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    Im worried that my ex husband not liking my job might try to get full custody of my kids (its 50/50 right now, physical and legal). Can a dancer lose custody because of her job?

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    Default Re: can the ex take my kids?

    Quote Originally Posted by REDHED
    Can a dancer lose custody because of her job?
    No, in my opinion. ...unless it has a direct impact on how you are raising your kid such as always gone, or bringing guys home every week or bringing the club "business" back to your home where the kid is exposed to it. The courts are only worried about how you are raising your child in terms of quality of life, health, education, values, love, etc... , you know, the things that child protective services would look for. There are thousands of kids with stripper moms that are doing just fine.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    Default Re: can the ex take my kids?

    The legal testis whatisin the best interest of the children. If your ex proves to the court's satisfaction that your job (whatever it is) is detrimental to your children, then the judge could change custody because of that.

    That said, in most jurisdictions, being a stripper is not in itself enough to prove that you are not a good parent, are unfit, etc.

    BUT, you need to be very very careful to treat this as a job, pay taxes, work regular hours, conduct yourself appropriately at all times. I would even go so far to say that I would not drink at work, ever. Just to be sure.

    Be sure that your children are well cared for while you are at work.

    Practice explaining eloquently why you choose to dance. I know of a recent case where a woman's children were removed from her relating to her employment as a stripper. She had not done everything right (drank, did not have reliable child care, kept late hours besides working). The deal is that this woman had a college degree and had many job opportunities, but choose to dance so that she could party all the time.

    I have never heard of a case of a dancer who had it all together losing her children soley because of her occupation.

    Perhaps you could come to an agreement with your ex, so that heknows and understands about what you are doing.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: can the ex take my kids?

    Please,for your own sake,consult a lawyer.
    Yes its been done before,no it doesnt happen all the time.
    A good lawyer and what you do when your not at work will usually determine the outcome.

    Best of luck.

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    Unless he can prove that you are a really unfit mother i don't think he can take your kids away. Its very hard for a father to take away the kids from the mother.

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    Default Re: can the ex take my kids?

    I wish my boyfriend's ex would strip so she could buy a damn car to come pick her son up and bring him places and pay for things for him. I think he'd kiss her feet if she started stripping. I even joked with him that when I start I'll drag her with me to earn some $$$. Realistically she'll probably never find out I'm doing it and she's too lazy to get any kind of job.

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