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    If your wife or girlfriend emailed your fave dancer, cussing her out and putting her down? Would you allow it or would you put the smack down and tell her to fuck off?

    Just wondering...there's a post in SW about a dancer who got a "ruffled" email from a one-time customer's wife...

    Heh.

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    I would forward the e-mail to you so you could have some entertainment

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    Well, if that where to happen, shame on me for being stupid enough to get caught.

    If it's a spouse or SO I'm going to take my medicine and the dancer in question should either hit the delete button and move on or respond in whatever way she sees fit. At that point it's between the two of them.

    If it's a not-so-serious girlfriend I'd probably tell her to F' off since she shouldn't be getting so worked up about what I do when I'm not with her anyway.

    Again, the bottom line here is , don't be stupid enough to get caught in the first place.
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    Hey VG



    Well, from what I understand from reading the thread on SW, his wife responded from his email account. That's a big no-no in my book. I'd be extremely pissed about that... It's like if she read my diary (now now... don't get me wrong. I don't keep one, other than my occasion trip report ). I don't care how intimate, or open your relationship is with your wife, SO, etc... We all need our privacy, and snooping around in my email is strictly off limits.

    If it were me, I'd first explain the situation to the best of my ability. I'd just be honest - "I like to, on occassion, go to a strip club to unwind" and so on.... although you may want to take a different strategy if your honesty would lead to a response like, "I much rather pay hot naked girls to get my rocks off rather than buy you that new dishwasher you were asking for"... have tact.. that's all I'm saying.

    Then I would tell her how upset I was that she a) was snooping around in MY email, and b) responded back to the girl without consulting me first. WTF? she can't possibly know the whole situation.

    She can't trust me because I was corresponding with a stripper without her knowledge? Well, I couldn't trust her because she was snooping through my things... just as bad IMO

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    Good to see ya on the blue, VG

    I didnt read the pink post so I dont know if the gal knew her husband/BF was a clubber. Obviously, if she didnt I could see her going off the deep end finding out about his hobby. Even if she did know that he hit strip clubs, she might see a difference between an occasional SC visit and regular email contact with a dancer. That would perhaps place the "relationship" at a level beyond casual in her mind.

    I agree with Yoda that the guy was sloppy for getting caught (maybe he wanted to...who knows?). And with Jay that the resultant drama should make him consider his priorities. I think most guys (if they are in a serious relationship) would probably wuss out, verbally swear off clubs and keep a low profile. 99% of them would be back at the club within six months hopefully having developed more careful habits (and with a new email address)

    As far as reading someone elses emails, not everyone considers his or her spouses correspondence sacrosanct. I do, personally, but considering the content of some of my emails, I admit to wanting a degree of privacy

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    Default Re: What would you do...

    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess
    If your wife or girlfriend emailed your fave dancer, cussing her out and putting her down? Would you allow it or would you put the smack down and tell her to fuck off?
    well, if i planned on hiding (and i do) my extracurricular activities from my SO. i wouldn't be stupid enough to use let alone furnish her with the knowledge of any communication device that could be potentially compromised by my SO. however, the answer to your hypothetical question is simple. strippers come and go. the SO does not. this is hardly a battle worth fighting for on the stripper's behalf.

    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    Well, from what I understand from reading the thread on SW, his wife responded from his email account. That's a big no-no in my book. I'd be extremely pissed about that.
    get real. women can be nosy in that fashion. they discreetly go through everything in their home as is their right. some guy thinks his porn collection is safely hidden from his wife in a hidden underground bunker in the basement inside a safe? wrong! you don't know that she knows exactly where it's been located for the past three years and she knows the combination to the safe. if you want to hide something that you don't want to SO to find. the best way is not hide it in the house.

    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    I'd just be honest - "I like to, on occassion, go to a strip club to unwind".
    honesty? geez, why don't you put a gun in your mouth and pull the trigger. it will be less painful. you don't do that...you lie some more...bill clinton style. you say things like,"i was drunk and went with the guys to a sc for the first time in my life"." "i don't know how she got my e-mail address. she must have asked me for it, but i don't remember.". "like i said, i was really drunk. i must have blacked out".

    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    Then I would tell her how upset I was that she a) was snooping around in MY email, and b) responded back to the girl without consulting me first. WTF? she can't possibly know the whole situation.
    well, she knows you've been a lying ass slimebag who's been hiding his jaunts to the sc and his communications with a woman whom she never met who's been polishing up your willy with her ass. that about covers it, right?

    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    She can't trust me because I was corresponding with a stripper without her knowledge?
    if you need to hide the correspondence in the first place. why should she trust you?

    Quote Originally Posted by FBR
    I agree with Yoda that the guy was sloppy for getting caught (maybe he wanted to...who knows?).
    i doubt it. no guy wants to get caught, but there are so many ways to raise suspicion that guys don't even think about because they assume that it won't raise suspicion. it only needs to happen once. for example, if got an SO with an advanced degree in computer science and she's wondering why a partition of your HD is encrypted. you used to be "mr.eveready" four times a week and all of a sudden you become "mr. speedy gonzalas" once a week. your groin used to look like a chia pet and all of a sudden you start saving or trimming around your cock and balls.

    Quote Originally Posted by FBR
    As far as reading someone elses emails, not everyone considers his or her spouses correspondence sacrosanct. I do, personally, but considering the content of some of my emails, I admit to wanting a degree of privacy.
    no guy should assume their e-mails are private if your SO has access to your computer. besides, what happened to that stripper isn't uncommon. the stripper should be be glad that the customer didn't have her cell phone number. here's a snippet of an PSA e-mail i received from an escort:
    if the call/questions continue it is usually because it is your wife, s/o. if she questions me, i tell her the number is my husbands (xxx) cell number and i will gladly give him a message and he will call her back later and explain why he and her husband call one another and what their business was that they discussed ... usually this makes the woman feel like a nosey fool and she drops it. i would suspect it also keeps her from questioning you. it is woman nature ... if we do snoop, we damn sure don't want our s/o to know we snoop!! if you know, you may become more careful in the future, and it decreases our chances of finding something the next time we are on a mission ... laugh, but it is true.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk
    get real. women can be nosy in that fashion.
    and your point is?

    because supposedly women are inherently nosy then it makes it right?

    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk
    honesty? geez, why don't you put a gun in your mouth and pull the trigger. it will be less painful. you don't do that...you lie some more...bill clinton style. you say things like,"i was drunk and went with the guys to a sc for the first time in my life"." "i don't know how she got my e-mail address. she must have asked me for it, but i don't remember.". "like i said, i was really drunk. i must have blacked out".
    Surely by now mr_punk, you know that lies upon lies tend to exacerbate the problem... he got caught. so be a man and fess up... unless of course you're married to a complete bimbo airhead, then you should be fine.

    also read "we've been sending e-mails each others about only "a few times", nothing saucy just casual like friends."

    You're overlooking the fact that they were corresponding with each other. Unless he was drunk every time he responded to her emails, I don't think your well thought out lies would help the situation.

    and come on. "i must have blacked out". You can do better than that

    if you need to hide the correspondence in the first place. why should she trust you?
    well, if I take your suggestion, then I should just continue to lie... then she would trust me, right? or am I missing something here?

    no guy should assume their e-mails are private if your SO has access to your computer.
    it's called a password. Pick a good one and remember to log off when you're done. It's actually not that difficult

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    When I have a significant other, I stay out of the strip clubs. It's something that I've only done when I've been unattached....
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    Quote Originally Posted by merely_lurking
    When I have a significant other, I stay out of the strip clubs. It's something that I've only done when I've been unattached....
    Me too. I try to deal with my conscience as little as I possibly can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    and your point is?because supposedly women are inherently nosy then it makes it right?
    if you think right or wrong has anything to do with it. you missed my point. if you're trying to hide e-mails from your SO. it's not a good idea to assume that she won't go on your computer. if the shit hits the fan. you have no one to blame but yourself.

    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    Surely by now mr_punk, you know that lies upon lies tend to exacerbate the problem<snip>
    i see that i'm going to have to go back to using smiley emoticons.

    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    well, if I take your suggestion, then I should just continue to lie... then she would trust me, right? or am I missing something here?
    i'm just pointing out that her reasons for not trusting you may be just as legitimate as yours. no one lives in a vacuum in a relationship.

    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    it's called a password. Pick a good one and remember to log off when you're done. It's actually not that difficult
    oh yeah, i think i've seen those things at radio shack next to the keyboard logger.
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    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy
    it's called a password. Pick a good one and remember to log off when you're done. It's actually not that difficult
    Stop kidding yourself. First of all, I know teenagers that can figure out a way around a password-any password other than a locked petition in your HD, which would only raise questions and arouse suspicion.

    Secondly, sooner or later you will foret to log out and your spouse will go snooping. In a perfect, altruistic universe of course this would never happen. We don't live in one of those.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    Stop kidding yourself. First of all, I know teenagers that can figure out a way around a password-any password other than a locked petition in your HD, which would only raise questions and arouse suspicion.
    Yoda, I think you meant partition. It works for me, but I have lots of pictures and MPG files, too.

    I hacked a dancer's password on TUSCL and posted as if I was inside her mind. It was an attic full of junk and weed.

    Hacking isn't always the best move. Yoda registered with a blue name, so I started Black Yoda, an unregistered name that gave license to idiots.

    If you wanna be somebody special on your TUSCL home club page, the password for VillageGod is allofus.

    Answer to the (easy) question: I would just dump the dancer for being flakey. That's why she's a rental in the first place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SportsWriter2
    Yoda, I think you meant partition. It works for me, but I have lots of pictures and MPG files, too.
    That's what happens when I post before meds....I guess one could petition one's SO to stay the hell out of one's "other life" partition.

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    Hacking isn't always the best move. Yoda registered with a blue name, so I started Black Yoda, an unregistered name that gave license to idiots.
    True, but the Red Sox made being an idiot OK.

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