Normally I would post in the ladies lounge, but for this question I would like the opinion of both the men and the women:
I need to know how to string a guy along who I'm going to eventually have sex with, but I want to make the tension mount as much as possible before doing it.
The reason for this is because most of my sexual life, I've always been the agressor (kissing them, or basically making it so the guy wouldn't understand that he wasn't taking a chance at rejection at all.) Even if I'm not the aggressor, I tend to rush sex very fast...I don't have a problem with this, but I would like to change it up a) so I'm sure my partner is the one that I want (I get tested in between each lover, so if I'm not sure I don't want to waste 2 weeks down time for testing and results. It's overkill, but it satisfies my responsible streak.) and b) I want to make the guy work for it.
Plus, having not had sex in awhile, I want to make it a ripping clothes with teeth, busting a hole in the drywall, rugburn in the morning type of experience.
So, I started out by going out with this guy and letting it drop into conversation that I'm a princess (it's not the first thing I said, but it was smooth but joking enough to take it lightly.) He's gotten the point and spent money on dinners to woo me (I do understand that money and sex are not the same, nor have to have any overlap, but this was part of making the guy work for it. I wanted to be valued, and even when he wasn't spending money on me, I still felt valued.) Plus, I want a guy who will buy me lingerie (it's a pet peeve of mine in the past that I've had to buy all my own lingerie to turn the guy on). But we'll work on that later.
Now the issue is that our conversations over the phone have taken a decidedly sexual bent (without doing phone sex). We've only been on three dates, and I'd like to stretch out the time before sex both in terms of length of time, and the number of dates until that time. I'm trying to train myself to wait for the guy to make the first move. It's not something that I'd probably do a lot in the future, but I'm really appreciating the effort it takes me to let the guy step up and be aggressive since that's what I'm looking for in bed.
The question then is this: I think the next couple of times we go out he'll try to kiss me (we haven't yet, and if he doesn't try soon then he's a fool). What's a good progression for spacing sexual stuff out? Are there any tricks for things that will turn him on (don't want to get into bj's just yet either) and I can leave him hanging to stew in his own frustration for a little while more? I don't want to push him too far-- that's why I need help to know how far to go but still be able to walk out the door.
Also, suggestions for sexual turn-ons that aren't the usual.
I know if we start heavily fooling around I'm probably going to be lost (I haven't had sex in over 8 mos. so that's another reason...don't want to just jump in the sack because I'm a hornygirl at the moment.)
But I'd still like some input for naughty teasing, and a little just barely over the edge taunting.



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.. In other words, cuddling in the bedroom is a big no-no.

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