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    Do most dancers avoid couples on purpose? Why?

    My fiance and I love going to strip clubs. We love the atmosphere. We love people watching. We both love naked woman. And we love going home and having great sex.

    But we have to hunt down women to come over and dance for us. More often then not the dancers will just walk around us.

    We are pleasent, we tip well, we dress to impress and we have all our teeth. Yet, we have walked out of a club only spending $30-40 when we brought $200-300. So why do they walk around us?

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    Default Re: Couples at a club

    Here's an existing thread covering your topic....

    "Do ladies like to dance for couples...."

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=28898

    The truth is not all dances are compfortable dancing for women. Some are and some are not. Usually I find it's best to set a tone, and then wait for those who are comfortable to approach you. If you go to seek out a dancer, than you may be trying to get one who's not comfortable with couples.

    What I mean by "setting the tone" is to show what you described. Make sure you and your SO are actively tipping, and I don't mean just getting dances but tipping the stage as well. It's even better if you (as the female) tipp on your own! Once you start tipping dancers on stage (and you can tip any dancer on stage), and show you're there enjoying yourself and having a good time, than those who are comfortable with couples will see this and start to approach you.

    The reason why this is so important is cause many dancers have encountered couples where the gf is there, but not really having a good time. She's may just be there to show how "cool" she is to her SO, and trying to proove that she's alright with the whole SC scene, when she's really not. We've all seen situations where the female is there clearly not enjoying herself, and she's simply spending the night giving dirty looks and crass remarks to the dancers. Having been exposed to this, it's no wonder some dancers are a little gun shy in approaching couples.

    Anyway, hope that helps. Best of luck!
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    Default Re: Couples at a club

    i think just haveing 2 people their at the same table can be intimidating for alot of dancers. i notice if i bring friends to the club the girls aren't nearly as lovable.
    as when i'm alone. but generally i will chase down the ones i want.

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    Default Re: Couples at a club

    In addition to tipping onstage, ask the girl to stop by for a dance. A lot of guy custy's do this, whereas a lot of women come up to a stage, dancing and showing out for their boyfriends/husbands and make it seem as though they are tipping for their need to be seen, not as a prelude to a lap dance.


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    I did read the above thread but I don't think it helped... Some women like to dance for couples in that thread.

    We have been to many strip clubs together and I can count the times a dancer came to us on one hand.

    We sit at the stage and tip every single girl on stage. We don't make rude comments and we are both talkative w/ the girls. We are a little picky with who we want to come over and pay attention to us (isn't everyone?) but we are not mean to anyone who does.

    The last time he waved over a dancer she stopped... asked us how our night was, chatted for about 30 seconds and then said "I have to go make money".... and we tipped her 5 anyway.... Does our money smell funny? I realy wanted her to dance for me too.

    Okay... don't laugh... but we think we might be too hot. We are both very easy on the eyes. Do you think this might have something to do with it?

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    I think it depends on the club. This past weekend my boyfrined and I checked out a club where most of the girls seemed coked up and I think there are some extras going on. NO ONE approached us. When we were leaving he told me it's probably because they want to make more money than just a dance and they figure if I'm with a girl I don't need to pay for a hand job.

    So we went to another club and he saw a girl he wanted a dance from and she goes "Am I dancing for you or your girl?" Then after she danced for me and told me I was so tiny it was weird because most women she danced for were usually rather manly. While my boyfriend was getting a dance another dancer came up and asked if I wanted one.

    My friend that used to dance said she preferred dancing for couples becuase she didn't like the guys that expected more than a dance and the couples usually were people who were a lot more pleasant to dance for. So I guess it depends on the club AND the dancer.

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    Default Re: Couples at a club

    In a lot of cases, the women that go to the club with their SO tend to give off the "keep the fuck away from here" vibe. After dealing with enough of those types of women, most dancers tend to just ignore all women altogether.

    That was always fine with me...I loved dancing for couple and I always made a lot of money doing it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by katwb
    I did read the above thread but I don't think it helped... Some women like to dance for couples in that thread.
    Fair enough, but even the ones who replied that they enjoy dancing for couples gave great feedback as to why couples can be ignored.

    Your original question was "Do most dancers avoid couples on purpose? Why?" and I think both threads provided feedback.

    Now if you want to know why dancers are avoiding you and your SO as a couple specifically, then no one can really know for sure. Unless someone here knows you, we can really only speculate. In general, it really just comes down to a level comfort, alternative opportunities, and historical experiences.

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    Quote Originally Posted by katwb
    We have been to many strip clubs together and I can count the times a dancer came to us on one hand.
    Maybe they were the only ones at that club who were comfortable dancing for couples.

    In my experience, dancers who are comfortable dancing for couples are in the minority. They get to control a little nitche and do very well for themselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by katwb
    .... We are a little picky with who we want to come over and pay attention to us (isn't everyone?) but we are not mean to anyone who does.

    The last time he waved over a dancer she stopped... asked us how our night was, chatted for about 30 seconds and then said "I have to go make money".... and we tipped her 5 anyway....
    Trust me you are not the only people to ever experience this. I've seen dancers avoid other customers for one reason or another as well.

    See the ones you wave over may happen to be the ones who are not comfortable with couples. Yeah it sucks, but sometimes it happens. Hopefully you will find dancers or another club that is more couple friendly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by katwb
    Okay... don't laugh... but we think we might be too hot. We are both very easy on the eyes. Do you think this might have something to do with it?
    Just giving an honest response. Please don't get offended, but IMHO, no.
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    Quote Originally Posted by katwb
    Okay... don't laugh... but we think we might be too hot. We are both very easy on the eyes. Do you think this might have something to do with it?


    Well for us to answer that question why dont you post a pic of u and your girlfriend hehe!

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    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung
    Maybe they were the only ones at that club who were comfortable dancing for couples.

    In my experience, dancers who are comfortable dancing for couples are in the minority. They get to control a little nitche and do very well for themselves.
    I agree with that. I *love* dancing for couples because I can usually make both of them feel comfortable. Of course, if the woman is putting off vibes that says she doesn't want to be there, then it is hard to work it right, but in general I love doing couples. I notice a lot of the girls at my club don't, so I just get to capitalize on their unwillingness to do it.

    Several other posts here already explain some of the reasons why, though, so I don't need to elaborate any further I don't think.
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    Quote Originally Posted by siliconedoll
    Well for us to answer that question why dont you post a pic of u and your girlfriend hehe!
    LOL...check out the pink ribbon in profile. Katwb is the girlfriend. heh.

    (Don't worry. I made the same mistake too and had to re-edit my first post accordingly.)
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    haha im so dumb have only just worked out that whole blue ribbon pink ribbon thing!!

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    Thanks for the thoughts. I can imagine that most women can't understand why I enjoy going to clubs with me SO. Most dancers probably think the same thing. I was just frustrated because it would be nice for more dancers to pay attention to us. I suppose we will just have to flag dancers down and hope they get the idea because I think wearing a sign that says "please dance for us" is a little over the top

    Quote Originally Posted by Blueyez
    Several other posts here already explain some of the reasons why, though, so I don't need to elaborate any further I don't think.
    To bad you aren't closer to us blueyez because I think we are on the same page

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    For the past few weekends, I've danced for quite a few couples and girls (first time ever actually, they all kinda came at once). One of the girls I danced for was SUCH a cutie and she was totally into the dance (I love it when that happens!)

    The only problem I had with one couple was that I was stuck in my costume and couldn't get out! It was so embarrassing...

    Anyway, back on the point, I have no problems dancing for them. They were all very lovely and I would do it again. As for asking them, well, if you don't ask, you don't get (and this is the money we're talking about, some couples can be very generous as I experienced).
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    Quote Originally Posted by katwb
    Okay... don't laugh... but we think we might be too hot. We are both very easy on the eyes. Do you think this might have something to do with it?
    Actually, I do think that could be a factor, especially if you dress up for the evening. If I saw an attractive woman in a sexy dress or top (and usually the top is all I can see with the tablecloths and low light), I'd likely think you were another dancer, and of course interrupting another dancer's business is a no-no. There's new faces in this business all the time--I think just about every shift there's at least one dancer I'd never seen before.

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    i avoid couples because i feel as though the guy expects me to rub and kiss all over the women, i just can't deal with that.it's just not worth it for me.

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    I avoid couples. I have thought about talking to them, but as I walk by I look at the female's face and normally she looks pissed or uncomfortable. I might sit down with a couple one of these days just to see how bad it is. I did do a dance for a girl once, but she was w/ a bunch of guy/girl friends and they bought the dance for her w/out her knowing so it was fun.

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    I love couples!

    Not long ago I had a gentleman bring in his wife for their wedding anniversary. I think I did a good 20 dances for her while he just sat back and watched. Had a great time overall!



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    Quote Originally Posted by ShannonChicago
    I avoid couples. I have thought about talking to them, but as I walk by I look at the female's face and normally she looks pissed or uncomfortable. I might sit down with a couple one of these days just to see how bad it is. I did do a dance for a girl once, but she was w/ a bunch of guy/girl friends and they bought the dance for her w/out her knowing so it was fun.
    Lol.. this one frustrates us too. We were at a club last weekend and we were sitting right next to a small group of guys and one girl. She ended up getting three table dances and one vip. Everyone kept going around us as usual. Now, I am sure that her male friends were pulling over dancers every chance they got... but it is still a little frustrating.

    The same night we had asked a dancer to come dance for us (one of the dancers that danced for her) and well... we got tired and left before she remembered to come over.

    Maybe I should hire two guys to sit with us? lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ShannonChicago
    I look at the female's face and normally she looks pissed or uncomfortable.
    I just read this again. Maybe they looked pissed cause they aren't getting any dances?

    I am sure I don't look pissed or uncomfortable. Well... maybe by the end of the night.... I was kinda pissed last weekend when that chick was getting all the attention... sigh.

    But in general I have a great time.

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    I used to like dancing for couples, but lately it seems like every woman I dance for tries to finger-fuck me or ask me to do a three-some with her husband. Or they try to lick my nipples, or whatever.....bleh.

    Some chicks are really cool about it though, and then it's better than dancing for men. I will always approach couples, but you have to understand that many dancers don't simply because couples are less likely to buy dances, or more importantly, become regulars.

    I do enjoy dancing for hot girls though, can't complain about that at all.
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    Are no dancers approaching or just the ones you don't want? I noticed that you said you are picky. I personally would love to dance for couples/women but it seems like I'm not their type, even though I alwys approach them. I dance for a guy and his wife once and it didn't end up going so well since I found out on their next visit that it was the husbands idea and the wife was pissed and jealous. When i've gone to clubs as a customer usually only a couple dancers will approach me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkkitten
    Are no dancers approaching or just the ones you don't want? I noticed that you said you are picky. I personally would love to dance for couples/women but it seems like I'm not their type, even though I alwys approach them. I dance for a guy and his wife once and it didn't end up going so well since I found out on their next visit that it was the husbands idea and the wife was pissed and jealous. When i've gone to clubs as a customer usually only a couple dancers will approach me.
    There are 4 clubs in the area the we go to. At 3 of the clubs we have never had anyone come over to us. At the 4th club 2 of the girls don't seem to mind dancing for couples... but of course that place is a 40 minute drive.

    We think we understand the complexity of the situation. It is just a little frustrating. When I was dancing I would always wonder if the girl realy wanted to be there. I danced for couples... and as you have all said, i got hit on, asked for threesomes, etc. But they paid good money and had fun so it wasn't a big deal.

    We understand it is a fantasy. We understand that the girls aren't intrested in either of us. But how the hell would they know that? The reality of it is the most of the men that go to clubs are jerks and sometimes these jerks drag thier SOs to the clubs.

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