I've been reading a lot of rants on the topic of customers who don't pay for anything at clubs, and generally agree with the dancer's sentiments - its an unspoken rule for society in general - if you don't pay, you don't play.
The basic theory goes... the more you spend on a dancer, the more time she will spend with you, but strangely I often witness behavior from dancers that runs contrary to this philosophy. Sadly I've often observed poor chumps that zealously adhere to this rule tossing wads of cash onto the stage and remain companionless the entire night.
On the flip side, I have many times observed the mysterious stranger sitting for hours at an out of the way table in the back of the club, never dropping a dime for the dancers, and for some odd reason he is never lacking for company. At first I thought he is some regular or a friend of the owner that the dancers all know and are compelled to entertain. But after witnessing this phenomenon repeatedly I decided to try it myself to see what was up.
I went to a couple places I frequented and found an isolated table away from the usual traffic. I just sat there with my drink and watched the stage, but never got up to tip or talk to anyone. Eventually I was visited by nearly every dancer in the place, some would sit and talk for long periods, some would not even ask for a lap dance, and some would return repeatedly to continue talking. And I spent nothing on them. I repeated this several times. I had more social action than any of the chumps emptying their wallets on the stage and for private dances.
I believe in tipping, and I even tip $5 - $10 on top of the cost of a typical lap dance if I like the dancer. But what usually happens is that once they have gotten that lap dance its "Saya-nora Sucker!" I'm suddenly invisible and they don't even look at me the rest of the night.
I also notice that a dancer on stage will give more attention and a more explicit show to a non-tipper, than the guys with numerous bills infront of them. Basically once they get the cash, they waste no more effort on you. This doesn't happen 100 % of the time, but often enough to make me think, "WTF?".
I'm sure some dancers will take offense to this and counter that they don't work at a social club. Fair enough, but you can't blame the guys who see through your flakey psychology and take the path of least resistance for your attention. Granted once the transaction is made the dancer has no further obligation to the customer, but on the other hand, there is no sign at the entrance requiring a 2 lap dance minimum or a $20 tip minimum. The customer is not obligated to any individual dancer to hand them his money, especially when he realizes he can get more for less.



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