It's interesting how that nomarriages.com showed up under one thread and I was listening to the BBC Channel 4 just now about how in the US men are really victimized by the system when it comes to divorce.
They had the story about one fella who is living in a garage while the ex continues to get better and better housing based on child support. He's a carpenter and has paid out over a quarter of a million dollars in child support already. The wife took care of the money before the divorce and actually made the recommendations on payments cuz he just didn't know and didn't get a lawyer to look over what she said he earned. She was all smiles and friendly then.
There was another story about a guy who was paying a bunch of money and then lost his job. As they pointed out, a family would simply tighten their belt. But since it was a judgement - there was no choice about it - you pay it or face the consequences. He ended up facing the consequences of loosing his driver's license, contractor's license, and had his new wife's bank account cleared out by the system!
So here is is expected to pay this money and they take all his ability to pay it away. His wife says, since they are in a rural area with no buses or the like - he is effectively under house arrest until they come and get him again for money he can no longer earn.
The report said that it is really hard to get these payments changed because basically the courts want to be done with you once the agreement is made. Add to that, sometimes it isn't even the wife that has the choice about lowering the amounts - the court's agencies will go out and make sure the money is sent - so a deal on the side between the two parties just doesn't work.
I dated my girlfriend for three and of those three lived with her for about two years. I am sooo glad I did not marry her when she wanted to get married. She turned out to have some substance abuse problems and that would have been quite the mess for me to deal with on top of the legalities. From now on - I don't care what anyone says - any potential wife is living with me for at least two years so ALL the secrets come out.
My friend just went through a divorce. He earned practically all the money in the family. I personally heard him ask his wife that maybe she should go to school and maybe get herself some coin in the pocket in case something happens to him. She was like "there's a life insurance policy." She was this little cutie with blonde hair and was (barely) a hair dresser. His dick married her, not his head. This little hair dresser walked out of the marriage with over three hundred thousand dollars and he is struggling to keep the house.
Stories like this travel like wild fire through guys social networks and it's like - you really have to protect yourself these days from the system and women who wield it.
As a guy with personal experience explaining his life to a police officer who just questioned a drunk girl saying who -the-fuck-knows-what and having friends talk about how the system simply pounded them - I can understand how there is a little animosity between the sexes as shown in that web site.
You just don't know WHO is going to try and screw you over.



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Fucked-up-ness is an equal oppurtunity hunter it is, yep.



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