried.

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    Sorry honey, you're distressed over this and my playful response probably wasn't what you were looking for. There's not much i can add and i shouldn't have even posted, but there's a wife out there that needs her bubble popped.

    God, i'd hate to be that chick's husband, imagine what it must be to have to wake up next to a self righteous shrew like that every morning. I'd rather clean monkey shit in the circus.

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    lol, madcap I was very relieved when you posted quickly that made me to feel that
    I am not alon


    eh, I will write to her later when I got calm down... my palms are sweating !!
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    Quote Originally Posted by honey55
    should I write her back?
    I don't think she's worth the effort. You know you're not going to change her mind anyway so why bother. Unless your e-mail is set up to automatically send back an acknowledgement whenever an incoming e-mail message is received, there's no evidence at her end that you even received it. I'd let her sit there and wonder why she heard nothing back. If she sends another, I'd ignore it, too. Unless either of them threatens you or becomes stalker-level harassing, it's their problem to work out so I really wouldn't make it yours. Better to use the time you would have invested in it to do something else you want to do.

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    hahahaha thats classic.

    write back, give a link to this posting and laugh at her seeing her letter shown to dancers all over the world muhahahaha


    btw, are they an american couple living in japan also, or in usa??

    dont worry bout her too much,shes just insecure,and probably conjouring up all sorts of ideas about what you may be to make herself feel better.

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    I feel for you, girl
    Personally, I'd leave it alone. It's obvious that there are other aspects of their relationship that are fucked up, which have NOTHING to do with YOU. For her to take her time out of her life to write to someone she doesn't even know is really sad, especially when such rotten things are coming out of her mouth. It's really messed up! She has some serious issues, so take her words with a grain of salt, especially since you know that what she wrote does not describe you in any way!

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    Quote Originally Posted by evan_essence
    I don't think she's worth the effort. You know you're not going to change her mind anyway so why bother. Unless your e-mail is set up to automatically send back an acknowledgement whenever an incoming e-mail message is received, there's no evidence at her end that you even received it. I'd let her sit there and wonder why she heard nothing back. If she sends another, I'd ignore it, too. Unless either of them threatens you or becomes stalker-level harassing, it's their problem to work out so I really wouldn't make it yours. Better to use the time you would have invested in it to do something else you want to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss420
    I feel for you, girl
    Personally, I'd leave it alone. It's obvious that there are other aspects of their relationship that are fucked up, which have NOTHING to do with YOU. For her to take her time out of her life to write to someone she doesn't even know is really sad, especially when such rotten things are coming out of her mouth. It's really messed up! She has some serious issues, so take her words with a grain of salt, especially since you know that what she wrote does not describe you in any way!

    You guys sound right too... I could go to the gym to workout & forget about that byaatch!
    I have the feeling of they have had similar (his) probelems before. otherwise she woudn't check his e-mails, aye?
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    Quote Originally Posted by mermaidnz
    hahahaha thats classic.

    write back, give a link to this posting and laugh at her seeing her letter shown to dancers all over the world muhahahaha


    btw, are they an american couple living in japan also, or in usa??

    dont worry bout her too much,shes just insecure,and probably conjouring up all sorts of ideas about what you may be to make herself feel better.

    lol, MermaidNZ I though to post her add on here to ask you girls to send loads of crap e-mails like
    "Hi, I slept with him" "Oh he's got small one" etc...


    The guy is american who works for u.s. embassy( ) in Japan, the wife is japanese (guessed from her name.)


    I've heard someone like him who is stationed to Japan is given free accomodation which usually costs $5,000/pcm then monthly salary+
    money for meal + expenses for children's eduction! so she is simply desperate to keep him/or his financial support.
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    I'm in contact with a lot of my customers over email, and I have gotten few letters that sound just like the one you got. I love the "homewrecker" letters, that it is all my fault that her husband/boyfriend left her

    Anyway, I usually just delete the messages. The less said the bettern and you won't stress yourself about sending a response.

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    I would write her back just to defend myself and tell her the real deal, but I don't think you should say anything about their relationship. I say this because nobody knows what's going on for her to be like this except him and her. She could be a complete b***h as she comes off or who knows he could be the root of the prob leading her to act this way. I do say make a stand for yourself though.

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    Don't write her back. It's just going to cause drama. We ALL know that the only women who do this are insecure and there is nothing that you can say that will change that. Let her have whatever (lame) opinion she feels is best for her.

    If she becomes more abusive or keeps sending emails...then just save them all and with one email tell her/him that if she sends you ONE more email that you will take ALL of the emails and report her to HER IP as sending harassing emails and then to the local police stating the same thing.

    If that doesn't work, then report the emails and then utilize the handy little email block feature.

    Responding to a woman who is blind to her REAL faults will only cause more anger and problems. Neither are worth dealing with. Let it go.

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    I would respond to her in a polite manner, but I would call her out for her grammar errors, because that just made her look stupid. If she continues to be a bitch, do what VG said. Take her to the cops

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    I would NOT reply. You'd only be replying to soothe your ego (i.e. you have nothing to GAIN from sending an email except self-gratification), and you run the risk of potentially getting caught up in drama or even adding fuel to the fire. Let them have their little problems and don't get involved. And why dignify her name-calling with a response?
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    Quote Originally Posted by RetiredDancer
    I would respond to her in a polite manner, but I would call her out for her grammar errors, because that just made her look stupid. If she continues to be a bitch, do what VG said. Take her to the cops
    I just wanted to add...if you reply to any of her emails...you cannot report the emails as harassing. Well, you could...but, it really loses it's steam if the other side can cough up emails that are just as bad. And, then you may have to deal with having them reporting you for harassing emails...and on and on...

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    Screw THAT noise. Write her back!


    Dear Madam,

    It is unfortunate that your husband's trip to the establishment that I dance at has caused you so much stress. If he had made the fact of his marital status known, I would'nt have given in to his request for my email. I was under the impression that he was quite single, not that I was making plans to snatch him up or anything of that nature. He had espressed great interest in giving me money, in the standard business fashion, and wished to keep in contact with me. I have no problem with severing contact with your husband, if that is how you'd like it to be. Perhaps, with time and counseling, you two will be at ease with the fact that he has an interest in strippers.








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    Oh, for crying out loud. Like ANYONE on an internet message board is in a good place to criticize someone for spelling and grammar errors. I would live in dread of the days when all my spelling mistakes and typos came back to haunt me. A woman is jealous that her husband was secretly corresponding with another woman, and a stripper at that. Obviously, it is inappropriate and undignified to email strangers and call them names and the best way not to encourage this behaviour is to not engage in it. Like, really - do you really care that some woman (and this is taking for granted that it is not some weird customer ploy) thinks you're a whore? Lot's of women probably think dancers are whores. We can't engage with all of them. And really, do you think you make yourself look good or less whore-y by writing back and saying "I was never interested in your husband anyway, I just wanted his money. Neener, neener, neener"?
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    The contradictory advice in this thread, to reply or not, makes a lot of sense, imo, on both sides. Not replying is probably the best bet to save yourself hassle and perhaps more serious unpleasantness in the future. A reply, either classy or following her "low road" lead, might well make you feel better and more satisfied in the short run and especially if whatever you say puts an end to it once and for all.

    Obviously you don't owe her a reply, h55, so maybe the question is do you owe yourself the satisfaction of making one. If you actually can "let it go" and just forget about the whole thing, then not replying seems wiser to me, but that is not always as easily done as said...depending on your own personality and other factors.

    (And, btw, I think the possibility that Jenny raises, that it is really him trying to instigate some sort of staged drama with you, bears keeping in mind. You can never really tell who's fingers are on the keyboard at the other end of an email link.)

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