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    Default Supporting a Loved One Trying To Lose Weight

    ...when you're 98lbs soaking wet.

    My boyfriend who is actually in pretty good shape, has gained some weight around the middle due to his working 12 hours a day, as well as the lavish dinners he's always attending (I swear, he only buys his own food on weekends!!). This leaves him with little time to exercise and he has made an effort to lose weight during the last few weeks.

    I have noticed the weight gain, but really don't want to say "yes, you have gained weight" when he mentions it. I also want to be supportive, but not quite sure how to do that. My ex-husband gained a LOT of weight once we were married, so I know how easy it is to get busy and lazy and not work out or eat right. Whenever I would bring it up, he would always say that I'm skinny, so I'd never understand.

    I'd hate to see my honey go that route. What kind of support would you expect from your girl/boyfriend if you are losing weight or have struggled with it before? What should I say or not say? I only want to be encouraging, but have to admit - I don't want to go down that overweight lover road again.


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    Default Re: Supporting a Loved One Trying To Lose Weight

    Aye.. I have the same problem with my Hubby. I'm 114 lbs. He's 250. He's made comments in the past that he needs to lose weight and I never would say anything. I'd just say "Whatever you want, Hunny.", "I love you just the way you are", all that other stuff. But I've also grown pretty concerned about the weight because of health issues. His father was diagnosed with diabetes last year, so we know that runs in his family. His maternal Grandfather died of a heart attack from being overweight and clogging up those arteries with junk.

    I do my best here at home and prepare healthy lunches and dinners for him. But there are times where he still loves his junk food. He's got a major sweet tooth.

    Lately I've convinced him into taking walks with me and our daughter. Last Sunday we walked to the Zoo and back, which is a little over a mile each way. We also walked all around the Zoo of course. Just little things like that help him I believe. On his days off, I keep us all active with walks and other things because he's pretty much content with just loafing around the house. I on the other hand, have to be up and doing something during the day. Night time is my veg time.

    I've never come out and said "Hunny, I think you need to lose some weight". Instead, I just suggest that we do things (like the walks). He's been consistently going with us now. So maybe you don't need to come right out and say something, sometimes just suggestions for activities work.

    Other ways to be supportive of course, is when he mentions that he wants to work out, offer to go with him if your schedules both permit it. Biggest thing is to keep him active (for the most part, without him even noticing what you're doing. LOL).

    I'll probably think of more things. I've been with Dan a total of 5 years now (married for 3). He started gaining weight probably around our 2 year mark after changing jobs where he wasn't so active anymore. Now I'm getting a little worried because he just got a promotion to Assistant Manager, and won't be on the road for collections or deliveries. So there goes that activity for work. Then, he won't be assistant for long either--they've promised him a store very soon and they've only made him assistant so they can train him right away to manage his own store that's needing a manager right now.

    So, that's good money-wise. But health-wise, it may be a disaster. With no "exercise" at work, I'll have to do double-time here at home to make sure he gets some type of activity (other than.. <ahem>). Heh.

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    Default Re: Supporting a Loved One Trying To Lose Weight

    does he know about the new food pyrimad www.mypyramid.gov ...i dont know if this helped you solve anything ...(just a suggestion)
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