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    I have a new regular. He is a fairly nice guy, not an asshole. he has been in to see me the last 3 nights I have worked. Now I have a porblem. THe first time I danced for him, he made some comment about wanting to get me in a hot tub. I said something like, Mmm, I love hot tubs or some othr non-committal thing like that. Second night it was, Maybe we can get together sometime. I said "I hardly know you!" last night he told ANOTHER dancer tht he wanted to get me to spend the weekend with him, and told ME that he wanted to take me to the Syberis. He had his phone number ALREADY written down on not one but TWO business cards, which I had no choice but to take. Now I have no excuse not to call him . . .

    So you all can see where this is going, right? I don't really want to loose his business, I don't want to be a bitch to him, admit I lied about my marriage (did he ever ask? I can't remember) or otherwise bust his bubble. I get the distict feeling tht "I don't date outside the club" is not going to work because he will want to be the exception to that rule. Or he will decide that I have been leading him on, etc.

    For some reason, I don't usually encounter reg's who don't get the "fantasy" aspect of it. ANd I have never delt with one who looks so dificult to discourage!

    He is bound to be there tonight, so somebody PLEASE help me think of somethng to say!


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    Default Re: Now what do I do?

    Gee Coleen, I'm a total newb... But the only thing I can think of is to tell the guy that you "Love playing with him at the club, and leaving with him makes you feel uneasy" No amount of money or even a regular is worth putting yourself at risk. I'm sure if he doesn't get it, or he gets pissy...there will be many other guys who will appreciate a beautiful godess like you! Just don't let this guy make you feel bad, you don't need that!

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    sorry to bust your bubble girlie but I don't think you're going to have this one for long. Were it me, I would take the flighty approach for this one...*giggle* gosh I'm so sorry I didn't call...I simply didn't have time today <next day> *giggle* gosh I'm so sorry I didn't call...I lost your number*pout* <next day> gosh I'm so sorry I didn't call...I was fighting with my sister

    Whatever excuse you can think of, use it. This is a situation where I might also take the sexy bitch approach. Not dom, but just pouty and petulant and narcissistic.

    I empathize with you about not wanting to lose his business. But some regulars are real fucking wack jobs. Milk it while you can just know he will probably be short lived.

    Keep us updated.

    p.s. this is where the throw away cell phones come in handy.


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    Is the amount of money worth the BS? BS I mean dodging his requests and constantly trying to get him to reconize he is in a fantasy in a nice way.
    How long has he been your regular? That would help me gauge whether or not I would want to keep him around near me.
    Tell him you already enjoy seeing him there or you have the most fun right now with him. Tell him how much you like it when he comes to see just you when he visits. He might hear those and try to come up w/ something to say to those. I used to say that I would get fired or something and get criminal charges against me for "prostitution" (which is somewhat true) if someone found out.

    I had a nice regular kinda like that. He saw me for about 4 months then he kinda got the point I would not go anywhere outside the club w/ him (#1 being my own safety). Needless to say the amount of money he spent on me became less and less.
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    Wow, Colleen, I have the EXACT same problem with a FEW new guys. I avoided the whole going out and calling thing by just giving out my email address (it doesn't have my real name or any info on it.) I told them I don't date customers and they (all 3) said something like I must have a bunch of loser boy friends, I said sure why not.
    Now they say, well let's be friends, so when can we go out?
    I don't want to lose their money either and they are pleasant to work for in the club, but it's getting really old. I don't hassle them about their life so it's insulting that they are doing it to me.
    Ah well, I guess they come and go. I'm actually at a point of saying to hell with regulars and just treating each guy as they come. I usually treat my regulars with respect and will leave another's side to speak and dance for them, but if they won't give me the same respect then screw it.
    The money doesn't seem worth it to me anymore. I'm a terrible liar and telling the truth hasn't helped either.
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    Keep it all business. I have used this technique on many guys and still have never had anyone take me up on it.

    Customer: Would you join me for dinner?
    Dancer: Sure, I have to be at work by 7pm, but before that I am available. I charge $500 for an hour of dinner and conversation, clothed and absolutely no sex. Does tommorrow work for you?
    Customer: UHHHHH, $500??
    Dancer: Aren't I worth it?
    Customer: I was hoping for a real date.
    Dancer: I'm a pro. Are you ready for some private dances? It is much cheaper then seeing me outside the club, and I take my clothes off.

    Sometimes I can keep the customer as regulars in the club. If he is really looking for a girl friend then he will move on. He will move on anyway, and I don't think that the money would be that much less if you keep things all business.

    I would be happy to go out to dinner with a customer for $500 for one hour, but alas, this has never happened.

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    @paris--You never cease to inspire and amaze me! I love that!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    Keep it all business. I have used this technique on many guys and still have never had anyone take me up on it.

    Customer: Would you join me for dinner?
    Dancer: Sure, I have to be at work by 7pm, but before that I am available. I charge $500 for an hour of dinner and conversation, clothed and absolutely no sex. Does tommorrow work for you?
    Customer: UHHHHH, $500??
    Dancer: Aren't I worth it?
    Customer: I was hoping for a real date.
    Dancer: I'm a pro. Are you ready for some private dances? It is much cheaper then seeing me outside the club, and I take my clothes off.

    Sometimes I can keep the customer as regulars in the club. If he is really looking for a girl friend then he will move on. He will move on anyway, and I don't think that the money would be that much less if you keep things all business.

    I would be happy to go out to dinner with a customer for $500 for one hour, but alas, this has never happened.


    Be careful. I know of several guys that would pay that and much more for a dinner date... Im sure the girls here know what im talking about.

    Its hard to keep a regular that wants to date you. Dont waste your time unless you can AND WANT to see them otc. (and make them pay big$$)

    Im with someone so i wont even consider seeing someone otc.

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    True...but a guy who is willing to pay a woman $500/hour for dinner and conversation (and no dances/sex) is worth going to dinner with. You're being compensated for your time...so that's fine. It's still business.

    MOST of the guys who want to get a woman to the Sybaris are the ones that think it would be cheaper for them. Or even to take her to dinner and a bang session. It's not necessarily because they want the conversation...they want the sex and that's it. So, if you throw Paris' words out...they'll most likely back off.

    I say use Paris' line...heh

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    true venus. I think its worth it too.. <if i was single>

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    I'm using Paris's line. Who knows? I might make $500.

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    • I would just blow him off. Be a BITCH!

    I blew one of my regular customers off tonight, for good, because he is too much of a pain in thee ass, even though I have kept him stringing along for a few months, his drama isn't worth the money anymore.
    I got all of these calls from him today, and text messages, so finally I just freaked out, and told him how it was; that scared him, and I haven't heard back from him yet.

    • Or you can just milk him, and tell him that you need more money to spend time with him, because you have a high house fee...blllahh...blahh...he might get the point and be turned off, to see that you have game, and he isn't going to get a free ride with you, or pay you, and at least you will have got some $ out of the wierdo!

    • Otherwise just walk away, if you aren't comfortable, no customer should put you in a position to be worrysome before work.

    I agree, that a custy that promises you this vacation, just wants to have sex, and thinks that he can save some money that way, and get the better deal.

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    I would try the $500 for dinner idea too. I did it last Sunday for $400 with a customer. He was on a business trip with his friend and I guess he just got tired of male company. It worked out well for me, $400 for an hour in a nice restaurant ? Can't beat that.
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    Oooh, Paris's idea is great. I'll have to remember it.

    I get these guys frequently, and I'm always upfront with them. I'll tell them I have a boyfriend and I'm an honest girl, or I'll tell them that I'm here to make money, not pick up guys. The good guys (which are most of them) respect that, and who cares about the other ones? I do have one regular that I have to explain that to every time he comes in, which is annoying... he thinks I'll change my mind or something. But, oh well.

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    Yep Id do the dinner thing too. High prices scare off the lowrollers and dirtbags.
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    These kind of customers are looking to get your time without paying for it , asap.

    Essentually they want you to work for free.

    Work this line Paris offered : " It is much cheaper then seeing me outside the club, and I take my clothes off."

    That is your best bet to keep this guy as a paying customer. But don't be too upset if he moves on either. He sounds like he is looking for "freebies" to me.

    Me, in general I don't waste even a minutes worth of time on a customer after he has asked to see me outside the club. As soon as they do that( IMHO) they have lost all sense of perspective.

    I don't like to personally involve myself with people who lack perspective. They are risky in more ways than one.

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    Well, this turned into a non-issue really fast! He never came back to see me after I failed to call him. I heard from the manaer that he was in the club on one of my off days, but he knew my schedule and so chose to come on an off day.

    I actaully think I would use the Paris Policy, however, if this happens again. I mean, if they really ARE willing to pay me, wouldn't THAT be cool?


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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    I would be happy to go out to dinner with a customer for $500 for one hour, but alas, this has never happened.
    "Never" is a very long time, my beautiful girl.

    No dinner worth going to lasts less than three hours, anyway, don't you think?

    I've often thought of writing TRs on these, but I know I would be banned from the Dark Side if I ever actually did it. ("Fabulous 3-hour dinner at Montrachet in Tribeca. Had to fly my girl in from Oregon on short notice. Went clubbing together until 3:00 AM. Damage: $9,000. Worth every cent.")
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