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    A little advice please! I'm the new girl at my club, I've been dancing for about two weeks and I'm really enjoying it.

    My problem is that I think my manager is hiting on me (okay, think is more like know). I would really really prefer to avoid any/all drama at work, but I'm not sure the best way to handle it, I just want to get along with everyone... any advice?

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    You could just tell him that you are involved already but "thanks for the compliment" It will make you look like a lady and then you won't have to worry about the other girls. (he probably does this to all the new girls, blech!)

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    i've had this happen. i choose not to reveal if i'm in a relationship or not: this could affect my $. i just say, 'i'm flattered, but this is my job. i prefer to keep a professional relationship with all my coworkers and hope you can respect that'
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    Just tell him you have set your standards a little higher and have decided to sleep with the DJ.

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    Yeah, I agree with everything said above........never ever date someone you work with. No matter what one does for a living. Less than 10% of relationships work out where 2 people meet while working together. And just think, if a couple who works together splits up........think how hard it would be to go to work
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    Quote Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM

    Never shit where ya eat,or where ya get your money for eats.
    ^^^^LOL

    Makes great sense.....believe me not a good idea. But, sounds like you wanna do the right thing. Is this with you or with all the girls? But, next time he gets flirty just say youre not looking to date right now. If he tries the "we can be friends" thing...just say that youre to involved w/ youre own life right now.
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    Some strip club managers hit on everyone that is new.Don't sweat it.They're just sleazy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    Some strip club managers hit on everyone that is new.Don't sweat it.They're just sleazy.
    I was about to say that as well. I've worked with many managers that hit on everyone, whether your dating someone or not. I just pat them on the head when they say something corny and walk away.
    No need to be rude to them, it's usually harmless. I think it's their way of getting "along" with the girls, like it's their job to flirt with us. For some reason they think that we'll "behave better" or be nicer to them. Some DJ's, doormen and bartenders act the same way.
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    I would tell him that you make it a policy to never date in the work place. Tell him that youre flattered! Try to make it sound as pleasant as possible. If he htinks you're still going to be groovy with him, it may work out ok. But there is always that random jackass. Be careful. I can honestly say I've seen a few work relationships work out.... but its so rare. And its otherwise so messy!
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    Isn't there a pretty stiff law against sexual harassment against co-workers?

    If other dancers find out about this, they'll want some too. (Just kidding.) But they might turn you both in and/or get pretty durned nasty.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PrincessPatti618
    My problem is that I think my manager is hiting on me (okay, think is more like know)...
    What??!! No! That never happens, lol.

    Sorry, I'm not trying to mess with you, but this goes on all the time. If you're lucky, he'll at least be a gentleman about it. Most I've dealt with and seen in action have no idea what this concept means.

    I have myself made the mistake of messing around at work--though it was by her instigation, it still takes two--several years ago, and it was a big mistake, leading ultimately to my losing the job a few months later.
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    Yuck, thats very gross (and common) to have a manager hit on you.

    A manager tried to get with me before, and no matter how nicely I said 'not interested', he just kept on with the butt-grabbing and even trying to kiss me.

    I've got my own strategy for dealing with this, but it's not for everyone.

    Basically, I just start acting really weird so they get freaked out and leave me alone. Think, talking about UFO's and Unicorns and astrological signs and whatnot. I just make sure its WAY outside the normal range, i.e. I'm really worried about my dog since she got taken away to space, and when she finally came home they had installed an anal probe, just like on Southpark, but it doesn't come out when other people are around......" you get the idea.

    Always works. But people think I'm kinda weird to being with.

    Anyway, been doing it a long time, and it really works. (I get some good laughs too)

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    Quote Originally Posted by 242_fair
    I've got my own strategy for dealing with this, but it's not for everyone.

    Basically, I just start acting really weird so they get freaked out and leave me alone. Think, talking about UFO's and Unicorns and astrological signs and whatnot. I just make sure its WAY outside the normal range, i.e. I'm really worried about my dog since she got taken away to space, and when she finally came home they had installed an anal probe, just like on Southpark, but it doesn't come out when other people are around......" you get the idea.
    lol!!!!

    But im sorry to say,this wont stop most guys,its only the excuse they will use NOT to call you the morning after or to be seen in public with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer
    Isn't there a pretty stiff law against sexual harassment against co-workers?

    If other dancers find out about this, they'll want some too. (Just kidding.) But they might turn you both in and/or get pretty durned nasty.
    If you're not on the payroll, you arent a co-worker in the eyes of the law... and to be completely honest and cynical, it's so rare anymore to see a dancer get anywhere positive in a court.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
    lol!!!!

    But im sorry to say,this wont stop most guys,its only the excuse they will use NOT to call you the morning after or to be seen in public with you.

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    Lol, thanks for the help everyone.

    so far so good, I'm just waiting it out! I'll keep you posted.

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