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    Relatioship status??

    This thread could easily go into the newbie part of the forum but I want as many people to see this question and give me feed back...

    Do you tell customers anything about your "real life"? Do you divulge if you are married or engaged or seeing someone? How do you fend off the whole "Do you have someone at home waiting for you?"question?


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    Default Re: Relatioship status??

    usually if it's a customer who i think is not looking to date me, just to know, then I tell him that "no, I don't have a boyfriend, right now I'm just liking being single for awhile". However, if it's someone who is actually looking to date me (i.e. guys who think that a strip club is some sort of dating servuce or djs who don't seem to be able to keep it professional ) then i admit that i do have a boyfriend.

    keep in mind this works for me because i don't really acquire regulars 'cuz i'm only in one place for so long.

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    Thanks Quaid for your imput.
    I work at the same club, but not very regularly, and it's in a tourist town, so I have no regular customers. I just hate lieing, and I am NO GOOD at it. I can never remember my lies!!

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    Hmmm. I think I would say I was single. It plays into the whole fantasy that your "attainable", even though your really not, since Quaid brings up a really good point. Strip clubs are not the dating services, they are places of business! But guys like to at least THINK they can score.

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    My best advice is to keep away from lies or changing your story. If your married and tell people your single this could back fire in different ways, (another dancers tells custy, or you forget what you told custy etc.)
    Whatever you decide just make sure you always use the same story unless you change clubs frequently then it wont matter.

    I find most good customers are married and don’t care if your available, while single older gentlemen shouldn’t care either. Generally the ones who will care are the ones who want to date you so really, save your self the headache..

    But remember, NO GUY WANTS TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR HUSBANDS CUTE HAIR CUT OR YOUR KIDS BALLET. Keep your personal biz to your self always!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovespell
    Hmmm. I think I would say I was single. It plays into the whole fantasy that your "attainable", even though your really not, since Quaid brings up a really good point. Strip clubs are not the dating services, they are places of business! But guys like to at least THINK they can score.
    I agree it is a fantasy etc. however, be very careful leading guys on to believe they can score. Form experience I have learned that this only creates drama and simply put, its playing games with people. Customers will loose respect for you in the end when they realize your full of it.


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    I always tell them that I do have a boyfriend. One because I hate lying anyway. Also as stated before they can find out and if they see you've lied I think they feel more betrayed than if they find out you are taken. I've never had a custy get mad or not tip me as much because I have a boyfriend.There was this one custy who would come in and tip certain of us girls no less than 20's and he would come to the stage for every set we danced and get privates & LDs. He was crushing on one of my girls and she lied about having a man..but I didn't. He ending up finding out and cut her off for lying. He said all she had to do is be honest he wouldn't have cared.... and he still tipped me the same.

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    I tell then that I am not going to tell wheter I am married or not. If I say I am single, everybody wants to ask me out If I say I am married, nobody wants a dance. Then I jsut give them my best Mona Lisa smile and refuse to discuss it further. It has been working (mostly) for me.


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    My club personality is the "Horny Trophywife" I tell them I'm married and it HELPS me make $$$.
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    Default Re: Relatioship status??

    Most of my customers are married so it doesn't matter what I say. I don't like dealilng with the guys who are looking to "take you out to dinner" anyway so I am just upfront and say I have a bf even if I don't. The people who want a date and get annoyed by this fact are usually not the type of customers I like to keep anyway. Honesty is the best policy as long as you don't disclose too much personal info.

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    If they ask, I tell them the truth. Yes, I am involved. Happily so. If they dont like it, oh well. Its so rare that my relationship status effects my cash.
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    I go for the "Raging Lesbian" persona - the head girl and I are a feature Duo act so that helps.
    Someguys ask you to talk dirty (And I always charge them heaps) so to talk about your girlfriend is safer than involving a male. I always feel that If I say yeah I love men etc then if they try anything I was asking for it.

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    I always say "no" and just tell them I work so much that it is hard to find time for the dating scene and that I am just "having fun" right now. Has worked for me since I started dancing 3 years ago.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yea
    I agree it is a fantasy etc. however, be very careful leading guys on to believe they can score. Form experience I have learned that this only creates drama and simply put, its playing games with people. Customers will loose respect for you in the end when they realize your full of it.
    Thanks for the advice Yea. I will be sure to be very careful. I really don't want to play any head games, or let people think they can "get" with me.

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    I never say anything...I usually just change the subject or act really coy about all of it. I find that if they are asking it's because they want to score and answering the question either gets them all worked up and thinking they will score...or turns them off.

    The guys who KNOW what a strip club is for never even ask the question.

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    i just go down a long laundry list of things i do in a week. sometimes, some of it is made up. some examples: modeling, photography, driving other girls home tonite or picking up drunk friends from a regular club (so i cant meet up afterwards). i just make it seem like i'm too busy.
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